Have you had any goals that have changed while you were working towards them? For sure! When I got a new job a while ago, it gave me way more hours than I was expecting and even though that was awesome, I had to downgrade my goals about running every other day to running twice a week.   How did that make you feel? At first I didn't feel great because I felt like I was subbing in a challenging goal for an easier one, but as I started to work toward my revised goal, i realised that it wasn't easier, just different (after all, I can still run longer and less often!), and that it's totally okay to change your plans to suit the direction that you want to go! ... View more

Hey @Ollexia, I'm sorry to hear that you've been going through a rough time. It's really hard to be experiencing a tough mental health moment and also to be feeling like your forms of support aren't as available as you thought there were. I'm not super sure about the specifics of your relationship with your boyfriend, but there are definitely services (like ReachOut!) and support centres that care deeply about how you are and want to give you an opportunity to talk about how you're feeling. Let me know how you're going and know that you can always hop on here if you want a vent or a chat :-) <3 ... View more

Hey @YunoGasai, From my opinion, it sounds like your Aunty is trying to reconnect with you without having to take responsibility of the fact that she neglected you for so long. I feel like it's quite a common thing for people to try and buy back someone's affection so that they don't have to say sorry or own up to the harm that they've caused before. I agree with @dog_lover94 in that maybe you could give the jewellery to friends who might want it, or donate it to a charity if you don't want it in your room. Do you feel like clearing the air with your Aunty may help with some of the feelings that you're having about her trying to get back in touch? I think you're well within your rights to want to talk about it with her, especially because she's been absent for so long. It may be that she's trying to establish a relationship with you and doesn't know how to start, so that's where the jewellery is coming from. Let me know how it goes :-) ... View more

This is going to sound really lame, but I made honey-glazed carrots for the first time yesterday (I cannot state enough how much I am not a cook), and they turned out great!! :D ... View more

What a good thread! I do think about this a lot actually (especially now that I'm getting more adult :P) I'd have loved to have learned - How to cook on a budget using limited ingredients - How to patch up a pair of jeans or a t-shirt when it's got a tear in it (rather than having to buy a new one) - How to manage personal finances - How to do a job interview/quit a job/what my rights are as a worker - More about modern politics and our global political climate (this is all stuff that's self-taught and I think it's crazy that schools don't teach it) - Basic house maintenance, like how to change a light bulb or change a tyre - Things to look out for when buying a house/renting/buying a car etc. Like, basic things to look out for so you don't get duped into spending money on a bad deal - Basic economics for young adults - How to manage mental health - How to support friends in managing their mental health And so much more! But that's just off the top of my head. It's crazy that all of this stuff has to be self-taught today and yet our generation is also criticised for not knowing it.. ... View more

Hey @Bee, how are you going today? I'm sorry to hear that you didn't get the job, but I think it's amazing that you still went through the interview process and were engaged in your self-care the whole time. Interviews and stuff can be really stressful and we are all here to help you whenever you need :) You are such a great moderator here on RO and that's really indicative of your ability to commit to something and work hard (and do it well, too!). I'm certain that at some point you'll find the job that's perfect for you, and it'll be able to let you use all of the amazing talents you have in the workforce. BoM <3 ... View more

When setting goals what are some things to think about? How do you structure your goals so that they're achievable? I always like to keep in mind setting SMART goals, as in goals that are: Specific Measurable Achievable Relevant Time-specific This really helps to keep my goals in perspective, and stops me from making really ambiguous or confusing goals that are hard to achieve or keep track of. I also try not to set too many goals at one time, as I think that can make it a lot easier to do poorly at them (like trying to juggle with too many balls). I'd rather have a few goals and do them well, rather than a lot and struggle the whole way :-). I think New Year's can be a difficult time for me there because everyone feels a lot of pressure to completely turn their lives around, which isn't always realistic. Instead I think making a few goals that are seem more as stepping stones can make the journey a lot easier. ... View more

Hey @Brokengirl1234, how are you feeling today? Sending all the positive vibes your way.   Nothing can feel quite as shitty as a break-up, so I totally relate with what you are going through right now. It's particularly hard when you're on the side of the relationship where you are the one that wants to do things to save it, and the other person just seems like they're completely unwilling. I feel like it's easier to feel powerless in that situation because ultimately it only takes 1 person to decide that a relationship isn't going to work out. And when that person isn't you, it's really easy to turn the blame onto yourself, and ask yourself what you could have done differently. I think one of the worst things about breakups is their ability to negatively impact your self-esteem, even though it's unlikely that anything was your fault. From what you've told me about your relationship it really doesn't seem like there's anything that could have been done by you. You seemed totally open to trying to make it work and unfortunately it didn't seem like he was. But that's his fault, and not yours, so try not to turn those feelings onto yourself. You sound like a wonderful and caring person, and I'm sure you will find someone that will treat you with more appreciation.   It's also great that you identified that you depended on him too much for your happiness. I feel like this is very common in first relationships, and this is all new wisdom that you can use to carry on into your future relationships (with friends or romantic partners).    I hope you feel better today. Sending you lots of virtual hugs :)  ... View more

Hey @Bee, I still think it's amazing that you got and went to both interviews and I think that regardless of how they turn out, each interview brings really valuable and helpful experience!! I totally understand how you feel with not always feeling like you showed your best self in an interview. I think because of the pressure of the situation, and because it's quite a small time frame, it can sometimes feel like there's a lot riding on it. I think it's definitely really hard to show someone 100% of who you are in a situation like that, and I'm sure you did a fantastic job with the time that was given <3 But I think another part is that it's really easy to keep thinking about the interview after it happened, and waiting to see how it went can bring on another type of anxiety, too. I remember when I did my last job interview, I had to wait 2.5 weeks to see if I got the job. And every time I played the interview over in my head, I convinced myself that I did worse and worse every time. By the time the 2.5 weeks was up, I was convinced I wouldn't get the job, but I did! So I'd bear that in mind when reflecting on how you went, because I think waiting for the outcome can also be a really tricky bit to get through, and it's easy to think back on situations and think about all the things you could have said. But it's unlikely that the employer will be as critical as we can often be on ourselves. :) Good luck and please let us know how it goes!! ... View more

I'm looking forward to seeing my boyfriend tonight and we are going to the beach tomorrow! :-) ... View more

Today I practiced self-care by taking some time out to read my book :) ... View more

hey @Bee that's so good to hear! I'm super happy for you :) Let us know how everything goes!! ... View more

1. I get to pick my mum up from the airport today and I've missed her loads! 2. I have work this evening and it's shaping up to be a really good shift 3. I'm going to the beach tomorrow :) (still a positive of today because I'm very excited) ... View more

hey @annabethxchase, it's so good that you have your plan to call a helpline if the situation gets worse. That's a great sign that you know the steps that you can take when you're not feeling too good. I hope you have a great day today :) ... View more

Hey @DruidChild, that's no worries at all. I hope you found your psychologist appointment to be helpful, and I hope you have a wonderful day today :) ... View more

Hey @DruidChild, that's no worries at all :) sometimes knowing that help is available is one of the strongest tools you can have :) I know that families can sometimes be difficult, and even though they often don't mean to, they can sometimes get in the way of someone's journey to mental health. I know you just said that you're focusing on trying to be a good daughter and a good sister, but I'd just like to give you a friendly reminder that if you're doing makes you happy, and you're living healthily and well, then that should always be the top priority :) Sending you heaps of virtual hugs during this time and I hope you know that there are plenty of people on RO who are here for you :) ... View more

Hey @scared01, it's great that you were able to turn your nervous energy into something productive - that's a super great way of turning the situation around :) Hope you have a wonderful night tonight and get some much-deserved rest :) ... View more

I am proud that I went to the doctors today and got an injection, even though, despite having a million piercings and never once freaking out, injections make me feel the absolute worst :P ... View more

I'm reading Superfreakonomics at the moment! I'm not finding it as engaging as the first one but if you're interested in learning a bunch of really weird and fun facts, it's a great read! ... View more

Hey @hellofriend, thanks for sharing your experience on the forums and talking about how you've been going. Please remember that we are all here for you if you need it :) From what I can gather, you've had 3 sessions with this therapist so far, and the second one went quite alright. Do you think that if you spent more time with this therapist that you might be able to feel a little bit more comfortable with them? The idea of telling a virtual stranger everything about how you're feeling can be a bit daunting, so do you think that with time, this may help somewhat? Let me know how you're going :) BoM ... View more

play-dough! (it rhymes in my head :) ) ... View more

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Hey @DruidChild, thanks for taking the time to write that all out and for having the bravery to speak about how you're feeling. Sometimes talking about an issue is helpful in itself, and reaching out is one of the best things that you can do :) We are all here for you.    You've said some things about feeling like you might want to hurt yourself, so I'm just going to pop some emergency numbers here so that you know that there are people who can give you 24/7, real-time support if you need it.    Lifeline, all ages, 24/7: 13 11 14, with an online chat option from 7pm-12am AEST Kids helpline, ages 5-25, 24/7: 1800 55 1800, with an online chat option from 8am-12am AEST Suicide Call Back Service, ages 15+, 24/7:  1300 659 467, with a 24/7 online chat service.    I hope this helps! It may be worth taking a screenshot of this info, or putting the Urgent Help link from ReachOut (which also has this info) into your phone. The link is here :).    How are you feeling at the moment? I know you said that you're having trouble with your family. Is there anything that you can do which helps in moments like this?   Let me know how it all goes, sending all my positive vibes your way :)  BoM ... View more

Hey @annabethxchase, that's an awesome list that you wrote! So happy to see that you're taking the time to turn negatives into positives and I hope that everything's going swell for you today! Hope you're enjoying those grapes also :) :) :) ... View more

Hey @annabethxchase, I'm hoping you're alright! If you are having trouble please consider using this link to find some people that you can talk to about how you're feeling. Sometimes it's really helpful just to have a chat with someone who can listen to how you're feeling in real time and go through some strategies that may help.  Let me know how you're feeling :) ... View more

Hey @annabethxchase, it's great that you took the time out to reflect on what the positives of your situation can be. How was your pineapple inflatable? Sending all the good vibes your way <3 ... View more

Hey @DIVYA! That's such a good way of turning your negative into a positive. I feel the same as you - time off uni can drive me a bit stir-crazy sometimes. But it's great that you know that you can enjoy the time off and use it to do some of the things you love! ... View more

Hey @anonymousgirl101, I think this is a really important topic to generate some discussion about, so thanks so much for sharing your story! It definitely sounds like a difficult thing you're going through - did it feel like this before you graduated, or is it just mainly wanting to not run into people that you've known in highschool since graduation? I think running into people from highschool after graduation is definitely a situation that some people seek to avoid, especially if they feel like they've changed somewhat since grad and don't want to be associated with the image of themselves from high school. Is this a perspective that you think you can relate to? Let me know how everything goes :) -BoM ... View more

Hey @litgym, i just wanted to check up on how you're going! Sending all my positive thoughts your way :) How are your assignments going? ... View more

Congrats on the job interview @Bee! let us know how it goes <3 Good luck!! ... View more