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14-03-2021
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14-03-2021
09:47 AM
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@Rattata Yes ! What you can do instead is work more on your resume. This is something that I did to make me more employable. Do lots of volunteering work, help out with school events, etc. Any extracurricular activities you can do puts you ahead of other people who have not done them. Would highly recommend focusing on updated your resume if you're not getting much luck with applying for jobs.
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07-03-2021
10:33 AM
@Sophia-RO oOOoh this has a very regal look cause of the gold and purple and what I think looks to be amethyst gives it a nice unique touch!
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07-03-2021
10:03 AM
6 Kudos
@Parachute I can definitely relate. While it's nice to know that people view us as dependable, approachable, and trustworthy - I know it can be hard sometimes and even lonely. I think you should open up yourself to one of your closest friends so that you can start to get that support even though it might be uncomfortable. You could also try journaling or simply writing down how you feel and what's bothering you as a way to self-cope and regulate your emotions. Stay strong and don't forget that it's okay to take breaks from being everyone's therapist and just take a breather. You are not responsible for them in the sense that it's okay to say no to request, or show that you are uncomfortable or overwhelmed talking about things if you do feel that way. Hopefully, your friends can start to show you the same support.
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07-03-2021
09:55 AM
5 Kudos
Hi @Rattata It's definitely a difficult time right now to get employed during COVID, and I'm saying that not to dishearten you, but to remind you that the rejection doesn't always fall on you as a person . Sometimes you just weren't the fit they needed - but that doesn't mean you don't have valuable skills to offer. I encourage you to keep applying as much as you can via online applications and walking around shopping centers to get an idea of which stores may be needed new staff. Like Sophia has said - I think something valuable you can definitely do is to respond to those rejection letters along these lines: "Hi thank you for reaching back to me, I understand I was not the correct fit for the job however I'm still grateful for the interview and want to get the most out of this experience. Do you mind telling me what the other candidates had that made them more employable than me, and additionally was there anything that you as a recruiter thought that I did well, and more importantly what I could improve on from your perspective. Feedback will be greatly appreciated." This is such a good way to go about things since it shows that you still have the initiative, drive, and maturity to handle a rejection letter in the best possible way. It's good because they will tell you what you need to work on to give yourself that extra step up. You can then continue to work on yourself, your resume, and how you present yourself based on those pointers so that next time - you'll be going in more prepared and better than before. It could also land you in their good books because you didn't just shut them down after the rejection and stayed friendly - who knows they might contact you for future opportunities down the line. ! Keep your head up friend
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07-03-2021
09:44 AM
A bit late stumbling onto this thread. I never really paid much attention to it, but now I realize how beautiful, cute, and unique mugs can get. I especially like the blues on the first three, but my fav has to be the first since it reminds me of melted marshmallows for some reason.
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28-02-2021
12:03 PM
1 Kudo
@November13 ! Learning to appreciate the now, and the little is such a positive skill to have, and I'm glad you're learning to implement it more and more in your life. Your third point about making decent meals from leftovers. HOW PLEASE TEACH ME. I have been wanting to cook for a while and I have had some things I was able to do, but 90% of the time I don't have fresh ingredients. I cant get that keen to eat since it's all leftovers. Do you have any tips on how I can reuse them and freshen them up for a good meal?
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28-02-2021
12:00 PM
@StormySeas17 Makes me really happy that this thread has been healthy for you! Genuinely made me smile reading this. Also small update with my hair, I decided to stop fighting it even more and have let it grow out and I'm really liking it so far. As a guy, I am going with a more slicked-back flowy hairstyle. It's been such low maintenance since I just comb all my hair back. Love seeing more people embrace their bodies and hair - curls, frizzes, and all!
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28-02-2021
11:52 AM
@WheresMySquishy Glad you enjoy the thread. I really resonate with your 3rd point about yourself - growing old doesn't always mean growing up. What are some things that you do to connect more with your inner child? I like to watch simple but enjoyable cartoons like Avatar the Last Airbender, goof around with my SO, and just make fools of ourselves.
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28-02-2021
11:46 AM
@Bre-RO I really like your first point, need more people in our generation to not be afraid of standing up, that said - Can you share a bit about what within social justice you're passionate about or give some tips? I want to be more involved in fighting for what I believe in but I never know where to start and it's daunting to jump into protests, big meetings, and all that.
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28-02-2021
11:42 AM
Hi @MaryRO ! Being genuine means being okay with the good and the bad. It's great that you have that mentality. Because it's not about using it as an excuse to be mean or rude to people, but it's a chance to open up, build integrity, and staying resilient. Also, I like how you know when to say "no" and you're aware that it's a perfectly okay answer to give. I feel like people are hesitant to say it nowadays. Loved this contribution!
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28-02-2021
11:38 AM
1 Kudo
@celestialdreamer Glad it was able to lift up your spirit! That second point that you like about yourself is BIG. Made me think of the quote - "Courage is not the absence of fear , but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid , but he who conquers that fear" You are courageous and that is definitely something to be proud of.
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28-02-2021
11:34 AM
@Hannah-RO ! Quitting smoking is a really huge mountain for a lot of people to climb. I'm not only proud but impressed by your determination. Really happy for you! Also, admitting you are wrong is hard for people because of pride sometimes, and so when they are able to bring themselves to do it, I gain a lot of respect for them. Appreciate your contribution!
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28-02-2021
10:37 AM
1 Kudo
@Saltwaterdreamtime O: Thank you so much for what you have done for this community, and the time, energy, and support you have given countless people . It's great to know that this place changes lives and has real effects on individuals and I hope newcomers see this as a testament to this community. Wish you all the best for your future!
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28-02-2021
10:34 AM
Hi @Blurryphaced ! Just wanted to see how you were doing, and how things went. Hopefully, we get to hear from you again, would love an update !
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28-02-2021
10:32 AM
2 Kudos
Hi @wanderingwasp I hope you are feeling better, you should not have been treated in such a threatening and disrespectful way. Also, do you not see a future working with that family, or in that field of work in general. Because if it was the first and you just wanted to get away from those people, it could be worth discussing with your boss if there were other clients. However, if you just don't enjoy that work anymore after that experience, I still think it's worth opening up to your boss for some insight. To do things professionally probably also write a letter of resignation and say something along the lines of - "this line of work while has been a great experience was not suited well for what you were trying to accomplish and with the direction of your career". I hope you get through this!
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16-02-2021
02:14 PM
2 Kudos
@Kaylee-RO " If you provide positive feedback it will produce positive reactions" That is such a great way of putting it. I'm sometimes worried about coming off the wrong way suggesting things, but by focusing more on what they have done it makes it easier to support and encourage them without judging them. Thanks for the tip!
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16-02-2021
01:22 PM
3 Kudos
@hunginc The fact that you love learning is such a powerful mentality to have. I know a lot of people struggle to stay motivated for these types of things and it's great to hear that you have a healthy mindset. Do you have any tips for people like me who find it hard sometimes to enjoy learning and avoid burning out? @sunnygirl606 I'm really proud of you for healing and helping yourself recover from past experiences. That's a really big and hard step to take for some people - Continue to stay strong, stay positive, and encouraged because I believe that once this healing is done, you'll come out a much better and stronger person.
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16-02-2021
01:17 PM
3 Kudos
Thanks for showing support to yourself and to others @A_Friend and @Kaylee-RO ! It's so important to be strong within yourself and to keep pushing forward when times get tough. I'm happy you both have the resilience and spirit to support yourselves and it's great to also have the strength to sacrifice other things, for what you believe is important. Also @Kaylee-RO I love your last point. It is really comforting and encouraging to see people you know develop, grow, and build on themselves. Do you have any tips for how I might encourage people to do this without sounding mean or like I'm judging them? Keep being you!
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16-02-2021
01:09 PM
5 Kudos
Hi @ayrc_1904 and @Macaria ! Thank you for sharing things you guys love about yourselves, and they are things you should definitely be proud of ! Both of your 2nd points as well for the things you appreciate about others are really great and sort of hit similar but different points. It is really nice to see people be strong in their views and beliefs and not fold under pressure and agree with people. But even then, it's also important to still be respectful to others because even if you don't agree with someone's views or actions, you can still show respect and support for the person themself.
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14-02-2021
01:40 PM
10 Kudos
Hi guys, I know something similar like this has been done before, but I thought I'd try to bring it back and help our community muster more self-confidence, support, and self-appreciation. Let's say either 3 things we like about ourselves, or 3 things that we appreciate that other people do (can be general, or specific to someone you know). Ill do both because why not 3 things I like about me: I like the sense of humor that I have, it's not for everyone but it's for me I'm proud that I pushed myself to sacrifice some "fun" right now, for my future benefit (not going out as much or spending money, and instead of studying hard, and saving up) I like that I've come to accept my hair even though it can be dry, frizzy, and too thick (it has been compared to a birds nest before ) 3 things that I appreciate about others: I think it's really cool when people say thanks to cashiers, workers, etc. I like it when people come up and ask me for help or a question. Idk why but it makes me feel happy that they chose to ask me regardless of what it is. (idk if that's weird) I really appreciate it when people understand that life gets busy, and not being able to make it to plans isn't always being flaky or fake, but simply life as an adult can be hard and packed. If any of these apply to you, THANK YOU - you made my day! Cheering yourself or others on, and acknowledging positives that are either big or small is a very healthy habit that can improve our mental health and boost other people's morals. The smallest compliment can go a long way! tagging others to see what you guys appreciate! @celestialdreamer @clarii3105 @hunginc @Macaria @Wathan @November13 @Bingo1234 @WheresMySquishy @Hozzles @Lost_Space_Explorer5 @scared01 @Saltwaterdreamtime @musicfan_xo @Tay100 @StormySeas17@Tiny_leaf @clarii3105 @ayrc_1904 @A_Friend
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14-02-2021
11:22 AM
2 Kudos
Hi @PhoneMomma I hope you are feeling okay and more comfortable with yourself. There is nothing to be ashamed of for being that height and I'm sorry you've had bad experiences in the past for it. Height is something no one can naturally control. I'm actually a guy and I'm not that much taller than you, and I've faced some comments and criticism for my height. There were definitely times when I was a bit insecure especially since there's the expectation for guys to be tall, big, and strong. I understand that you probably feel the same with different expectations and just preference for who you want to be. In my case, I eventually learned to let go of those ideas and worked on myself on things I could change. Being a bigger person in my presence, confidence, charisma, etc. Eventually, I found my GF who is actually even shorter than me. Height is something that you cannot control, but I understand if it causes you stress and makes you upset. Aside from surgery, have you considered changing your style or fashion and maybe wearing more heels, or boots? I know they look really good on some people
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14-02-2021
11:12 AM
2 Kudos
Hi @Saltwaterdreamtime ! I am unaware of what happened and only came across this post. What I can say is that you're very mature for owning up to your mistakes and trying to make amends. Taking responsibility and learning from mistakes is something that everybody should do, but not everyone can. So for what it's worth, good on you!
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14-02-2021
11:09 AM
1 Kudo
Hi @WinterCalvino ! I have been watching a range of shows this holiday and have some recommendations from my own favorites. Since you said you enjoyed Brooklyn 99 I would recommend (both of these are on Netflix): New girl (IMO one of the best, consistently funny sitcoms with the main cast all being interesting, relatable, and hilarious) The Good place (A very strange premise of the "afterlife", but intriguing and fun show to watch) And if you're looking for more action-filled, "darker" but still fun and enjoyable shows: Game of thrones Umbrella Academy Money Heist
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14-02-2021
10:58 AM
1 Kudo
Hi @dragon3 Im sorry to hear that you've been going through a difficult time. I hope you are getting by. Stay strong and remember to be present with him as much as you can. I think it's okay to not feel like going into school or into work if you're really upset, on the other hand, they may be good distractions to keep you from feeling overwhelmed. Whatever happens, know that you gave him your best and that he was the best boy ever!
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14-02-2021
10:48 AM
Hi @indieinsanus I know this is a late reply, but I was wondering how you were feeling and if you've had any similar experiences since then. I hope you've made it through alright
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14-02-2021
10:23 AM
1 Kudo
@hunginc Im all for fun facts and trivia so I love this, although mines a tad mundain! Its a bit random but . . . I was trying to look at some pictures from a disposable camera that I got developed at a store, and was keen to see the digitized versions on this CD that they gave me. This morning I then realized at home that NON of the laptops and computers within my entire family had a CD disk bay where you could insert your disks. I feel old. TIL: Most (modern) computers and laptops nowadays don't have CD Rom Drives, meaning they can't play DVDs or open CDs anymore.
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07-02-2021
10:06 AM
1 Kudo
Hi @its_leon ! I hope you are feeling fine, and been well the past few days. As some of the others have said, watching explicit content can be healthy, but also unhealthy. In our modern-day, I do feel that it is too normalized and that wanting to stop is a very impressive goal and I hope you are supported. One thing you can do is to find a hobby or interest that will instead take up that time you would have otherwise spent watching porn. Additionally, I know that going to the gym regularly or physically exhausted yourself in other means leaves you with no time or no energy to even feel like watching porn and therefore taking away the urge, rather than fighting against it. I know this goal can be difficult to achieve especially during times of lockdown, social distancing, and spending a lot of time at home. I hope you stay strong and continue on your journey!
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07-02-2021
09:59 AM
Hi @Charlie-29-1999 Thank you for sharing your experience, and opening up about what happened before. Whether it was abuse or not, it's good that you can identify when your father was going over boundaries and being hurtful in your relationship. It's great to hear that you guys are making amends, but a reminder that apologizing does not mean as much without the following change in behavior. It's also great to hear that you are in a healthy relationship as your own, and whether your issues are or are not due to your past experiences with your dad, you can at least be aware that it might be and have more insight on how to address the struggle.
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07-02-2021
09:50 AM
1 Kudo
@Justwhatever Im so proud of you, it is such a hard thing to see that its time to move on from a friend group, and its even harder to actually go through with it and find a new network of people. Good job and I really hope that you find a circle of friends who care for you just as much as you do them. Thank you for sharing this!
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07-02-2021
09:47 AM
2 Kudos
Hi @hunginc ! I like superb Sundays more, it leaves a happier tone for the end of the week :) I felt superb about the good sleep I got last night, and the nice cup of coffee I have this morning.
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