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Ben-RO
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20-12-2017
10:36 AM
7 Kudos
I am going to miss you all lots and lots. I'm definitely channelling Winnie the Pooh right now.
Thank you again to all of you for making this community so great.
We're going to need all the help we can get in the next year as it gets bigger. Look after the new Community Manager and the new Community Coordinators when they get here and be patient with RO as they work hard to help out on the community as much as they can over the next couple of months. We'll do our best, as always!
You are responsible for making this community a great space for others to come. Your actions, words and support define what kind of space this will be. So keep up the good work of looking after yourselves and each other. You got this :)
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20-12-2017
10:10 AM
Not everything we decide to do works out for us @j95 it doesn't make it any less worth doing. Mistakes are the biggest most useful teacher's we have. We can only learn from them if we take ownership of them though.
There's this thing called shame though that gets in the way of that, it's this short circuit that happens in our head that makes us think that what we did says something about us or our self worth. When shame happens we feel like we've done something bad or that we are bad ourselves. But that's a matter of perspective.
Does wanting to be free of medications and the side effects make us a bad person? Does feeling angry or hurt because of past trauma? How about having the courage and grit to keep going and working on something even though it's tough?
I reckon you could look at this from a different angle. I don't think you need to feel shame for trying something important to you. You should feel pride in that. Now it's time to reflect on what's next. What can you learn from this? What's the next step? Maybe it's meds, maybe it's a different type of meds, OR maybe you're not at the point where you can start tackling the things you're feeling that made you need to take meds.
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20-12-2017
07:29 AM
Also just to let you know, i edited your post heading, just to give people a heads up about the conversation so that they can make sure they're in a good space to talk through this with you.
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20-12-2017
07:28 AM
Hey @Chloe_027 thank you for having the courage to share this incredibly tough experience that you have survived. I can't imagine how hard it was for you. There's no easy answer to the questions you're asking here. Ultimately it's got to be your decision about what you're ready to share and when. It's definitely okay, and even important to take your time about this, and make sure you're in a good space with this first.
There's lots of support out there that can help you decide what to say and when. I think a good place to start is with a service that can give you some more one on one support check out some of the services that you can find via Rape and Domestic Violence Services. Australia. They're a good place to start because they know lots about the kind of support you need now and are okay with taking things slow and exploring when you're ready.
There are also people on this forum who have survived sexual assaults. Perhaps they will come here to share what they have learned from their own experiences although they might take a little time as they'll make sure they're in the right space to share first.
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19-12-2017
07:13 PM
Do you know much about Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander culture? Can you share something you already know?
I know a bit, not a lot, but I try and learn a bit more every where I go about the people who's land I'm walking on. I'm currently learning about the Legend if the dessert pea and how it relates to Aboriginal or Torres Strait Island warriors in many nations...or the legends... because there's a few of them.
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19-12-2017
04:14 PM
1 Kudo
I'll see what i can do, need to find someone with access to the RO facebook !
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19-12-2017
03:21 PM
1 Kudo
I'll definitely pop on and say hello, i might not be able to be there for the whole night because my Partner is sick. But i'll definitely also have a big read tomorrow and share the hell out of this thread :)
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19-12-2017
12:43 PM
2 Kudos
Hey you guys! It's back on tonight !!! WOOO @redhead @j95 @Asche @Birdeye @j_ @letitgo @May_ @RevzZ @stonepixie@Autumn23 @Chessca_H @lokifish @N1ghtW1ng @safari93@basketofmonkeys @Bee @Esperanza67 @honky @Mayaa99 @missep@Sarah7714 @sweet_baking @T4ils @ErinsAntics @Amy9 @amywells21@FootyFan26 @jasper1994 @Karinaskii @Mila28 @rose13 @roseisnotaplant@scared01 @SkyIsTheLimit @Winter_Rain @-pringles- @acneinface@alibrandayy17 @astrogirl @Bear123 @bestpro @Brendos94 @chaves1@chrisberrios @Cloud @drhalloween @DruidChild @friction @frnkiero@HiggyWiggy @ILAUVEDEN @Infusion @Jaz294 @JosephineMaie @kurtwen@LaLuna @leomcd @less123321 @lmrxocmb @Luiza @MaddyPotato @Matty D@melz @MemphisBelle @needscnescar @Nymeria @ramz @sernyuy@Titanic777 @TiuteJacinta @tomsan @tr_editin @trashconverters @Viridae@westwood20 @Dakotaa
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18-12-2017
10:04 PM
4 Kudos
It's been so good @FootyFan26 and thank you coming to almost every single one! I've had so much fun with you over the years and i am so grateful for all that amazing time.
Same goes for all of you! It's been so nice to pop in and say hello! I'm going to miss doing this every monday night quite a bit!
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18-12-2017
09:32 PM
5 Kudos
Thank you all for coming tonight! Merry Holidays, Hanukah, Chistmas, Cricketmas, or Festivus to you all!
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18-12-2017
08:40 PM
3 Kudos
It's more like Cricketmas for you isn't it @redhead :P
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18-12-2017
08:39 PM
1 Kudo
It depends. but Hannukah is one!
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18-12-2017
07:43 PM
2 Kudos
I don't know @roseisnotaplant it's hard to tell if @redhead likes Cricket.
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18-12-2017
07:34 PM
1 Kudo
Yaaay Christmas! I like Christmas :)
I do lots of nice things, like go hang out at the Wayside Chapel where about a bajillion people have a Christmas lunch :)
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18-12-2017
07:17 PM
1 Kudo
Here! Last GR! :o
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18-12-2017
04:56 PM
Hi @Andreana26,
We have cleaned through the forums. your username will stop popping up on bing in the next few days, sooner maybe, unfortunately the search engines take a little while to catch up!
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18-12-2017
03:24 PM
10 Kudos
Sometimes we get pretty stuck in a spiral of negative self talk... we might think or say things like "I don't have any friends" or " I won't pass my exam". There's a magic word that you can use to start to challenge these thoughts.The word is:
Yet
Sometimes the way things are feels like the way things always will be. That's just not true though. We're constantly changing and growing, sometimes slowly, sometimes quickly and generally we grow in directions and ways we never really expected.
Adding "Yet" to the end of the sentence can sometimes help you remember there's always another way, another angle or another chance to make the most of things.
Try it next time you're feeling down and share it here.
For example:
I can't stay focused at work
becomes
I can't stay focused at work, yet!
Pretty easy right? It will help, promise.
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18-12-2017
02:17 PM
Ah that's good that they will let you know, well, better anyway.
What's something nice you're doing for yourself today?
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18-12-2017
10:06 AM
Okay well, as always i encourage you to focus on the things you need to look after yourself :)
Are you in hospital still?
Remember that we've got some limits here, so we need you to connect up with the people around you too. Let us know how you're getting on
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15-12-2017
09:53 AM
Hey @DruidChild I hope today is looking a Little better and that you're getting that support. Also hope it's not too hot where you are!
We're all thinking of you and here for you :)
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15-12-2017
08:33 AM
1 Kudo
Hey @michaelscott34! Welcome to RO!
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14-12-2017
01:42 PM
1 Kudo
YAY FOR SLEEEP! Hope you get some good answers today @redhead
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14-12-2017
01:42 PM
1 Kudo
Oh no @DruidChild it sounds like things are really hard right now :(
Seems like you're feeling that intense loneliness that you find so hard at the moment and that the people who touch in with you to help with that aren't replying yet. I feel like i can feel how hard that is coming through the page... which is weird of me to say, but yeah.
I think when it's this hard it's time to just have a chat to someone. I think you should open up a chat with KHL. We'll be here too. Let us know how you go!
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