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mrmusic
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04-12-2019
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04-12-2019
10:32 PM
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Hey @Eden1717, so I'm diagnosed with autism, so lots of elements of social interaction don't make sense to me. Sometimes I can read body language okay, but I have trouble putting a sentence together verbally - I can do it, but it takes a while! I struggle to know when to give people space and when to be there for them, that kind of thing. Reading other people's boundaries is really hard, and it really hurts when I realise that I've crossed them accidentally - because I know how distressing that can be, even for small things like asking for too much information about particular topics for example. I don't know if that answers your question, but I'm trying my best to learn and get better. It's just so damn hard.
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03-12-2019
10:30 PM
*starts a chain reaction of giggles with the rest of the community*
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03-12-2019
10:29 PM
2 Kudos
The background of the blind in my computer room! RO blue (and do not say ReachOut sticker! :p)
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03-12-2019
10:12 PM
2 Kudos
@Bee thank you for your kind words I think you are correct in that they were taken back by the question. I also realise that the question probably wasn't really okay, given that we only met in the last week. All the signs look positive between me and my friend; I apologised and they got back quickly and said that we're all good. I suppose my frustration here is that things like this keep happening. I want to be able to treat friends as friends and not anything else. I just don't understand social boundaries like other people do - and that's a problem. Maybe it's not anyone's fault per se, but that still doesn't make it okay. I'm very grateful that I'll always be accepted here on RO for who I am. But we're only an online platform at the end of the day, and I need that acceptance in real life. I think I already have it, but it's hard to see that sometimes. But I'm trying.
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03-12-2019
09:09 PM
I've have made more threads on this topic than I care to count, but things have gone to shit again. And of course it's my bad social skills that are to blame. Long story short I have made a new friend, and I asked them something which according to social norms isn't acceptable and I was told as such (in a nice way). I suppose this situation isn't anywhere near as bad as some of the others that I have experienced. But I have lost friends in the past for things like this, and I'm scared it will happen again. I have literally nobody to turn to in real life about this - because of my social skills. People generally think I'm too weird to actually want to be my friend. (RO peeps excepted of course :)) I want to try another psychologist, but I have a few trust issues to work through before I'm ready for that. It seems like I have two options - either don't make friends, or make friends and then lose them because I don't have social skills or don't respect social norms. I don't know what's worse... I'm sorry
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02-12-2019
12:28 PM
3 Kudos
Hey @Bananatime04, thanks for sharing this lovely positive message. Your hope for that "pain free day" is really inspirational. I hope you can hold onto this and read this back in those difficult times.
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01-12-2019
11:47 AM
1 Kudo
I went to a presentation on Friday where the two speakers made a point of including their pronouns! I was really impressed that we are slowly starting to move beyond binary gender assumptions. I use the pronouns he/him. :)
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01-12-2019
11:33 AM
2 Kudos
Hey @Kingfisher, welcome to RO. I want to acknowledge the hard work that you have done so far seeing a psychologist. It seems like it is helpful for you from what I’m reading. I know that I can certainly relate to this experience of wanting stable moods but not getting them! I have found this experience to be incredibly frustrating and invalidating. Are there any particular strategies that have been helping you so far? We’re here to listen.
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30-11-2019
11:02 PM
5 Kudos
Today I’m incredibly grateful for the two incredible people who supported me today when ai had a difficult conversation with them. It meant so much.
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30-11-2019
10:42 PM
3 Kudos
Dear self, It’s a real struggle at the moment, but things will get better. Building more supports is such a huge step that you should be proud of. One day, you will see the positives in yourself, but until then please remember how much people care about you and love you. sincerely, mrmusic
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10-11-2019
05:45 PM
2 Kudos
Hello @Matty D, if talking it out is helpful for you, then we are happy to support that. I'm sorry if I misunderstood your post - it appears you have strategies in place to help you deal with this, so I'm happy to hear this. We're here to listen.
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10-11-2019
05:05 PM
3 Kudos
Hi @Matty D, thank you for reaching out about this. We are always here to offer support. I'm sorry that you feel like your actions were a barrier to another user seeking help. I don't see an issue with what you did - we have a responsibility to keep the entire community safe, and bringing those posts to the attention of staff is a very important part of doing that. I do understand that you're struggling with this situation. A lot has happened in the community since those posts were made. What are some strategies you can use to help focus on the present moment a bit more? It's totally up to you, but personally I find the 5 things grounding game to be a helpful exercise when I'm worrying about situations in the past or the future. Just also giving you a quick heads up that I've edited some details out of your post, just to be on the safe side for the rest of the community (so they don't go looking for the posts). Rest assured that you didn't break any guidelines though. :)
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31-10-2019
05:17 PM
1 Kudo
Hello @StrawberryShortcake, just wanting to check in to see how things have been going for you over the past little while? Were you able to make contact with Kids Helpline? Apologies that one of your replies got eaten by our spam bot. Sometimes it gets hungry and eats random posts! :p
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