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lisashortie
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13-02-2015
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13-02-2015
12:01 AM
That's still pretty awesome of you @j95 :) it takes a lot of strength and courage to care for someone, no matter how small. I can relate to wanting/trying to be a role model, I think it comes with being the older sibling ;)
Could you explain what nbsp is? If that's okay.
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12-02-2015
11:17 PM
1 Kudo
@joshie you sound like an amazing person and so does your brother :) so sorry to hear about him though, I'm glad that you found ReachOut. I think that one of the positives about caring for someone is that you become a lot closer to the person that you're caring for. And thankyou :) us carers have to look out for each other as well.
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09-02-2015
01:23 AM
@Bee thats okay. Hmm.. I think getting schools involved would be a good start. I'm sure the support are aware of hidden carers too, I spoke to Carers Victoria the other day and one of the ladies was part of a group that represent carers on their behalf. They're working on creating a forum specifically for carers so I think they're definitely trying to reach out to them but these things can take a while, especially if they're relying on government support.
Oh you draw? That's awesome! Wish I could draw haha, are you any good?
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07-02-2015
12:31 AM
@Bee Mhmm. I think that would be a pretty good start :) that way the support that is already there may be able to get more funding too.
That's alright, what are your interests? I find music helps me (I sing and play a bit of guitar), just a matter of distracting yourself I guess and taking comfort in the fact that everyone is fighting their own battles :)
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07-02-2015
12:15 AM
@Bee yeah I get that, guys aren't usually willing to take on the caring role.
Haha I think most if not all families are dysfunctional, this is only one aspect of what goes on. Yeah, its kind of funny, as a society we like hearing about ordinary people being heroes but carers are rarely mentioned. Insight did an episode on young carers a couple of years ago and thats about the only thing I'm aware of. I did a research assignment on young carers last semester and apparently all the support is there but the issue is that young carers don't identify themselves as such..
Aww.. well you're doing what you can and at the end of the day thats what matters :) is there anything that you do to help you cope?
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06-02-2015
11:52 PM
Aww :( @Bee is it just you that looks afer her?
For sure, I come from a culture where looking after family is kind of a big thing so I guess cultural values and views has something to do with it too. Most people know someone who is a carer but they don't really talk about it or they don't know how..
It must be hard not knowing exactly what it is that she's going through, I can relate to that. Same thing with gp's, paramedics (as mentioned in OP). I think this is why more awareness about young carers is so important, in order to at least create a better sense of understanding. I know that it can be an isolating when you have to put someone else's needs before your own, so I can understand why you're stuggling :) I've struggled quite a bit too, and still am.
Haha that's happening to me too! Very strange.
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06-02-2015
11:18 PM
3 Kudos
Hey @Bee sorry to hear about your mother, I'm a little lost for words myself. It must be difficult for you to watch the woman who brought you up deteriorate in front of you...she's lucky to have you :) I think the reason why some carers don't identify with the term 'carer' is because what you're doing is just looking after a family member or close friend, which is a really personal situation.
I didn't hear about the term young carer until I was about 16, and it was kind of like 'oh so thats what it's called' but I was in high school at the time, and when people would ask me how my little sister was I kept it quiet because I didn't know how to explain it to them, I didn't even know what her condition was myself.. thats the thing I find the most frustrating, because there still seems to be a lot that I don't know about it. So in that sense I'm lost too.
Love the quote from P!nk by the way! Her lyrics are amazing. And its always lovely to meet a young carer such as yourself :)
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02-02-2015
09:41 PM
2 Kudos
@Chessica_H its definitely a learning process. I have to go for now, thanks everyone. It's so nice to know that there are so many selfless and supportive individuals out there :)
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02-02-2015
09:33 PM
Sometimes caring for someone doesn’t always work out the way we think it would. What are some difficulties that can arise when caring for someone else? I think some of the biggest things are managing time and stress, sometimes even the unexpected. I'd also say frustration and guilt.
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02-02-2015
09:30 PM
I wish I had a friend like that when I was studying @Student94 :)
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02-02-2015
09:20 PM
Do you have a family member or friend that is a young carer for someone? How do you support them? I have a friend who looks after her grandmother who has cancer and a bunch of other health problems, and even though we don't talk as often I still make sure to check on her and ask if she is okay when we do to let her know that I'm there to support her.
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02-02-2015
09:06 PM
Carers need care too! When you are feeling tired or overwhelmed, who do you go to for support? I have a very small support network (hence why I am here), if they're not available I just relax and take some time out for myself.
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02-02-2015
08:56 PM
@j95 yes I find that too, especially when I tell people that I'm a carer, it almost seems to be an automatic response..
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02-02-2015
08:53 PM
1 Kudo
@safari93 its tough when you constantly have to be on alert, but getting in the right mindset is definitely something I'm working on :)
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02-02-2015
08:49 PM
On the other hand, what are some strategies which aren’t so helpful? Victim mentality, pessimism, lashing out, stress..
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02-02-2015
08:34 PM
Caring can take a lot out of us. What strategies are there that could help us cope? It sure does, especially when its a 24/7 gig. Having time to myself and people that I can talk to has definitely helped.
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02-02-2015
08:31 PM
1 Kudo
Thats so awesome of you @j95 I think most people would avoid talking to others who have experienced loss because they don't know how to approach the situation. Your friend is lucky to have you :)
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02-02-2015
08:22 PM
@safari93 I recently talked to a friend about a dilemma she was having, even though she didn't exactly come straight to me about it.. not sure if that counts? Anyway, she wanted to talk and I listened :)
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02-02-2015
08:12 PM
1 Kudo
Thanks @Chessica_H I agree, its just as important as being kind to others, if not more. Thankyou @safari93 definitely
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02-02-2015
08:06 PM
2 Kudos
First of all I just wanted to say thank you for starting this conversation, we often forget about the invisible army that are young carers. I'm going to say myself, I decided to commit to being kinder to myself, starting with food. So I went to the supermarket and got some wholemeal bread and organic cereal to get me started :) and I smiled at a stranger on the way there, even though she didn't seem to appreciate it.
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01-02-2015
10:55 PM
1 Kudo
Sorry @blithe I'll remember that next time.
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01-02-2015
01:34 AM
1 Kudo
Hey @change, I know what you're going through, I get jealous and clingy quite easily too.. and it hasn't always been this way. You need to learn to love yourself and work on re-building a new and improved you :) the person you were is still in you somewhere, do things that you love and make you happy and slowly things will change :) best of luck and feel free to send me a private message if you ever need to :)
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30-01-2015
08:15 PM
2 Kudos
@safari93 Sweet! I'm usually busy at that time but I will definitely try to tune in. Thanks for letting me know :)
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30-01-2015
07:50 PM
Thanks @safari93 I was kind of hoping someone would mention something along those lines. I'm in Victoria, what kind of session is this? Online or?
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30-01-2015
07:49 PM
I hope they do as well @Sophie-RO I will have a look at the link tonight, thank you :) I think I will definitely be sticking around, I'd love to get to know the ReachOut community.
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30-01-2015
05:08 PM
Yes @Student94 I've read the factsheet prior to making this post. Thank you, but that is not what I am looking for. I have spoken to plenty of mental health professionals during my youth. I want to talk to and connect with people that are in a similar situation as myself, not someone from the outside looking in. Thanks anyway.
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