I hope everything goes okay @scared01  ... View more

That's good to hear @scared01 :)  ... View more

Thanks @scared01! I think it should be okay, I'm fairly confident in the topic.    How are you feeling about not having much on tomorrow? I know that can be hard for you and bring up those trapped/suffocated feelings  Maybe you could make a day plan for tomorrow with the stuff you need to do and some fun/relaxing things? :)  ... View more

I have an exam tomorrow @scared01, it's about different musculoskeletal and gastrointestinal disorders.  How about you? :)  ... View more

Haha I understand that feeling but no it was totally fine @scared01 :)  ... View more

How are you doing today @scared01?  ... View more

No no @scared01 what you said was actually really helpful and I appreciated it! I didn't feel that it was minimising at all! I was just busy making dinner at the time so couldn't reply - it's all good  ... View more

@less123321 I checked out power and it's definitely very uplifting and inspiring, I can see why you love them so much!! Girl power songs are the best  Hmm MCR can be hard to get into at first but maybe The Light Behind Your Eyes or The Kids From Yesterday?    @letitgo ahh I love both of those! I think my fave Paramore song is Misguided Ghosts. What do you think of Florence and the Machine's new album?  ... View more

Thanks so much @letitgo I tend to get very interested in things and investigate them reasonably in depth so I know a lot about some random things lol.  Same! I don't really see why a romantic partner has to be more important than other relationships. I think there is so much healthy variety in how people experience love anyway.  ... View more

Hey @scared01 it's all good! Luckily I was able to see my counsellor today which was helpful. Tonight I'm a bit anxious because it's raining really really heavily and it's making me worry a lot and feel really sad for any cats that are caught outside :( But other than that things are okay.  ... View more

Good on you for knowing what you need @scared01  Happy to chat later when you log back on.  ... View more

I think I did read it @N1ghtW1ng, but it's really only the name I remember now!    That's exciting, although I can see how nerve wracking it must feel!! Plus I'm glad that you get to hang out with your best friend again soon.  You're taking some big steps to really be yourself and be accepted as yourself lately, you should be super proud of yourself  Do you have an idea of what you want to say to your friend when you have this convo?  ... View more

Robot limbs would legit me sooo much easier @N1ghtW1ng    @scared01 I can empathise with that feeling of being trapped or suffocated, it can be so overwhelming and exhausting. I wondered if you'd ever spoken with your family or maybe with carers associations about the possibility of getting respite care for your pop? I imagine caring full time would be exhausting, maybe there's a possibility of getting a break?    Would it help to take a longer term view? Things are very frustrating right now, however you're making some big steps to change things - like trying to get back into study. This time in a few months things could be really different and much more stimulating.      ... View more

Oops sorry @scared01, only just saw your post about feeling over self caring! I'll try to think of some suggestions other than that  ... View more

That really sucks @scared01, so much is going for you and it must be really difficult to cope with the pain AND the mess AND your family's stuff.  I agree with @N1ghtW1ng that trying to make some time for self care (maybe getting a little break from your pop if possible, I know it might not be) might be helpful today.  ... View more

That's fair enough, it sounds like you've put a lot of thought into this @N1ghtW1ng :) That's awesome! I hope everyone at the meeting is really supportive, I'm sure they will be.  Haha no don't feel like a dork, fictional characters can be huge sources of inspiration! My name wasn't even inspired by a character, just by a book cover I saw when I was 14, so names really can come from anywhere!  ... View more

Hey @scared01, that sounds like an extremely frustrating and upsetting situation :( Sometimes family can be very insensitive an infuriating; I can see how hard you're trying to help everyone and how little you're getting back.    Do you have any pain meds or ice or anything for your hand? It sounds painful.  ... View more

Thank you so much @N1ghtW1ng, that really means a lot :)  ... View more

Yeah it is so frustrating @N1ghtW1ng! I hear you.    That's really cool about your name!! It's great to hear that hearing it at the fair made you happy  I've changed my name socially in a few places and it can be tricky imo but worth it. I got a few questions and a lot of 'looks' and a lot of confusion. Adjusting to hearing a different name can cause some anxiety as well, just so you know, so if it doesn't feel perfect at first don't worry too much! But for me it was definitely worth it and I'm hoping to change it in some other contexts soon too.  And it's also awesome that you have some people who'll be supportive and help you decide/change your name! :)  ... View more

Hey @ILikeCake! Everyone's been giving some awesome support and suggestions - how are you feeling about reaching out to Kids Helpline or eheadspace?    You are definitely not high maintanence or whiny - OCD is a really tough illness to live with and I can empathise with that. It's 110% okay to ask for support, that's what the forums are here for! You have no idea how many threads I've started asking for support and advice since I've been here, it's a lot    Just wanted to say also, it's okay not to want to do something sexual. It doesn't matter what it is, or why you don't want to, or how much other people like it. You have a right to say no. You don't need to justify that or have a 'good enough' reason. You don't want to give/receive oral sex, so you don't have to, and nobody should pressure you or force you into doing that.  And honestly - as a semi-adult (I'm 20 so I feel like I only kinda count  ) sex is just not as big a deal as it seems. Lots of people are uncomfortable with certain sex acts or sex altogether, and lots more people are willing to be patient or to communicate about these things. You're loveable. This doesn't make you unloveable. People will still care for you and have close relationships/friendships/etc with you.    You mentioned feeling anxious and sad after seeing sexual things on tv etc, so I wondered if this ReachOut infographic could help? https://au.reachout.com/articles/dealing-with-disturbing-videos   We're here for you @ILikeCake  I hope your psych appointment goes well...Japan sounds awesome, what are you most looking forward to about your trip? :) ... View more

How did you go with getting some sleep last night @scared01? How are things today?  ... View more

Hey @scared01 surviving! Idk I have a lot in my head and it's confusing and painful. I'm really hoping nothing happens to postpone my counselling session tomorrow because I really need to talk about stuff tbh.    How are you doing?  ... View more

Ah thank you so much for giving such a comprehensive explanation @N1ghtW1ng, I understand a lot better now! (And I agree, words are not easy  )   It's so awesome that you have such a strong and enjoyable special interest!! Maybe you should start a thread to tell us all about your fave things about Ninjago? :)    I have to say I can relate to a lot of what you said. Idk what that means haha.    ... View more

Thank you so much for taking the time to make that post @mrmusic  You're obviously a very kind and caring person as well! :)  I'm busy rn but I'll come back to your task later on; I can see how it could be helpful.  ... View more

I'm sorry that you can relate @mrmusic, but thank you. Yep I should see my counsellor tomorrow. ... View more

I hope you sleep tonight @scared01, maybe the tea will help?  Ah that's okay, thanks though  ... View more

Hm, sometimes just making it through the night and then sleeping is the best thing @scared01. Is there anything I can say/do that would help?  I'm a having a bit of a rough night too but I'm okay right now :)  ... View more

Fair enough @scared01. That sounds good, I hope the TV/warmth/tea is helping    ... View more

That's understandable @scared01, sometimes art is really hard and confronting. You sound quite down tonight - do you think it would help to reach out to a helpline like KHL or SCBS?  What about a comforting or relaxing activity, like a hot shower or a drive or TV show?  ... View more

Is there anything that would help you to feel more empowered and worth something right now @scared01? I know you have some really important caring roles in your life, but you're an important and valuable person beyond those roles. I understand that it's difficult to feel that, though. I think that one (of many!) awesome thing about you is how creative you are, with art and poetry!  ... View more