great point by @ClCl, you can definitely by angry with things you love ... View more

@Ben-RO it sounds like you're saying to do the best with what's in your control, which is all you can do!   What do you think is the difference between hate and anger? Or is there one?   Tough question! Definitely seems like there is a huge overlap, and I would guess that someone you hate would illicit anger in you pretty easily! Perhaps consider why you hate whatever it is you hate, and you'll probably find your reason also makes you angry. Hate seems more severe though ... View more

@Ben-RO aren't acceptance and rising above similar things? I feel like you need to accept in order to rise above ... View more

@RevzZ I love what you have said about getting better at not feeling angry by working at it.  By the way, you were wanting to discuss the difference between hate and anger?   @N1ghtW1ng what are these traps that you fall into? ... View more

@N1ghtW1ng perhaps you're anger is telling you to address whatever it is that is recurrently making you angry?  Alternatively, it could be a sign to find ways to rise above it? ... View more

@maggiem it can also be helpful to give yourself a time limit to be angry, and then telling yourself to move on ... View more

@maggiem while you're trying to move past punching things, I'd try hitting the bed instead.  Much less damaging to you!   What are some productive ways of expressing or coping with anger?   I think this is important but something that often gets misunderstood.  Personally, I feel like it's great to find healthy ways of coping, but I think it's not a good idea to dwell in your anger and entertain it.  If I'm just having a day where I feel angry for no concrete reason, then I just keep in mind that it'll pass, but if something is wrong then I'll address it.  In a perfect world I would also recognize when I am overreacting and would try to challenge some of my thoughts. ... View more

Hi @maggiem thanks for joining us! It sounds like your anger gets really intense and you have a tough time finding ways to calm down?  Before you hit things what do you usually try? ... View more

@RevzZ I hope that's a true fact, because if it is, it's very cool.   Well that's really interesting! I'd never considered feeling guilty over anger before (I guess we learn something new every day!).  ... View more

So @N1ghtW1ng, @redhead, and @ClCl, just clarifying that you all feel guilty for feeling mad? ... View more

I don't remember ever feeling guilty about being angry... I've definitely felt guilty about things I've done and my behaviour when I've been angry and haven't coped well enough, but never felt guilty about feeling anger ... View more

Expectations of others seem to be a common theme! ... View more

@redhead when it comes to superficial things (like appearance), I once heard someone say "those who care don't matter and those who matter don't care", which I thought was pretty neat.  ... View more

It seems like getting angry when your expectations are violated is a pretty common trigger of anger.  I really like what RevzZ said, in that anger can lead to positive action!   I would also like to add that we can answer back to anger and learn to become more resilient and let things go   What sorts of things can trigger anger?   For me, the big ones would be anything that grossly violates my morals.  Probably most angry when I see something vulnerable get attacked by a less vulnerable thing, e.g. when a politician doesn't acknowledge global warming, or bullying, etc.  ... View more

It seems like you are all really aware of how you feel when you get made, which is great! Also, @RevzZ, we've made it a question   Okay next q   What sorts of things can trigger anger? ... View more

Less intense anger for me would just be when I am irritable and in a grump and frustrated.  I won't find things funny and I'll feel a bit wound up.  Mum usually lets me know when this is the case! ... View more

Woah @RevzZ awesome question, should we make that one of tonight's upcoming talking points? ... View more

@redhead and @j95 great to have you two with us! The veterans!   It sounds like you guys feel anger pretty intensly! @j95 Do you feel better when you have something to do with your anger? ... View more

@N1ghtW1ng I'm with you! But, here we go   What does anger feel like, for you?   Intense, highly strung, reactive, aggressive ... View more

Hi @BluezCluez, thank you for posting. This sounds like a really difficult and stressful situation, and it seems like you feel betrayed and angered by your mum when she lets your brother in and you really can't stand it anymore.  Having to deal with conflict with those closest to us is really hard and it's great that you're feeling brave enough to talk about it and ask for help! Also, although i don't know what has happened within your family, I really feel for your mum, this must be pretty heartbraking for her at times.    What do you do to look after yourself when your brother is home?  Its really important that you have some ways of looking after your mental wellbeing during these times.      Its understandable that you feel like your mum is choosing between you two, but it sounds like she is doing her best to care for both of you.  Perhaps you could talk to your mum about receiving a bit more support when your brother is home?  This sheet has some tips about how to have this discussion.   Let us know how you are going       ... View more

How are you today @4everAlone?  @khaleesi_18 is spot on - these feelings are really common! (And they feel so bad!)   That being said, there is nothing wrong with being alone! What do you mean by 'fail living life on my own'?  These are some heavy thoughts to be carrying around! During times when we are feeling overwhelmed and isolated, its important to keep putting one foot in front of the other to allow ourselves a shot at enjoying future opportunities.  Stay brave and let us know how youre going buddy ... View more

Hi @Mortimer, thanks for staying in touch with us!  It sounds like you're still functioning pretty well, so it's important that you take the time to really think about what youre choosing to do right now.    Why you like to self-harm? How does it make you feel and what are some of the thoughts you have when you are doing it? What does it give you?  Who can you talk to about this?   I really encourage you to be brave and talk with someone about whats going on for you right now, and try and find alternative coping methods whilst youre still on top of things.  Self harm can make us feel better over the short term, but is dangerous and has some real long term consequences.   If you're struggling to think of other things to do next time you want to hurt yourself, we'd love it if you'd jump on here again and let us know whats up! (you could also talk to lifeline (13 11 14) or kids help line).   Let us know how youre going! ... View more