@TiaWilliams104    Reading through what you have shared, it does sound like a hard situation. I would be scared to and worried if I was in your position. It is a courageous step that you are reaching out to seek support :). As sometimes its hard to share when you don't know the outcome.  I have questions about what you have shared. The first one being while you have said that your sister has been causing problems for you and your parents, are there times where that is not the case in home? and what else have you been doing to help with you self care when experiencing this issue? ... View more

Hi @Rylielloyd    I'm good. Yourself? What kind of games do you like? ... View more

Hi @TidalDecade    How are you of late? I must say I enjoyed reading your post. Like with you fav show being how I met your mother, I'm wondering which is your favourite character? Though with Brooklyn Nine Nine, I very much highly recommend you watch it. It is one of the best tv comedies you'll see. It's like scrubs (if you have seen it), but with cops instead hahah  ... View more

Hi @rosiiboo96    How are you and Welcome to the forums :D. What kind of food do enjoy the most as a foodie haha? ... View more

Hi @khanh09    Reading through what you have shared, I'm wondering if any changes have happened since then? I just want to know if things are better and you are feeling better and more safe? ... View more

Hi @scamper    Thank you for reaching out to us. I'm sorry that you are going through a rough situation. I will say that I think it is brave what you have done by bringing this up as it shows you trying to be honest about it :). Which is a great quality to have.    What was the relationship like with these two boys? I'm interested in what you have to share :) ... View more

Hey @khanh09    It does sound awful what you are going though, that you feel unfairly treated by the girlfriend who is doing this to. You have the right to feel safe, loved, and trusted around people you care about. If I was in your position, I think I'd be afraid too.    I have a couple of questions: What is the current relationships you have like? Are they one big group or separate groups? Cause I'm interested in knowing what you are currently doing to handle the situation or if there are others you feel more safe around. ... View more

@Bee That's fair :P. That's great to hear that you got to see your old manager! Always good to have a familiar face to see for support :) That is something I can empathise with. You do what you need to do :) Seize the day alright haha :D ... View more

@Jess1-RO Thank you for this :)   What does recovery mean to you?   Recovery, to me, means a never-ending process that is part of living life. While trauma and tragedy do exist and is something we have experienced both individually and collectively, so does healing and growth exist. When situations bring about anger, stress, sadness, recovery involves taking the steps and courage to journey through testing situations and coming out with a renewed sense of empowerment and perseverance. Recover is not a linear process, but rather a shared journey with others that are loved and supportive towards each other and can bring out the best in others. As there is a quote I have heard of before: “We are people, not islands”. Although I cannot remember who has said it. Much like how I have been afraid of isolation most of my life, but with others challenging me and supporting me to grow and learn new ideas and people, I found myself relieved, more hopeful, and more determined to tackle whatever life can throw at me. Is there a gif or image that represents your understanding or experience of recovery? Recovery, through healing and support. This image to me represents that recovery, as a practice, is not isolated. That in recovery, it is okay to admit when things are dark and cause anxiety and feeling like on is alone to fend for themselves. But I don't think anyone is ever truly alone. There are still people in life that are willing to support one another. And that connection is what keeps negativity at bay, and promotes healing recovery. Hope this gives somebody reassurance, a new meaning and appreciation, and more confidence about their lives and their ability to tackle life challenges in small steps :).   ... View more

@ruthxxx It does sound weird. Have you spoken to the one who has commented on your post? What other thoughts have come into your mind about this situation?  ... View more

@Bee  Your bottom GIF: 'Hulk..SMASH!!!!' :P ... View more

@Bee It does sound full on. Purposely, I wouldn't be able to a job that involved doing some level of professional banking myself hahaha. My maths is not the greatest :P. What do you reckon she can understand about your personal procedure of how do the tasks you are given?    Also, has anything new happened of late?? ... View more

@Bee  That's okay. As any amount of progress is still better than nothing :). Is that a particular procedure they do at your work? with mail and banking I mean? ... View more

@Puppies026  Hahaha, when I was a kid, I wanted that too :P For the scariest movie? Even though I have not seen it yet, only the trailer so far, I have to say 'Sinister' is the scariest  ... View more

@Bee  I am really glad that the week brought you more optimism and positivity :D! You have been going through a difficult time. But now, things do sound like they are improve more and more, which is absolutely excellent! Looking forward to hearing more about this, and I'm happy that you are feeling better about what your relationship with Gem holds. Its exciting to know, and thank you for sharing this with us!  ... View more

@Bee Lego never gets old hahaha   I was wondering how things have been of late? Anything new happen?  ... View more

@ruthxxx  I am sorry that those events have happened to you :(. It does sound pretty full on in your life at the moment. Especially when you are experiencing a lot of things that seem out of control. If you are comfortable, could you tell us more about what the school and your family are like?  ... View more

@ecla34  The way I understand this question is that you cannot tell until communication has been explored. Looking at the non-verbal and verbal cues they show. For example, I have noticed that some people they do not add value when they don't feel invited in, as they could be shy or unsure of how to approach a new set of strangers. Also, they look aware from you, slouch, or don't feel expressive, that could be an indication that they feel unsure of how to work with people in finding common ground and may be unsure of how to express it verbally.   As to tell if a group member does not care is by looking at how they communicate their attitudes to other members of the group. For example, some may talk about topics unrelated to the subject of the project, as they can give the impression they think what they do is boring. Also, they may not add input when they say 'oh I'm good with whatever' as I believe this does not show active engagement with others. This is one way I can conceptualise this.  ... View more

@WheresMySquishy @katurian  I agree with those points. They each bring a different set of experiences that one can learn and grow from.  ... View more

@ecla34  Its amazing to share that with friends in a group :D  For me? I would have to draw upon an experience in my final year in uni. I had a group assignment and everyone was contributing to their own, fairly. What made the project a great success was the final days to submit the project, when we pushed ourselves harder to clarify all points and address the necessary criteria to give the best finished project we could. Although, I wouldn't want that to happen based on chance and luck again hahaha :P   ... View more

@WheresMySquishy  I'm actually confused on a way to give an answer on this question? hahah ... View more

@katurian    I sympathise with that experience all too well hahahha. It can be frustrating wanting to have everyone available for meetings and gauge how everyone is doing.  ... View more

Next question: What is the greatest challenge you have had in a group?   https://www.ecosia.org/images?q=challenge+memes ... View more

I love how everyone is focusing on the people skills for this discussion! :D <3 ... View more

@Bee  For your question, I believe in the following skills needed: Having empathy for the wellbeing of people you are working with. Organise yourself to fit in with other peoples' schedules. If people may be unreachable due to inconsistent timetables, it will be beneficial to accomodate for them to figure out the best approach to achieve results. Having a clear direction, and planning skills that everyone can agree on how a project/task can operate :)  Having an open-mind to adapt to changing circumstances that can arise in the progress of a group task.  ... View more

Speaking of which guys, I forgot to mention that when conflicts arise, it is important to negotiate with partners on what can be done differently. If problems arise because of people feeling their strengths could be put elsewhere and valued, it could build better outcomes and relationships. A win-win I think :)   ... View more

@WheresMySquishy  I like the idea of the team leader :) Its always better to have someone who can mediate and reconcile what disputes have arisen. Especially when its someone who is like a third party  ... View more

@katurian  Here are a few ways I know to manage conflict that people can employ :)  Avoid judgement first, and allow plenty of room to clarify what everyone is experiencing individually. As people I have found to be more receptive in explaining their concerns without letting the conflict escalate to dangerous levels.  Like the above point, use 'I' language to convey personal thoughts and feelings on the process of the problem. Focus on the problem, not the person. ... View more

@ecla34 @WheresMySquishy    Yeah it is. It can be difficult to find cohesion with doing a certain number of tasks in group-related projects. Because if say I do most of everything and the others do little, it is due to me not communicating what everyone needs to do. Which can cause more stress from working with the group and can make people feel undermined in their ability to problem-solve and work together. That's from my experience.  ... View more

@ecla34  Sorry that was unintentionally my previous comment.  What strategies can be used to foster the best effort from everyone in the group? One strategy I believe is getting everyone to first mutually agree what sections and tasks they can individual they will do to complete a goal. This way everyone can avoid confusion on who does what and how much of a group assignment/task :).  ... View more