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29-08-2016
10:03 PM
great point by @ClCl, you can definitely by angry with things you love
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29-08-2016
10:01 PM
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@Ben-RO it sounds like you're saying to do the best with what's in your control, which is all you can do! What do you think is the difference between hate and anger? Or is there one? Tough question! Definitely seems like there is a huge overlap, and I would guess that someone you hate would illicit anger in you pretty easily! Perhaps consider why you hate whatever it is you hate, and you'll probably find your reason also makes you angry. Hate seems more severe though
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29-08-2016
09:48 PM
@Ben-RO aren't acceptance and rising above similar things? I feel like you need to accept in order to rise above
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29-08-2016
09:43 PM
@RevzZ I love what you have said about getting better at not feeling angry by working at it. By the way, you were wanting to discuss the difference between hate and anger? @N1ghtW1ng what are these traps that you fall into?
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29-08-2016
09:35 PM
@N1ghtW1ng perhaps you're anger is telling you to address whatever it is that is recurrently making you angry? Alternatively, it could be a sign to find ways to rise above it?
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29-08-2016
09:33 PM
@maggiem it can also be helpful to give yourself a time limit to be angry, and then telling yourself to move on
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29-08-2016
09:26 PM
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@maggiem while you're trying to move past punching things, I'd try hitting the bed instead. Much less damaging to you! What are some productive ways of expressing or coping with anger? I think this is important but something that often gets misunderstood. Personally, I feel like it's great to find healthy ways of coping, but I think it's not a good idea to dwell in your anger and entertain it. If I'm just having a day where I feel angry for no concrete reason, then I just keep in mind that it'll pass, but if something is wrong then I'll address it. In a perfect world I would also recognize when I am overreacting and would try to challenge some of my thoughts.
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29-08-2016
09:19 PM
Hi @maggiem thanks for joining us! It sounds like your anger gets really intense and you have a tough time finding ways to calm down? Before you hit things what do you usually try?
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29-08-2016
09:08 PM
@RevzZ I hope that's a true fact, because if it is, it's very cool. Well that's really interesting! I'd never considered feeling guilty over anger before (I guess we learn something new every day!).
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29-08-2016
08:58 PM
1 Kudo
So @N1ghtW1ng, @redhead, and @ClCl, just clarifying that you all feel guilty for feeling mad?
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29-08-2016
08:54 PM
I don't remember ever feeling guilty about being angry... I've definitely felt guilty about things I've done and my behaviour when I've been angry and haven't coped well enough, but never felt guilty about feeling anger
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29-08-2016
08:45 PM
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@redhead when it comes to superficial things (like appearance), I once heard someone say "those who care don't matter and those who matter don't care", which I thought was pretty neat.
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29-08-2016
08:36 PM
It seems like getting angry when your expectations are violated is a pretty common trigger of anger. I really like what RevzZ said, in that anger can lead to positive action! I would also like to add that we can answer back to anger and learn to become more resilient and let things go What sorts of things can trigger anger? For me, the big ones would be anything that grossly violates my morals. Probably most angry when I see something vulnerable get attacked by a less vulnerable thing, e.g. when a politician doesn't acknowledge global warming, or bullying, etc.
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29-08-2016
08:24 PM
1 Kudo
It seems like you are all really aware of how you feel when you get made, which is great! Also, @RevzZ, we've made it a question Okay next q What sorts of things can trigger anger?
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29-08-2016
08:18 PM
1 Kudo
Less intense anger for me would just be when I am irritable and in a grump and frustrated. I won't find things funny and I'll feel a bit wound up. Mum usually lets me know when this is the case!
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29-08-2016
08:11 PM
1 Kudo
Woah @RevzZ awesome question, should we make that one of tonight's upcoming talking points?
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29-08-2016
08:08 PM
1 Kudo
@redhead and @j95 great to have you two with us! The veterans! It sounds like you guys feel anger pretty intensly! @j95 Do you feel better when you have something to do with your anger?
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29-08-2016
08:02 PM
1 Kudo
@N1ghtW1ng I'm with you! But, here we go What does anger feel like, for you? Intense, highly strung, reactive, aggressive
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26-08-2016
11:36 AM
5 Kudos
U mad, bro?
Maybe your not, but I am. My teacher gave us homework on Friday that's due on Monday, Star Wars Episode VIII has been pushed back to December '17, and my brother ate the last bit of chocolate but left the wrapper in the cupboard... I am mad, bro! And it's important that I know how to deal with my anger better than this man pictured above, or the woman pictured below. So please, if you've ever felt annoyed, mildly peeved, or even downright furious, tell us! How did you deal with it? Any tips?
Join in Monday 29th August at 8pm AEST to talk about anger, how to deal with it, recognizing if you're angry too much, and how you can feel cool, calm, and relaxed more often.
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20-08-2016
08:46 AM
Hi @BluezCluez, thank you for posting. This sounds like a really difficult and stressful situation, and it seems like you feel betrayed and angered by your mum when she lets your brother in and you really can't stand it anymore. Having to deal with conflict with those closest to us is really hard and it's great that you're feeling brave enough to talk about it and ask for help! Also, although i don't know what has happened within your family, I really feel for your mum, this must be pretty heartbraking for her at times. What do you do to look after yourself when your brother is home? Its really important that you have some ways of looking after your mental wellbeing during these times. Its understandable that you feel like your mum is choosing between you two, but it sounds like she is doing her best to care for both of you. Perhaps you could talk to your mum about receiving a bit more support when your brother is home? This sheet has some tips about how to have this discussion. Let us know how you are going
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13-08-2016
09:07 AM
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How are you today @4everAlone? @khaleesi_18 is spot on - these feelings are really common! (And they feel so bad!) That being said, there is nothing wrong with being alone! What do you mean by 'fail living life on my own'? These are some heavy thoughts to be carrying around! During times when we are feeling overwhelmed and isolated, its important to keep putting one foot in front of the other to allow ourselves a shot at enjoying future opportunities. Stay brave and let us know how youre going buddy
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13-08-2016
08:55 AM
Hi @Mortimer, thanks for staying in touch with us! It sounds like you're still functioning pretty well, so it's important that you take the time to really think about what youre choosing to do right now. Why you like to self-harm? How does it make you feel and what are some of the thoughts you have when you are doing it? What does it give you? Who can you talk to about this? I really encourage you to be brave and talk with someone about whats going on for you right now, and try and find alternative coping methods whilst youre still on top of things. Self harm can make us feel better over the short term, but is dangerous and has some real long term consequences. If you're struggling to think of other things to do next time you want to hurt yourself, we'd love it if you'd jump on here again and let us know whats up! (you could also talk to lifeline (13 11 14) or kids help line). Let us know how youre going!
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01-08-2016
09:49 PM
1 Kudo
@Ben-RO haha that's outrageous. Is it okay to have friends of the opposite sex in a relationship? Yeah big time. If this is making one member of a relationship upset than it may highlight a trust issue and definitely worth exploring more! What do you all think?
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01-08-2016
09:42 PM
How are you @joy101, thanks for joining us! 1st post ever, congrats!
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01-08-2016
09:34 PM
1 Kudo
@j95 yeah I don't think you want to micro-manage and constantly check-in because that might seem a bit odd. It seems like you can tell where its headed based on behaviour, and I don't know what your experience is, but I've found that if you don't really like someone and they start becoming closer, it makes you really uncomfortable and it's really obvious that it's not for you.
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01-08-2016
09:26 PM
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@Ben-RO great questions! I think it's definitely okay not to, as long as you aren't taking advantage of someone and you aren't allowing yourself to be used. Got to respect ourselves and others. I don't think you always have to be open with what you are thinking/feeling, it can be a bit confronting sometimes, and it can be more helpful to try and just 'read the play' and be honest with yourself. However, it you feel like it's getting more serious, it's probably worth mentioning. What do you guys think?
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01-08-2016
09:22 PM
How is a gentle way to have this conversation, since it seems to be a pretty nervous one?
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01-08-2016
09:13 PM
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What are some of the things that make us a bit hesitant to just share what we're feeling up front? Maybe concern that the other person isn't feeling the same way and the relationships will end?
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01-08-2016
09:07 PM
haha I'm not about to start using it, but it sounds like a lot. Do you think it effects how you view people?
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