hey @letitgo i cant talk to much about the wedding unfortunatly. its to coincidental.. ... View more

hey @Saltwaterdreamtime sound slike your having a rough time atm? do you want to talk more about what your angry at?  ... View more

Hey @Esperanza67 it has been some very hectic days and its not over yet unfortunatly. Its the week full of appointments. So far ive had 4 in the past 3 days in amongst other things. Tomorrow ive got another appointment, and friday ive got a double appointment with my gp to start the medication process up again and to talk about some other concerning things as well. I am quite nervous about tomorrows appointment though, I want to go but at the same time ive been really nervous about going and have been putting it off for weeks. Hopefully it goes alright tomorrow though. Hey @Jay-RO The op being a few months away is both a blessing and a curse. Its kinda hard because the waiting makes me quite nervous and not only that I have to deal with the frequent infections and pain until I can get the op sorted out but because its a little while away its giving me a chance to get appointments here worked out so restabilise on medications, get back to a healthy weight again, organise hotels, home care nusring etc as well so while its quite a while away there still seems to be quite a lot of things to do before then including a wedding which im apart of as well so quite a busy few months anyway. Hey @DruidChild it was pretty good thanks, something different. It only went for half hr but was good to get out of the house and things for abit. Yes it is a releif to have a date for the surgury now and im glad they gave me more info as well as now ive found out ill have to be there a day early so means an extra night in the hotel as well or at least another day trip to the hospital. Aw thank you, psych and nursing are one of my 2 interest areas but itll be a while before I really get to that point, but nothing wrong with stepping stones either. Im not sure this therapy is helping as yet, ive really only had 2 sessions so we are right at the very beginning. I guess time will tell though and itll be a slow process which im ok with. ... View more

ive been feeling pretty tired lately. but i have been extremely busy so ive still been productive evne though the house is a little messy ... View more

i went for a scenic drive. oh and i made brownies too ... View more

1. the weathers been lovley 2. i went for a secenic drive for about 2 hrs and was really nice. 3. i finally found out when my op will be so that i can make arrangements now ... View more

i really like all our values on RO and i use them quite often as second nature offline too. The one that i will pick though is inclusiveness How do you show this value on the forums? i always try to include people, i have found that when people are included in things it helps with those feelings of being unwanted, lonliness and isolation which is usually quite a common theme amongst those with mental and/or physical health issues. So by doing that, i find it helps to give people a smile even just for a short while and sometimes that can make a world of difference to someone. How do you show this value off the forums? i pretty much do the same, i invite others to events, try to include them in conversations, and brainstorm ideas for some things im involved with (but i cant share here). Again i find it gives people a smile and a sense of meaning too. are there other values? Along with the RO values i also have respect and kindness as my values. ... View more

what were some ways you saved water? do you still follow these now? some ways i save water is - have quick showers - limit car washing - use the washing machine (or if you have a dishwasher) only when its full - fill up drink bottles for water rather than getting a drink from the tap cause lets be honest how many tip the water they dont drink out- so waters saved by filling and drinking out of water bottles. ... View more

what can we do to help? e.g raise awareness or what kind of foundations can we donate to? charities are good to donate to such as need a feed and also buyabale as well. i think there has been quite alot of info brought to light over the past few months with all the social media advertisements. ... View more

so sorry im late! there have been some really good answers here thats for sure! How were people affected by the drought? So so so many people were affected in different ways but some that come to mind is lack of water and food for both themselves and also their pets, along with great losses of livestock. ... View more

Hey @JanaG @DruidChild Im interested in the health sector but not set in stone really. I want to just keep broadening my kowledge with courses that interest me like nursing courses or more like smaller stepping stone ones, as well as nutrition and psych as well so theres a few unis that offer short taster like courses so im interested in a few of those but im not sure which one as yet. my therapy atm is rather intense to as its exposure therapy but she does give me that opportunity to talk about other things as well if I choose to so it works well for support plus one of my favourite shops is nearby so I tend to take a walk there as a reward afterwards even if I dont buy anything. My day has been very busy. The morning appointment went well and we covered quite a lot and a future plan but I have some juggling to do with other appointments so I can fit in a rather long gp appointment on friday to get a few things sorted and back on track again. I had quite a good chat with the surgical team today and we have a date for my surgury (providing there arent any hiccups within the hospital like upgrades, emergencies etc) but ive got a date and its abit of releif as I can look at pricing of hotels and things. Im going out with family for a little while in a minute so mightnt be on again till tomorrow or later on tonight. But its a good event, something new and interesting but I cant share it as its a unique thing atm. Thank you both so much for your supports <3 ... View more

Hey @DruidChild thank you for your post, yes your right I know relapsing is part of recovery. This one just seems to be a lot harder than the usual relapses, and is affecting me in different ways like out of control eating, other methods of self harm, more risk taking but im seeing my psychologist abit more regularly now that my care plan has been renewed so thatll be abit more helpful too. Yeah its hard with the sacrifices isnt, wanting to be healthy ourselves but not a the expense of others. I like your idea on how to cope, thats really clever. The problem is I cant quite see a life outside caring (but I could start!) mostly because ive done it for so long that it looked like my future has already been planned out for me. But I cant see anything wrong with looking at houses, how id want to decorate it etc. ive got a few courses id like to study, I wouldnt be waiting till I wasnt a carer though so I guess I can still take those steps while im caring. Like stepping stones.. yes the ED is a very hard place for me to go bot only for caring duties, but also my other work, other responsibilities and the slack and judgement I get from family too- that one is the hardest one the handle and to cope with. Hey @letitgo thank you for checking in, ive bee pretty busy trying to catch up on things before my busy week of appointments and work starts this week. I spent 4 hrs cleaning up yesterday along with other things. This mornings quiet though up until 10 30 and then it is all systems go up until about 5 oclock this arvo. ... View more

@Eden1717 it is hard to fit much in in just those 10 sessions for sure. i guess the 10 sessions would be enough for some people who arent having to deal with the issue long term or their issue is a little more simpler but thats not often the case as usually those are the people that dont seek help for themselves. no i dont go to uni, so i cant access those services. if i really need to i contact the helplines but usually i can wait until i see the psychologist next. ... View more

hey @saltwaterdreamtime it sounds like your going through a rouh time atm, how are you feeling today? are you feeling better than yesterday? ... View more

hi @BunnyWalks sex is a normal and healthy part of a relationship. As long as both you and your partner are consenting and willing then i dont see a problem with having sex frequently at all. If however it is becoming a problem for you e.g its all your thinking about, wanting it much more than your partner does and its upsetting for you then perhaps seeking the support from a psychologist would be the next step ... View more

no, its definently not your fault, nor did you ask for it, deserve it or any of those negative emotions which i really understand @DruidChild its ok to question whats right and whats wrong, there no pressure for you do take any steps your uncomfortable with. Talking about it with your psych and learning how to process etc sounds like a really good idea. i understand those ashamed and heavy feelings too, but youve nothing to be ashamed about, it wasnt your fault hugs ... View more

hey @DruidChild it sounds like a really tough decision and i applaud you for even considering reporting it as many people shy away from it . It is totally up to you what ever you decide to do, we will support you. <3 Do you think now that youve spoke to your psychologist you would be able to talk about more, process and then decide what you think is best and if reporting it is what you think is best to do? ... View more

i watched the new 'annie' and also brother bear part 1 and 2 @letitgo :) ... View more

hey @Puppies026 im with headspace and they only allow those 10 sessions unfortunatly so weve picked a focal point for now. my life is rather complicated and trying to get through it all will be to hard so think this is probably the better way. i had asked last yr if there was a way i could get the sessions extended but i can only have the 10 sessions which makes things tricky. i think part of why she brushes over it is becasue she doesnt have alot of experience in that area and because i loose focus alot as well its probbably best to just focus on one thing at a time with her. when i have a chat to the gp im sure they will be able to help in this area more than they will too. ... View more

thank you @Jay-RO Ive put a movie on for now, but i will need to do dinner and get abit of cleaning up done. other than that i think ill be having a look at some hotels and airbnb prices as an estimate for when im going in for surgury. ... View more

hey @DruidChild how are you holding up? ... View more

great thread :) theres actually a series called Vampire Academy that is really good. i didnt think i would be into it but its really detailed and keeps you on the edge of your seat so i would reccomend those for sure ... View more

1. todays weather has been so nice. 2. i sat outside with a cup of tea and some crochet and was really recharging 3. despite life being really hard, there is still much to be greatful for which i was reminded of today. the simple pleasures matter just as much as the big stuff ... View more

hope your finding yr 12 alright @roseisnotaplant :) ... View more

uh im not to sure @Jay-RO while she is good when ive meantioned carers stuff she more brushes over it, so i think its better to just pick a focus with her since ive only got the 10 sessions. ill talk to the dr and more carer friendly services in getting those sorts of supports. ... View more

yes fingers crossed, at least this help get the ball rolling @Jay-RO Yes ive just started seeing the psychologist again after being able to renew the mental health care plan. i think its a little to early to tell how its going since ive only had 3 sessions all up including last yr so far. she seems good though, better than my previous psychologists through ... View more

thank you @Jay-RO um im not sure really. My priority is getting help for pop though becasue once that sort of process is underway they will be able to refer him to other places for assessments, and supports which will in turn help me too esp with the home care sort of thing just for an hr or 2 once a week would make a difference but im abit stuck atm because the drs the one who needs to refer to other places etc. ... View more

hey @TOM-RO honeslty havent spoken to them that much. just come to the conclusion that i needed to speak to the gp about getting some supports in place for myself and for my caree as well. ive made an appointment to talk to the gp on tuesday about things as well so hopefully ill get some answers in that regard at least. ... View more

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