Hey @DruidChild Thank you for letting me know. Don't worry about the counsellor judging you, there's such an intense level of training and self-work for counsellors, a good practitioner will not judge. It's very important you have a voice in this narrative. Does your counsellor know you feel this way? I am logging off soon but look forward to hearing from you. ... View more

@Aaliyah_xxz it's okay we understand that's how you feel and it is definitely not a nice way to feel - you use the word should. Do you feel you are not deserving of happiness? We are all here to listen.  ... View more

Hey @DruidChild are you seeing a therapist about this grief with your friend? You are not alone in this feeling, I feel like I could therapist could honour the grief and process what is underneath it . Do you need medical attention for your self harm? ... View more

@scared01 did something happen with family? ... View more

Hey there @Jesssister2001 it's a totally normal question and all very normal fears and concerns at sixteen :) I reflect back on high school the weird transition at this age when peers start focusing on sex. Sex is a money maker in the media, and it is focused on a lot amongst peer groups in terms of validation and desirability - even sometimes in adulthood. However sex is a subjective experience, an intimate experience - and what is important is that you feel safe, connected and comfortable with the person. I think all your values of having a family are beautiful, and will all make more sense as you journey through life. We have an awesome article here on this  :)   I will also tag some members to assist too.    @lokifish @scared01 @ErinsAntics @Esperanza67 ... View more

Hey @Eden1717 sending you an email ... View more

@scared01 one of the hardest notions to come to terms with is knowing that the problem lies with them, and not you. Truly. I know it's hard to understand. I am a total outcast re:  my family so I feel your pain on this one, it takes years sometimes to realise it is a blessing to disengage from them. It's painful though, we're here to listen all the way ... View more

super good advice @scared01 :D  ... View more

Hey @keezeik it's super understandable to have these feelings after what happened, thank you for opening up to us about this we definitely are here to listen and provide peer support. There are many strategies to get you back comfortable with the bike - from breathing exercises, to sitting on the bike seat on the concrete without riding, to talking it out with a counsellor to see if you can unpack the fear itself.   KHL are a really good service you could talk to about this free and confidentially on 1800 55 1800.   We're all here to listen too. Will tag some community members.   @Bee @ErinsAntics @DruidChild @lokifish @N1ghtW1ng ... View more

Oh wow @maddymoo0945 that sounds pretty exhausting, we are all so glad to hear you're okay now. What are you up to tonight, anything in the way of self-care? What do you like to do in your downtime? ... View more

Hey @scared01 we're all here to listen , the floor is yours. ... View more

Hi @person332 have you ever spoken to KHL before? they are a really good service and they can help you with some of these fears, sit with you in the moment and provide you with referrals if you need. Their number is 1800 55 1800. Would you give them a  go? ... View more

Hey @PyrrhaMortimer break ups are so incredibly painful and visceral, this doesn't provide a lot of comfort right now but everything you're feeling is totally real and normal. Remember those memories are important and holding out hope for love is a beautiful quality. Are you guys still talking at all? Or is it completely no contact? I will tag some other members too :)     @Bee @ErinsAntics @N1ghtW1ng ... View more

We are here to listen @Jesssister2001  Am I right that most of your pain, your internalised sadness is a result of comparing yourself to your sister? Has this always been the case if so?  ... View more

Hi @Jesssister2001 don't be sorry we're all here to listen, no judgement.   First up I need to check in on the self-harm, do you need medical attention? Do you have a plan to end your life? I definitely want to get the community gathered in this thread to provide you with peer support but need to check on your safety first ... View more

Hey @N1ghtW1ng don't be sorry you're totally allowed to vent and get this pain and frustration out, we are all here to listen no judgement. In terms of being different, you're right it can be isolating. It can be painful. It also can be life changing and empowering. It's interesting you brought this post up today I just listened to this podcast episode today summarising all of these notions. If it eases your pain a bit, I also get really down on myself throughout parts of the uni trimester, it has a magical way of highlighting our insecurities I am going to tag some other members to offer their views too.   @scared01 @Bee @mrmusic @lokifish ... View more

You are a strong beautiful soul @letitgo thank you for sharing, we acknowledge it alongside you :) ... View more

Hey there @person332 could you talk to your clinic about getting a second opinion, seeing another GP? This sounds very distressing for you, we're here to listen if you need to unpack it a bit with your peers here at ReachOut. ... View more

Oh wow @DruidChild the black eyeliner and lipstick sounds amazing :)   Your friend and the pain, I think it's good to honour that grief.  I also note a lot of the accountability lands on you. Just remember all friendships require two people to engage and participate. Sometimes when we lose someone, we tend to put all the focus on them and allow them to hold power. I hope one day you commit to yourself throughout this process, and acknowledge your incredible traits within the friendship. We're all here to listen along the way ... View more

Hey @DruidChild That is a lot on, so it's totally okay to feel the pain you're feeling. It's your body and mind reacting to a lot of external energy - you're not alone with some of these feelings. I can imagine your friend being absent is also hugely painful. Feel free to say to us what you would like to say to her, if you find it helpful at all? I have a lot of compassion for the grief you're going through. I am stoked to hear about the lovely eye liner :)  ... View more

Hey @Blurryphaced, this is really heavy and painful. I know you mentioned it was not in the context or tone he intended, but regardless it is understandable this is a big trigger :( Are you able to stay safe? Do you need some support from a helpline to talk to a counsellor confidentially?   Also I edited out some of the graphic method due to our community guidelines.   We're here to listen too ... View more

Hey @curiousitystrike welcome to the forums, just quickly wanting to check in on your age? This forum is designed for 14-25 year olds so just confirming you're within that bracket :)   Secondly, sexuality is a spectrum - meaning it's not always set in stone and black and white. If she has approached you genuinely and confessed some feelings for you then it sounds like she meant it. Regardless of sexuality, we're always at risk when we enter into relationships of being hurt. I understand your concerns, perhaps you should openly talk to her about it and without judgement? She may be experiencing a lot of conflicting feelings around her sexuality so definitely a very gentle conversation.  ... View more

Hey @Eden1717 I hear what you're saying. Sounds like you're emotionally exhausted, my heart goes out to  you. You are incredibly strong and we're all backing you all the way. I am logging off but remember if you need them, there's SCBS (1300 659 467) or 000. ... View more

Hey @Eden1717 I could be remembering incorrectly, but didn't you and your Psych have a pretty good relationship? Is there any reason you feel he cannot help and advocate for you re: hospital? ... View more

Hey @YourName, thanks so much for posting - I really appreciate your honesty and rawness, you're a very talented writer.   The metaphor around quick sand is familiar to many of us. You've been through a lot of huge challenges here, and I hope you know you're absolutely not alone in the journey even though it might feel it. In terms of your friend group was that a conscious choice on your end? Or have they just kind of fallen off? Sometimes in life we lose a lot at once in order to grow, I truly do believe in the depths of pain lies our salvation. I will tag some of the other members for their input too - @lokifish @Bee @ErinsAntics @scared01 @DruidChild If you ever want to chat about anything, you can also speak free with KHL at anytime, confidentially with a qualified counsellor. Speak soon! ... View more

@Matty D That is difficult. If your Mum and Dad aren't too worried, do you think maybe you could relax a bit? Or not really? ... View more

Hi @Shae_Hogben thanks for commenting, just going to send you an email :) keep an eye out. ... View more

Hey @Matty D I am glad to hear the anxious feelings have gone! What helped you feel better? ... View more

Hey @litgym you're right would be cool if we taught kids about mental health at a much younger age. I heard they're doing meditation in some primary schools now which is rad :)  ... View more

Whoa the short film sounds amazing! @pyrogus   We're always here to hold the space for you with thoughts around gender dsyphoria. You're not alone ... View more