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BunnyWalks
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13-02-2017
11-12-2018
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08-12-2018
04:19 PM
Hi mods , Why is everyone so perfect and pretty on Instagram 😭 ? And exceptionally white 🤔 Being on Australian Instagram makes me feel unattractive or uninteresting etc. You have such nice beaches and music festivals. And everyone is being all affectionate and hugging each other. Also cars you have cars. As a bus peasant I get jelly. South East Asia is different and would be silly to compare the entertainment scene due to our laws and customs. Letmewatchthis Also it reminds me of how lonely I am IRL when I go to Uni. I would participate in social events like horse races or pubs nights but being on an allowance by parents makes me very cautious. I actually worry people might think i have more cash than I actually do and the judging that comes with it. I get anxious when people can me rich when I defacto dont have an income at 23 years. And may have break down if someone called me out on the lines like " he hasn't worked a day in his life he doesn't deserve a beer !!!!!!!!" * In angry blokey voice" in angry voice Then I just space out after. Like I can volunteer but man does it take time to build a volunteer profile in Australia. I don't know much light hearted conversation topics being from a tense country. I'm going for a run in the arvo to not think about this so don't lay on bed thinking I'm fat and waste a good day. I'm feeling fomo , envious and comparing myself. Helpful perspectives please.
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05-12-2018
11:46 PM
I'm a mindless worrier. I when for a hike few days ago in the city and feel less tense. I need to get out more in short. I'm going for a run soon keeping reach out posted. -Bunnywalks.
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05-12-2018
11:41 PM
1 Kudo
When for a mini hike and my mood has improved, Especially if when I used my phone minimally. Positive reports.
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29-11-2018
01:50 PM
Hi I'm bunny walks and I have a problem of plugging out. Planning to make more outside time.
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28-11-2018
03:00 AM
2 Kudos
@Bee no they can act in with self in mind and their behaviour can get inconsiderate. No they don't notice and it's my responsibility to make it know. The word "excuse me " is my weapon to cut these unnecessary conversation short. Mindful apps are my fave ways right now as I'll approach complex thoughts calmly. Rain sounds is a good way to stay calm. I thought of making music in my free time like this trending lofi music. I'll go excercise to keep it off my mind.
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27-11-2018
12:43 PM
@Bee I don't know how to recharge myself after feeling worn down. What can I do after dealing with something emotionally intense ? Right now my mum is talking to us so she doesn't have to deal with dad. I'm upset that neither of them can find a compromise something in their relationship. They both are professionals but Jesus they act like children when their issues pop up. They have terrible phone manners. Just so emotionally needy and don't feel appreciated when I do talk to them. I reckon I'll keep the conversation at 10 minutes on a phone any longer it have to be an email.
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27-11-2018
12:29 PM
2 Kudos
@mrmusic We agreed that the behaviour is the problem and not the person. I'll do my best to communicate that.
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27-11-2018
11:57 AM
I do experience this pressure to decide in my identity public life cause people ask the" tell me about yourself." I think I spend way too much time on the internet. This maybe both initially based on nationality and profession but there has to be more to that. In Singapore and Malaysia we have a national curriculum built on patriotism. It didn't allow for much creativity for an individual. I have taken up hobbies like running and cycling but I see those as self maintenence activities and not so much identity activities. Half of my time in Australia was based on commuting be it bus or rail or bike. Do I always have to stand out in a major way ?
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26-11-2018
04:20 PM
Are there services for Malaysia @gina-RO ? I feel visible when you speak to me that way .
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26-11-2018
04:18 PM
@annabethxchase Thank you so much for reading my post. I appreciate your attention. Just few things to clarify : *Keep track of how my parents treat me especially the bad treatments. *Which help line would the most appropriate in in Malaysia should I feel put down by mum and dad if there being unreasonably harsh ?
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26-11-2018
03:50 PM
I keep putting it off and Asian parents don't like being told off ( ego thing ) . Going to uni on foot and being dependent on PT I hard enough. My education has been directed with political ambition which I don't think is a good place to be mentally and professionally. I know mine don't respond to cristism well. Demonstrating why a behaviour is problematic rather than their personalities is a non aggressive way to speak to them. I need some impartial communication strategies for them to consider their behaviour. @MittchellClifford it would help me heaps. They have odd shedules and do everything they can to make sure we're not in sync and won't meet you with each other. Bunnywalks.
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26-11-2018
03:39 PM
Hey @annabethxchase Just editted the post to give a clear picture of how their behaviour has affected me. My mum and dad have poor conflict resolution skills with each other . And I think resentment passes on with each other and their insecurity as a couple bleeds out from time to time.
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26-11-2018
03:17 PM
Hi Reachout, I think have abusive parents. I'm not sure if I'm making an excuse or this is a legit reason and emotionally uncaring. In Asian cultures you don't express vulnerability. I do recall negative prediction, verbal putt down , negative comparison (living cost which would lead me to isolation and just depravation of human contact ) and a lot of guilt tripping imposed on me personally. In my culture your expected to grin and bear it to quote on dad but I don't know if that just lazy thinking or that he doesnt to be involved in your wellbeing. Which is the opposite of what dad and mum does usually bothering me for 45 minutes about mundane details and political concern of malaysia during the semester which really is projecting a bigger concern to me. This happens frequently while I was in Melbourne. Been feeling sad and hurt for a while now and have not been attending classes. I just wake up feeling down. I just feel really low and not confident to meet new people. Other than speaking to a therapist , who can I speak to ? Also i'd thought to keep record of their treatment via microsoft word ? Should i keep a date and description in hand and keep it to one page for record purposes.
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26-11-2018
12:43 AM
@Bee@@I don't think my time is respected by my parents and they don't seem to demonstrate emotional responsibility while I'm a way Most of it is emotionally counselling them separately. I get exhausted doing this. But if I'm dealing with these complicated task I need the space to complete them . There awfully clingy and I don't think they have all the social answers with their life experiences.
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25-11-2018
08:48 PM
Hi FORUM , I have been privileged to be on Australia soil and form mingle unique relationships with locals and picked up Surfing. Being in Australia allowed me to develop an alternative personality to be socially functional. I'm here to ask anyone here how do they have that sense of self beyond your nationality ,cultural origin and consumption ? I'm at peace with my self beliefs but I'm always thinking there's more in me. We do get bounded by these factors which may get in the way of our @@@actual feelings and desires. How do people grow up and say this is my solid identity at the end of a year ? I'm having these thoughts cause I'm concious to change.
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24-11-2018
12:03 PM
@Lan-RO I need some emotional support. Welcoming it. Right now I'm seeing a therapist to get a boundary over my parents. ( They have ad hoc demands and I think they ought to learn to ask for my time and keep our conversation to a point and decide an outcome) I carry a watch with me now and have learned to use empathy to make time for them later. It feels up hill negotiating personal space. Right now my system is : 1. Talk bout my needs . ( Lack of time or commitments) 2. How can we get what we need from our conversation ( This is what takes a while) effective but compassionate manner. 3. Keep Track of time.
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23-11-2018
05:48 PM
Mentally I was away for 3 years torn between making friends, studying and understanding the role in my family. Felt mentally fatigued. Came to Australia just enjoyed the idea of hanging out in Australia and playing Mario kart with the bois with no serious objective in mind. My parents reckon I come off as pretty white and assertive, now. I'm just careful not to upset anyone here culturally. Local media pushes all these problems and romanticize the idea that we all have to help based on our nationality rather than are we actually interested in the cause. My relationship with Malaysia is distant and I want to keep it that way. Mainly its about participation of youth in politics but its such a tiring subject. Right now, I'm not treating what politicians say as authority and just mentally mute them. I'd rather worry about my own problems and fix/ improve my own life. I think my parents are socially high maintenance and emotionally controlling maybe I'm experiencing shame in sharing this with prospective friends.
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23-11-2018
05:38 PM
Usually I think I have to impress them but not in the mood lately for serious friends. Moved here.
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22-11-2018
02:45 PM
1 Kudo
Hi @ecla Yas boii even if it's just people watching. I'll consider the travel time and where I'm at during the semester as well. A calendar can help me too. Keeping it within reason can help as well social stimulation can be good to me once a month.
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21-11-2018
04:59 PM
Hi crew, I do enjoy going out but would like to know. How often should one go out for me I see best times would be after semesters or when there is a long break on he calendar. Regards
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21-11-2018
04:58 PM
1 Kudo
Just trying I've return to Malaysia and have been carefully reintegrating and am feeling taken back with bombarded negative in the media messages. Will I be meeting people in the different environments all the time ?
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16-11-2018
08:34 PM
1 Kudo
Hi ReachOut , Your platform is very comforting and nurturing. I have found your platform very beneficial to relieve my stress. However I would like to now whether are they're similar forums to for those who are older out of curiousity ? Regards, Bunnywalks
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14-11-2018
12:59 PM
1 Kudo
Right now I'm keen in creating a sustainable friendship not necessarily romantic.
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13-11-2018
08:22 PM
3 Kudos
As someone with some relation to Islam culture wise. it leaves me little guilty that there is a reason people may have an assumption if I disclose this the way I look or culture origin. I'm in no way responsible for this in any way but man, I don't know how to help in a meaningful way. I don't think I should comment further, mod.
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13-11-2018
08:13 PM
I just feel just I have too much to spill over someone and I may treat them like a punching bag with my problems. by doing this I think I maintaining a respectful distance instead. I need go on my own tempo in building relationships. mods is it okay to be like this ?
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12-11-2018
06:55 PM
Hi ReachOut, I'm a problem gambler but not on commercial gambling like horses and other things like that or sport . I gamble base on lifestyle examples include : -I don't have necessarily strict schedule to my day nor calendar. (breaks and meal times) -I am inconsistent personality wise and tend to date someone outside my league. -I have poor self discipline academically. -I do not follow up on plans especially study plans. - Choosing to go overseas to study and be monetarily successful. While I was reflecting I think I may be causing my dad some stress financially but he tends to keep it to himself. I wish to reduce his stress by completing my university course I think my childhood has something to do with this.. In the mean time I would like to take one step to control my behaviour and be accountable on a practical level of my actions. Right now. I have deleted my YouTube, Facebook and Instagram what other social media apps do I have to cut it down ? I'm am seeing a professional and will continue seeing them but at this point ill just have to ask her things I can do. What could I ask in my next session so they would best help me ? I need to know some self help books. Help me ASAP. Mods these forum is helping me out. Help me big time here.
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