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goldilocks
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31-12-2019
03-10-2020
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03-10-2020
04:35 PM
1 Kudo
Hi @WheresMySquishy, Apologies for the delayed response. Thank You of your interesting comment! So that I have my fact straight, you have tried to make healthier choices at your heaviest but were unsuccessful at losing the weight in spite of this? Is this correct? If so, I sympathise with you, although I haven't tired my hardest at losing the weight.
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03-10-2020
04:22 PM
1 Kudo
Hi @Tay100, Apologies for the delayed response. I have had a few people like yourself suggest that I should seek medical advice from a doctor regarding my weight. I shall book an appointment with my GP now. But I am currently seeing a psychiatrist and she prescribed me with medication which I've learned through my GP does not result in much weightloss. So I am a bit annoyed.
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28-07-2020
10:42 PM
I have been trialling a cocktail of medications since mid last year and it’s done nothing but make me sleep and gain weight. This has impacted my life severely. I have had to quit university as all I do is sleep all day long and don’t have the energy to wake up and travel to and from university everyday plus study. I am slowly regaining the energy back to do things. I want to manage my weight and lose some weight but I don’t know how? I play netball twice a week and I am passionate about it and so this should help me lose weight. But if you combine this with the fact that I am trying my best to eat healthily, it isn’t working. I’ve only put on even more weight. I do have a question though, does any one who has previously been on medications to treat their mental health problems know if you can go back to your normal weight after you stop taking them (provided you gained weight and your doctor told you that you can stop taking them?) Because ideally, I would like to go back to my normal weight and fit into my old clothes again.
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24-07-2020
05:55 PM
Hi @Bre-RO, Do you happen to know of any of the names of the support groups?
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23-07-2020
09:47 PM
My mother and my father are both gamblers and alcoholics. I do not know what has brought this on. When they have been drinking they go from being really friendly and chatty to being really nasty to either one another or towards me, even when I have done nothing wrong. my father earns roughly seventy thousand dollars a year and it really disappoints me that he blows all his money on drinking, cigarettes, and gambling, when he could ideally be saving for more important things, like going on family holidays and getting the house fixed. My mother is codependent on my father and copies whatever he does. If he's drinking, she has to drink, if he's gambling, she has to gamble. My mother and father we both doing so well during isolation, since the pubs were closed. My mother in particular reported that she was very happy with having more money to spend and not having to give money to my father as he had more money for himself. I have tried expressing my concerns to both my mother and my father about their drinking and gambling problems but neither one of them are willing to change their behaviour.
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06-07-2020
07:37 PM
3 Kudos
I want to lose weight and tone my body. I have a hard time eating healthy, because when I do, I quickly resort back to eating junk food again. I've googled some low carb meals to try and tomorrow I get paid so I plan on going to the shops to buy some ingredients. I am very passionate about netball so I plan to play everyday of the week. Any sort of help would be appreciated!
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06-07-2020
07:13 PM
Hi @Tiny_leaf, I have tried talking to my care coordinator and psychiatrist about the fact that I am always so tired on antipsychotics, but they suggested that they increase the dose or to try another antipsychotic. I am glad things have worked out for you, I can only hope the same happens to me.
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06-07-2020
07:10 PM
Hi @Andrea-RO, I am feeling much better tonight knowing that I have netball to attend. But I am feeling a bit overwhelmed with Uni. I do not understand the assignment and it's been frustrating trying to get in touch with my tutor. I fear that I will fall behind and fail. I do not want this to happen. I would say that the behaviour I have witnessed from my father occurs rarely, despite being a confessed alcoholic. I am an only child. No, I have not spoken to my psychiatrist and psychotherapist about this as I haven't seen them yet. I have considered in leaving home but firstly, I can't afford to, and secondly, I am unsure if I feel ready to do as such.
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03-07-2020
11:19 PM
I am feeling depressed. I am thinking of suicide. I am too different from both my mother and my father. They are both alcoholics and they encourage me to drink and go out with them, or with my best friend and drink. She doesn't drink, but I do on occasion. I do not want to go out with my mother and father because they are nearly fifty and I am twenty-two, and all they want to do, other than drink, is go on the pokies and blow their money. My dad has a really good job and earns roughly $70 000 a year and it saddens me to see that he is bowing his money weekly on cigarettes and alcohol, when he could be saving money to go on family holidays. On Wednesday night, my mother spoke with my father about something she saw him post on Facebook. A woman known to my father and is believed to have had intercourse with multiple men commented on his profile picture, to which my father responded with an "x" and "o." Personally, I did not see what the problem was, but my mother was not impressed and expressed her concerns with my father. My father screamed at her and hurled abuse at her (after another night of drinking) and threatened to assault her, twice. He also dragged me involved by hurling abuse at me. I ended up phoning the police for assistance. The police came to our house and my father was not taken away, but a male police officer spoke with my father privately about what had happened. My father apologised to both my mother and I but it was a piss poor one. I still do not accept the apology and I do not accept his behaviour. I don't have the best relationship with my mother but I feel so bad for her. She works hard and no one helps her with anything. I am constantly sedated on my antipsychotic medication and so I can't help mum around the house as I am always asleep. Even when I do help mum around the house, it still isn't good enough for her and she will still find something else to complain about. If there is anyone I know of that is a professional complainer, it's my mother. She can never find the positives in anything, and I have had to put up with it for years. I want to move out of home although I do not feel as though I am prepared enough to do as such. I seek for positive attention from other adults, and the bus driver who I have spoken about in previous threads, is a good example of that, as he used to provide me with positive attention (such as staring at me through the review mirror on the inside and outside of his bus (depending on whether I was on his bus or sitting on a bench waiting for a bus), greeting me and farewelling me (I would be the only passenger on his bus he would do this to), using his mobile phone to take a photo of me with, and telling me that "he had always liked me but had kept it from me.") Another thing I wanted to mention is that I sent my Aunty a friendship request on Facebook to which she has ignored completely. I feel like I am not good enough for her. My family want me to have confidence in myself but they all need to make changes to their behaviour in order to see any change in me. I can't have confidence in myself if they all treat me and each other like crap all the time.
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19-06-2020
06:00 AM
I think that the person I have been romantically attracted to for four years is too close with his ex-wife. They claim to be friends, but she is ALWAYS at his house, for whatever reason. They have one child together, and I learned through Facebook that he apparently doesn't bother to see her, yet on the same token the child is at his house every fortnight. So I don't know? I am concerned that they are getting back together. I feel bad about myself because I cant't compare to her, although this man has told me that "he has always liked me but has kept it from me." But his actions are showing me that he cares more about his ex-wife than he does about me. I hate myself. I wish things were different. I wish I had the confidence to ask him out on a date all those years ago. I am not okay with him being friends with his ex-wife.
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17-06-2020
11:14 PM
1 Kudo
Good Morning or Evening. I will be sharing with you all My Story. My Story commences with the author starting at a new school and gaining the confidence to catching public transport independently, to developing a romantic interest in a divorced bus driver who initially developed the same feelings of attraction towards the author, and was hinting at the author that he was into her. The bus driver now ignores the author and the author now has a restraining order put against her, and if she goes any where near him or has any contact with him, she faces up to a maximum of two years' imprisonment. Stay Tuned.
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30-05-2020
04:59 AM
Here we go, another post about this man again. I drove past his house to find his ex wife was there. Then, I drove past his ex-wife’s house to find that his car there! She’s been at his house twice this week and even though I was told by her daughter that they’re just friends, I still believe they have feelings for one another. This makes me anxious as I have always had feelings for this man. He too admitted that he’d “always liked me but had kept it from me.” But I now think he’s lying. I don’t understand why she needs to be at his house and why he needs to be at her house in one night? They have a child together but the rumour is that he doesn’t bother to see her. This man is a bus driver and he still stares at me when he thinks I am not paying attention to my phone. He used to admire me as I was on his bus. There is a restraining order in place because I kept stalking him because I liked him and didn’t know how to convey that to him appropriately. I tried to explain this to him with no success. He also told me: “whatever medication you’re taking clearly isn’t working,” “you have more issues than previously thought,” “you’re not very clever,” and he got up in my face and screamed that I was a “retard.” He always uses his phone as he’s seated in the driver’s seat of the bus, which he isn’t allowed to do at all, and I’ve reported him time and time again for doing as such yet he gets away with it. Im sad because I want to be in this man’s life. I love him so much. He is the most attractive guy I have ever laid eyes on, and nothing will ever change that.
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06-05-2020
07:06 PM
Hi @Janine-RO, I feel very very tired today. I saw him yesterday and he was staring at me again!
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05-05-2020
12:08 AM
Hi @Tiny_leaf, Yes, I am attending court. I must have mentioned that somewhere too. My memory is bad :-(
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05-05-2020
12:01 AM
Hi @Andrea-RO and @Tiny_leaf, I find that he still stares at me as he drives past me on his bus. He does it more discreetly now, and he does it when he thinks I am not paying attention to him.
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04-05-2020
07:58 PM
So, the bus driver who I always mention in my previous posts has an intervention order against me (as previously stated), and I am wondering if it is a good idea to apologise to him and, against my will, to his family too, about the behaviour I engaged in? My lawyer thinks it's a good idea, but my psychiatrist doesn't. I think I should apologise to him, because I love him and want to mend things with him. What do you think I should do?
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04-05-2020
01:19 PM
Hi @Bre-RO, Thank You so much. Yes, I would like to brainstorm some ideas with you about how to take care of myself first. I think the reason as to why he may have blocked me is because there is an intervention order in place?
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03-05-2020
09:12 PM
Hi @Taylor-RO, Yes, this is the person that I have mentioned in previous posts. I apologise for constantly talking about him. I love him so much, but he doesn't care about me. I last experienced the staring this past week.
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03-05-2020
06:13 PM
So, he blocks me on Facebook yet he is starting to stare at me again. I am sick of these games that he plays to confuse me. What's the go?
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29-04-2020
02:50 PM
Hi @Bre-RO, Could you please explain to me what the correlation is between isolation and lack of self-confidence? I am interested to know.
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27-04-2020
12:22 PM
I have been attracted to someone for a very long time, and I think they have some sort of personality disorder or social disorder? He is attracted to me too, and finally admitted to it last year. I have tried to speak to him on multiple occasions in order to start a conversation with him, but he has simply ignored me or has not acknowledged my presence. He does this often. I spoke with a colleague of his only to find that this man sits at the lunch table alone and does not interact with anyone at his workplace. Apparently, he ignores people and doesn't acknowledge their presence when they try and communicate with them too. When I spoke to his colleague he also disclosed to me that he was more outgoing when he was slimmer, but he has since put on a lot of weight. I recall having a panic attack in front of this man a few years ago and he was genuinely kind towards me, asking if I needed an ambulance and asking if I would be okay to travel home on his bus. He asked for my age and also asked why he saw me at a particular place earlier that day. I liked the conversation we had and I wish we had more of them. I like him a lot, but nothing can be done about it now unfortunately. He has since been ignoring me. I just think his behaviour is bizarre. Why do you think he is so strange towards myself and other people? Can anyone on here relate or had a similar experience?
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02-04-2020
01:16 PM
Hi @Anzelmo, Unfortunately I wont get the explanation I deserve, as when I try to communicate with him he simply ignores me like as if I don't exist. This hurts my feelings, as I like him a lot. It makes me wonder how he communicates with his ex-wife and child, although they hardly see him, as far as I know. You wouldn't ignore them, so why ignore other people who simply want to befriend you? Well, I wanted to befriend him, but I also wanted to get to know him on a deeper level and to eventually get into a relationship with him, because I think he is attractive and worth knowing. I am attracted to his physical appearance and the fact that he keeps to himself. He is a bus driver and I used to be a regular passenger on his bus. I currently cannot board his bus as there is a restraining order in place as I had kept harassing him. See below for more details. Yes, he used to "have a thing" for me. And I want to revive that. He said to me, "I have always liked you but I have kept it from you." He used to stare at me frequently, now he ignores me completely. He made a comment under his breath on one occasion stating that he wanted to have s-x with me. I believe the reason as to why he ignores me is because I used to stalk him out of admiration and adoration and because I made threats towards him and because I placed flyers in all his neighbours' letterboxes stating that he was a bad person and that people should steer clear of him. I also made threats towards his family and smashed his iPad. I did this to regain power over him after months of being ignored by this man and having this man deny his behaviour towards me. He took a photo of me using his mobile phone and I should have confronted him on the day of when it happened. I confronted him about it months later and he denied it completely, yet his manager admitted on his behalf that he did in fact take a photo of me. I plan on apologising to him through the courts. I want to repair things with him, but I want him to own up to his behaviour.
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20-03-2020
06:03 PM
I don't understand. He goes from: - conversing with me - taking a sneaky photo of me for whatever reason - staring at me when he thinks I am not looking at him, then looking away when I do glance up at him - saying to me: "I have always liked you but I have kept it from you." To: - calling me names - telling me: "whatever medication you're taking clearly isn't working (we had a conversation once a few years back, after I had a panic attack in front of him, and he asked if I took medication for it, so he obviously remembers that I take medication) - telling me that "he now has to waste another hour of his life at the police station on me" - telling me that "you have more issues than previously thought." I just don't get it. Why is he being so cruel to me?
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19-03-2020
05:50 AM
Hi @Khajiit, I forgot to mention in my OP that he is emotionally manipulative and he gaslighted me.
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17-03-2020
07:34 PM
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Hi @WheresMySquishy Wow, really? I didn't know this. I will give that a try. Thank You for your response.
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17-03-2020
06:45 PM
Does anyone know of any mental health services, other than Kids Helpline, where you can talk to the same counsellor over and over again? I am getting fed up with speaking to all these different counsellors from the all these different services I've used. I find it to be very stressful to repeat myself over an over again, to counsellors I'll never speak to ever again.
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