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bumblesheep
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12-06-2015
17-11-2017
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17-11-2017
03:36 PM
Thank you again to everyone for the support, I always find this site to be great with that :) I saw my counselor today and it was a much better appointment overall :) I walked out feeling a little sad but not offended or upset, I generally think she was better today. I have flat out told my mums family that I’m done with contacting and bonding with them (of course they all dismissed me and belittled how I felt) but I have managed to avoid contact since. I have made it bluntly clear that I only want to buy nd with my siblings and that’s it and o plan to stick to that - there is no use trying to get along with such a toxic family tbh. My emotions have been a bit chaotic lately but I’m trying to focus on the fact that my siblings are currently happy and safe from mum and that she will be going to court soon (I thought it was this week but the family lied and it seems like it’s actually another month away uuggghhh I just want her jailed). I’ll update you all if anything happens but as long as my siblings are safe I literally habe no reason to bother contacting my family. I’m trying to stay strong and positive for now :) @Dakotaa I agree that it’s important to take your own trauma and try to funnel it into something positive and helpful, I’ve been thinking of getting into some hobbies like gardening and writing again to cope but I def won’t stop keeping an eye on mum and finding out what’s happening even if I don’t like contacting my family my siblings always tell me what’s happening even when everyone else lies to me so I have their support at least :)
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08-11-2017
08:59 AM
I’ll try to make an appointment later today and I’ll see what they say thank you everyone for your continued help :)
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07-11-2017
10:38 AM
I’ve only had one session with her but she seemed a bit dismissive of my worries about the abuse of my siblings and tried to imply that I’m possibly overreacting due to my own past with abuse myself. I also kept getting the impression that she would pick out things I said I make her own conclusions about my entire situation even if it meant ignoring other facts (sorry if that doesn’t make sense it was a very strange session). I left the session feeling ignored and my worries with the abuse not being taken seriously since she kept undermining me by playing down the severity of it. She was nice and everything but of all the counselors I’ve had over the past few years she just seemed very unsympathetic and condescending. I just worry that another session might only worsen my emotions but I could still give it a try - hopefully she’ll be a bit nicer and supportive but I’m unsure
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06-11-2017
10:03 PM
It was better thanks but I still can’t get my mind off of the cps call from yesterday the conversations been replaying in my mind all day and making me feel very angry and snxious I’m gonna try to do some work tomorrow as a distraction and I might make an appointment with my counselor although I’m wary about how supportive she would be after our first meeting
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06-11-2017
05:13 PM
Next week my mothers going to court for assaulting a police officer (not for child abuse of bloody course) so I’m gonna wait until then to see the verdict of that since, if found guilty, she has been threatened with jail time in which she won’t have contact with my siblings. If this happens it’ll give me some more time to figure out what to do because to be honest I’m still super confused and emotional atm and I can’t think of a clear plan forward. I’ll see what happens in court then I’ll let you guys know what my plan might be but I’m still unsure
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05-11-2017
10:33 PM
Thank you for the advice everyone, I’m gonna decide on what to do next tomorrow since I’m still very emotional tonight, it’s very reassuring that there still seems to be other options I have because the worker today flat out said that there weren’t any organizations I could go to. I feel like more has to be done with my mother as this is a very serious and ongoing situation, I’ll try to keep you all updated but unfortunately I’m pessimistic as to whether much will happen, she’s been getting away with this for months but now with exams over I have the time to do more about it
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05-11-2017
04:41 PM
Hi guys sorry if this post seems really emotional but these last few weeks have left my mind just destroyed. My mother, due to both a long history of drugs and her own awful personality, has been physically and abusing my siblings for years. And during my last few months of trying to stop this I’ve just been horrified at how little society seems to care??? Like my entire family has done nothing and have even sided with her over me. And today I called cps about it and was treated like a dumb little child. The worker kept snickering at me when I asked questions, cobtradicted what cps told me last time, outright didn’t care about what my siblings are going through, literally said there were no other organizations or groups that I could turn to and that I just need to keep fighting this myself. I just feel so alone and sick at how little everyone cares. I’ve compketely disowned my entire family after this and I never want to call cps again. This is the absolute worst I’ve felt in years and what’s worse is that my new counselor is difficult as well. During our first meeting she continuously downplayed the situation my young siblings are in and tried to imply that my past child abuse has clouded my judgement despite the fact that she is abusing them and the police have been called on her multiple times. I just feel so alone and I can’t even turn to my counselor (who makes me doubt everything and won’t even listen to what I try to tell her) or cps (who simply won’t help or even advise me what to do). I feel so horrible and crushed and I never want to speak to any of them again sorry if this post is Ranty I just have literally no one else to talk to and my depression and anxiety have been he worst in years in just the last few days
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10-09-2015
03:07 PM
1 Kudo
@moonwalk @Sophie-RO Thank you guys so much for the support throughout all this :)
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09-09-2015
04:40 PM
3 Kudos
Hey guys, I FINALLY got through to my counsellor last night and the news was relatively good. Because she's an outside source, the school's been really secretive to her and while she herself was upset with how the school handled this, she told me that action had been taken. Unfortunetly I think this may be the end of the line for me cause I don't think I can really do that much more. The girl seems OK now and Guy has been staying away from her. I'll continue to keep an eye out for anything, but I think I've done all I realistically can. Thank you so much for all the advice, shoutouts and kindness during this really stressful ordeal. I'm glad that I came on here and I hope I've done enough for the poor girls :(
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25-08-2015
06:20 PM
Sorry guys, STILL can't through to her :( I'm gonna keep trying but it's just been so hard. I also found out something else the other day that could be important. According to the school counsellor, Guy, One and Two are all in special education classes together. She was saying that Guy's learning disability could affect the way he views consent. I know absolutely nothing about their conditions, so I really don't know what to think.
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15-08-2015
08:53 PM
1 Kudo
@Sophie-RO Thank you so much for your support and the honour :) Once I can get in touch with my counsellor I'll update you guys. Again, thank you for the support and advice everyone!
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15-08-2015
07:30 PM
I've been unable to get in contact with her since Wednesday im sorry guys ill update as soon as i can
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10-08-2015
03:45 PM
3 Kudos
Thanks for the support everyone. This week I've been busy with a Japanese exchange student staying with me and have missed lots of school. On Wednesday I'm going to call my counsellor and see how things are and I'll update you guys then. Again, thanks for all the kind words and support.
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30-07-2015
05:48 PM
1 Kudo
Firstly, thanks for the support everyone. Having you guys help me through this has really helped me through this. I managed to get on 1800-RESPECT and they helped me clear my mind of all the stress I was having and gave some advice on where to go next. They also suggested that I go to an out-of-school person, which was good since I went to see my headspace counsellor. For the first time I felt like someone (IRL) actually listened to me and agreed that this was all messed up. I must've spent about 2 hours with her going through everything and it was refreshing that someone IRL actually cared. My counsellor is a really good person who has connections to child services and the police (I dont know the specific details but I do know that she has really helped me in the past). SHe took a copy of my statement and timeline and is going to go directly to the school and talk to teachers and the counsellors. I'm really excited about her dedication to this and she said she would call me with any updates in the next week. I'm really happy because I know she'll do something about this and I kind of wish I saw her first. Anyway, I'll update again when I get some news. Unfortunately, Guy came and talked to our group but thankfully One was away. Her friends seem to be on good terms with him, which is messed up considering they know about this. Anyway, thanks guys and see you soon!
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29-07-2015
03:53 PM
1 Kudo
I'm about to go see my out-of-school headspace counsellor and Im gonna tell her about all this. @Sophie-RO, Im gonna see if I can webchat with them, thanks for the suggestion
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28-07-2015
04:36 PM
I went to the school's counsellor and I think it went alright. She changed the topic pretty quickly but did promise she would "hassle" the teachers about it. When I first left her office I was pretty miserable, but I guess it's something. I'm not 100% certain something will happen and I'm probably gonna go further with this, but she at least seemed to care. Does anyone have anymore ideas as to who I could go to because the counsellor's only at school once a week and I still need to help I think.
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27-07-2015
09:21 PM
2 Kudos
Also I forgot to add this but I've taken up @KitKat 's advice and have written a timeline of sorts of the last week. I'm taking it in tomorrow because I think it'll help explain all this. Again, thanks.
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27-07-2015
09:10 PM
Yeah, the counsellor is gonna be the next step. All this has made me feel sad more than anything. These teachers are teachers who've been able to help me in the past, so all of this is completely unbelievable. Plus, my family finds it funny and got angry when I told them I was pursuing it so Im doing this all behind their backs. Thankfully I do have some supportive friends, one even came with me to see the deputy as support. I'll update tommorrow afternoon, thank you everyone.
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27-07-2015
01:44 PM
The counsellor was away today so I went to see the deputy principle. Unfortunately it was not good enough at all. When I tried to explain Mrs Grey actions he not only constantly interrupted and doubted me, but he also waved it off with " She must've had a bad day." No joke, that was his respomse to the things she said. Then he said that he believed Guy and that since it happened last week, they cant do anything. When I reminded him that the girls reported it MINUTES after it happened, he got flustered and dodged the issue. He constantly tried to change the conversation and ignored every valid point I had. Im gonna go to the counsellor tommorrow, but I honestly just feel disgusted. AT recess Guy was leaning right over into One's face and when he left she looked upset. Im so angry I feel sick. God Im so disappointed.
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26-07-2015
09:17 PM
Thank you so much for the support, infomation and advice. I'm definetely going to the counsellor tommorow and im gonna see the deputy as well. Im also gonna start recording all the dates and everything because that could be important later on. Unfortunately One told her mum and got yelled at so she doesn't want to come forward with me :(. I dont want to embarrass her, but im really worried for her so Ive gotta tell people. And im gonna talk with my friends mum about this since i think shes dealt with this as well. I'll update if anything major happens, thank you :)
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26-07-2015
05:57 PM
Hey guys, sorry for not being on here in a while. The support I got from my previous topic was really nice, thanks to everyone who gave advice. It turns out that I've been trying to log onto the American Reachout website for the last couple days -.-.
But things have been happening at school that have really horrified me honestly. I never thought it would actually happen but I REALLY believe a teacher at my school is trying to cover up a sexual assualt case.
I know it sounds outlandish, but the circumstances all point towards a cover-up and it's really freaking me out. I swear that I'm wholey telling the truth and am not fabricating or exagerating anything, I'm just telling you guys what happened. This is a long but really horrible post.
I'll explain. Last monday two girls One and Two (to protect their identities) came to class late and upset. They sat down next to me and told me that Guy had sexually assualted One in the previous lunch. They said it had been happening for six months and that they had even avoided school to stay away from him. He had been assaulting One by grabbing her breats roughly even when One and Two told him not to. They had never told anyone else before because they were embarrassed and scarred to. Plus, they both come from really dysfunctional families and didn't want to get in trouble. It must have been pretty bad this time because they went and told the welfare teachers Mr Black and Mrs White (again, not real names). They teachers said they would deal with it and sent the girls to class.
The next day I arrived early in the morning and saw that Guy was still hanging around where One and Two sat with their friends. One was away from him but upset because he had approached her that morning. At recess i went to Mrs. Grey, a proactive and tough teacher. I explained it all to her and she said she would follow it up. SHe went and talked to Guy, but neither One or Two. I waited until Thursday to see her again. That afternoon I went and looked for the deputy principle as Guy was still hanging around us. I couldn't find him but found Mr Math who told me to write up a statement on it all.
On Wednesday I gave it to Mr Maths and he said he would give it to the deputy.
On Thursday, things got really messed up. Towards the end of the day I went to see Mrs Grey and asked her what had happened. First, she confirmed she didn't talk to the victim and then claimed that he confessed to doing it. BUT THEN INSISTED HE HAD NO IDEA IT WAS WRONG. Let this be clear, Guy is roughly 15-16 years old!!!! For six months and with the girls constantly telling him not to, he apparently had no goddamn idea it was wrong. Did I mention that he only ever did it when the girls were alone and away from others? AS BLOODY IF. I told her that he was mearly saying that to get away with it, but then she said that it was Ones fault for "hanging around him". She said that it was up to One and Guy to talk it out and that One is "a grown girl" who can handle it all by herself. One is roughly 15-16, both are students and it always happened ON SCHOOL GROUNDS AND IN SCHOOL HOURS!!!!! She ended it by saying, very angrily, :" Dont worry about it." This sounds a whole more like "Dont talk about it".
Wouldn't the school have to act - of course they would have to get invovled. Surely thats part of the rules when this is reported right?! I have a friend with a mum whose a teacher and she said they should do something, so why aren't they. Mrs Grey made it clear that it was over with AND THE BOY HAS GOTTEN OFF SCOTT FREE! I know this because in our school you miss a lunch or recess if you get a detention, yet every lunch and recess hes been out in the playground. NOONE has talked to One about it and Mrs Grey's attitude utterly disgusts me! I suspect that he hasn't had a detention because you have to write down a reason for one and if they wrote "sexual assualt", then surely the school would have to act. My question is, who do I go to next? I was hoping for the deputy but Im straight up thinking of going to the police with this because it just sounds illegal. What do you guys think I should do, cause Im the only who knows about this I have to do something!
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16-06-2015
04:48 PM
2 Kudos
Thanks guys. I have actually used eheadspace before but was having trouble with my internet and couldn't get through. Im definetly gonna try again in the future.
The head teacher was away but i managed to do the english assessment i was worried about. Not only did i do it in 40 minutes, but i also feel kinda confident about it. I just hope my english teacher likes it. Even though i struggle in english, shes been pushing me to do the hardest level of english next year. Im not sure if i will, but i hope i can improve over the rest of the year.
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16-06-2015
04:42 PM
1 Kudo
I accidently posted something before introducing myself sooo...
1. Tell us 1 random thing about you!!
I used to be terrified of crabs but now i have one as a pet.
2. What is one thing you are grateful for?
Video games. I know this sounds shallow but they're great to escape to.
3. What's 1 thing you're looking froward to?
The next school holidays and going shopping with a friend.
4. Tell us about an awkward moment that happened to you or a friend.
A friend tried to high five me infront of others and i was so shy around him back then i just slowly reached out and gently touched his hand. It was so awkward and i hate just thinking about it
5. One positive thing that happened today?
I managed to finish my English assessment in time and without an anxiety attack like last time
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14-06-2015
10:02 PM
2 Kudos
Thanks for the responses everyone. I'm actually going to see one of the head teachers tomorrow about this and I'm hoping she'll help. Also, the idea to write out my symptoms for my GP is so simple yet smart because whenever I see her I have a hard time explaining myself. I'll definitely try that and will hang around this forum more - I'm glad I came here. Thanks everyone!
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12-06-2015
08:05 PM
Hi everyone. I'm new here and have been too scared to join in the past but I think I really need to talk to someone. Ive had anxiety and depression for a few years now but have only reached out for help in the last year or so. The problem is that lately, trying to get help has made my situation worst. There this girl that im kinda friends with and when she saw me upset the other day she asked what was wrong. I opened up to her about my condition but since then shes treated me like a lost puppy and has said she wants to "fix" me. Ive been upfront with her but she sees me as a hurdle for her to conquer until i just blindly love her.
Today i tried to talk to my english teacher about my anxiety and she got angry and frustrated at me. SHe looked personally offended that i was struggling and just kicked me out of class.
Theres lots of other examples, but i just wonder what else will help beside trying to get help cause its only worsened things and its made me feel pathetic. Its made it really hard for me to talk about what im going through because it just upsets and annoys everyone. Thanks
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