Hi Reach Out ,    I'm feeling drained out from my parents and siblings. In some ways I think my parents behave like children to each other.    I just get so irritated when I see them or them just being passive aggressive.   I'm so done with the demeaning comments and the attitude.    I've decided to stop living their dream which is to make Malaysia better. Just cause I don't know how nor share that motive to the same extent.    Lately I just cant pledge my loyalty to this nor can focus my energy to changing an entire country and culture. I'd do my work but not make it about patriotism or serving the country as whole.        I feel like the right thing to do now is just be "Self-Centred Goal Wise" so I can accomplish what I need to do and what I want to.     I'm out of energy to entertain them ,their visions and lifestyle.   They are there for me financially but they have let me down by not being able to deal with their own emotions, ungrateful when I entertained them during their downs and I just think in some aspects I'm in a draining relationship with them.   Is there a word on when I'm behaving this self centred ?    I just feel like wanting isolate my self and not open up to anyone and it doesn't feel nice. I feel frustrated and burned out by thinking about this cause it does affect my concentration on serious task.      -Bunnywalks. ... View more

Hi everyone ,    I hope to find some regular work on my own to fun the things I want to do.    We have resources on CV and the internet.  ... View more

Hi Reachout,    My therapist gave me a list of things to do.   Lately I've been feeling a sense of achievement from completing them.   On no. 101 of the list it says planning to go to college or University.    I do plan on having a master's degree from abroad. It will be an arts degree.   And I do have an interest in Public Policy .   After my 2 undergraduate degrees .    I plan to have master's degree from South Africa in the field of Public Policy.   Currently I'm looking to spend a year in the University of Pretoria or University Of KWZN.   I understand this is not an appropriate forum for professional opinion.   However, having an a well planned  trip would save me alot of trouble.    I'd like to hear some thoughts how I can get started with planning  ? ( Call the University for a prospectus etc. )   I'm looking for someone with experience on the matter ?   ... View more

Hi RO ,    The internet can be a wild place and misleading place.   There are times I feel like exposed to some sort of danger. E.G. ( being in a third world country with volatile political situation ). And people that are going to tear you down.   While the best thing to do is not post anything and be inconspicuous ( time date and place) and deal with conflicts person to person .   Also being mindful of your digital reach.   What can I do if a person or group is making me uncomfortable or writing untrue things about me or trying to threaten me in a physical manner or even write things that lead to harm towards me ?    A surgeon from my home country which has done well for herself academically has loads of trash written about her by people who are taking an advantage of her profile for their own gain by potraying her in a certain way.   Things like humiliation , degradation , and unkind tweets and hurtful messages have taken place.  It's unacceptable to cause someone detrimental hurt online.   While it's impossible to silence our critics founded or not.   We can seek help of professionals eg (counsellors, therapist etc).   Im getting at that their actions has may cause damage to their wellbeing or prospects.    May I know what numbers to call to halt abusive comments towards me if I'm posting online ?   Boundary needs to be drawn.     ... View more

Hi RO ,    I've been reflective of my habits with my devices.   I over indulge with the internet.   Recently I got rid of Facebook, hide my Youtube, and disabled my Instagram, I'm not tweeting anymore.    Right now I'll retire my creative side and enjoy my privacy.   ATM I left my reddit on chill mode.    The internet can be a useful place but wow there are people there who will try to go extreme miles to actually give you a hard time. Even to the extent of doxxing and taking advantage of your vulnerability. (Doc:revealing your location).   Also the media lately has been abusing their platform for their causes which Im really not educated about them and I  can't share the same sentiment and I just felt my empathy is being prayed upon.   After just being offline as well, I just realized you can't base your happiness around what other people have ( be it the admiration they receive, their relationships, and their accomplishments materially ). I won't find any fulfilment if I base myself around that.   In the mean time I'd like to focus on that self contentment for now. The "hustle " is getting to big for me.   Also I want to put my safety first. ... View more

Sports is a great way to make some friends and have a friendship group.   It's gives me a sense of purpose, belonging and commitment.   It's important to celebrate, bond and have fun.  As well as appreciate and lookout for each other.   But I think I watch way too many movies in that I have expectations that a climax (an overwhelmingly exiciting event ) will happen along the timeline of a relationship.   Usually IRL it's a celebration or a trip.haha.   I don't know why I think this. I reckon it's just the way films are structured in the adventure genre.( In case and point Lord the rings)   Problem > relationship forms > rising action > climax > resolution.   When I'm at the beach or pool just relaxing. I tell myself it's ok to just be and not think about the future and not value some external form of recognition for the moment.   When I'm with friends or peers physically I have this overstimulating feeling of excitement. I feel like have to put a lot of energy Into it. Sometimes obliged to entertain.   I do act playful.   In the semester we are studying or participating in something ( either studying or participating in sport.)    But after that sociallising has another form of energy. It's a sudden switch.   Can someone explain to me what experience am I going through when I make that switch ?   ... View more

Hi reachout ,    I'm keen to plan a solo trip to travel on my own.    im looking to do some sight seeing and visit Phuket.    How can one make friends when there on holiday ?    I thought of joining a pubcrawl but are other ways to make friends while on the road ?    I've just felt isolated lately after leaving Australia.    Please advise me. bunnywalks   ... View more

Going out to events and mingling definitely helped me feel like I was apart of a city or celebration   I went to the st Kilda festival last year and it felt cool to wander and admire st Kilda from things like acland street and the beach.   Also it suited my budget as no way mum and dad would pass me 200 Aud for ticks.   I only wished to be brave enough to say hello to strangers.   I invite RO gang to share some of memorable events they have attended in Australia or Abroad and how did you socialize ? ... View more

Hi Reachout ,   I've been wanting to have sex on frequent basis.       Sex is both physical and emotionally pleasing for me.   How can I make this lifestyle change a responsible one for my partner / partners and I ?     Who should I consult on this lifestyle  change I'd like to make it a positive practice ?   Bunny walks.   ... View more

Hey Reachout , I need to express this for my own self awareness and evaluation.    I have failed to accomplish a sizable goal and lacked orientation along the way.    Along the way, I did grow in ways I cant due to reasons I can't control and I did fall and got hurt.   I did my best to solve what I could.   I can't control everything and get every desired outcome.    I can figure things out mindfully during this down time.   I'm moving on slowly right now to new horizons.   Right now I tell myself , bunnywalks,.   You can make the changes you need to.   It's okay. You can't bend the world. Moving on to different aspirations are okay. Move on with you.   You can be brave enough and have the courage to put in your best efforts.   You deserve help along the way to guide you in the right direction.   You allowed to encourage yourself to be in a better position.   Be there for you. *Hugs*                     ... View more

Hi RO fam,    I got rid of FB and did some yoga.  My mind's just feeling alert now. Now I also want to get rid of my youtube account. ( Jesus the ads are relentless)   I have been doing a lot of walking.    I would like to know from a practicing qualified expert on what ways can I take care of myself this year be mindful and focused ?   Being away from support and in aus@@@ Australia taught me you can't take the world on your own.   Help can help you and asserting your identity is not an instant process.   It's okay to hurt and be vulnerable around trusted people. Honestly communication to help you and your receiver benefits both of you.   Bunnywalks.         ... View more