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07-11-2019
09:19 AM
Lemsip ... I have a sore throat and I'm hoping it goes away soon!
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07-11-2019
09:18 AM
1 Kudo
Monsters inc - it's a bit young but I never grow tired of it! What's your favourite hobby?
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07-11-2019
09:13 AM
3 Kudos
Hey @Pasta, hopefully everything will be fine! If you're nervous about the day, I think it's a good idea to have a back-up plan just in case. Establishing what you will do if certain things happen may help you relax on the day. Does this sound like something that may help you?
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07-11-2019
09:00 AM
3 Kudos
hey @ruthxxx, how are you finding your exams? I know that they can often be a really difficult time of semester so touching base with yourself and seeing how you're going is a great idea. I know it must be emotionally stressful when you're not sure if your crush likes you back - it's really easy to find yourself trapped in patterns of thinking that seem to go in circles. To me, it seems like even though you had some signs that you crush might like you, you aren't receiving all of the signs that you were expecting him to send out (such es eye contact, etc). This seems to be causing a bit of stress right now. Does this sound correct? If so, do you think this is something you may be able to talk to him about?
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22-02-2019
12:42 PM
4 Kudos
1. I own 4 ducks :) 2. I know how to Latin dance 3. I've run a half marathon 4. I've read over 200 books 5. My next travel destination is: Melbourne!
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31-01-2019
03:31 PM
2 Kudos
Hey @ILikeCake, thanks for taking the time to write about your experiences. I totally understand how it feels to be concerned over the consequences of your past behaviour and to struggle with feelings of regret. It's not a great feeling and I think it's such an awesome step that you've chose to reach out and talk about how it's making you feel. That's a super brave step for you to take :-) You mentioned that you started watching porn from about 12 and then stopped when you were 14 because you heard of porn addiction. Is that correct? Something that stuck out to me when reading your story was that you are concerned that you might have had a porn addiction, but aren't sure (though either way, it's stopping you from exploring your sexuality currently) - does that sound about right? I did some research on porn addiction and here's what I could find in the way of definitions: Pornography addiction is an addiction model of compulsive sexual activity or use of pornographic material, despite negative consequences to one's physical, mental, social, or financial well-being. ^ does this sound like something similar to what you experienced? I feel like one of the defining characteristics was that it had a negative impact on other areas of your life (such as mental, social, etc.). Was this something that you were noticing when you were watching it? I think it's also important to bear in mind that arousal, watching porn and masturbation are also very normal experiences for teenagers to go through (and even 12 year olds!) Growing into sexual maturity often involves a lot of hormones that can really peak your interest in content like porn, and in most cases, this is totally normal and okay! You might find that it settles down in time, but some people also just have super high sex drives. I think exploring how you feel about sex is totally okay, but still today there's a lot of stigma around people (particularly women's) freedom to do so, which can lead to feelings of self-disgust and shame. Which I don't think is particularly fair, because it's also a normal experience for women to have as well as boys! So while I think you should definitely have a look at whether or not you feel like you fit the description for 'porn addiction', it's worth bearing in mind that developing a sex drive is nothing to be ashamed of. There's nothing wrong with wanting to explore your sexuality, and getting aroused is a completely normal part of development. Do you feel like you have people in your social circle who you can talk to about these things (such as sex?). They may also be able to answer some of the questions you might have around it. Let me know if you think I'm on the right (or wrong) track with anything :)
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31-01-2019
12:59 PM
2 Kudos
Hey @Bananatime04, that's okay if you don't feel ready to delete it now. I think that sometimes, when things give us really emotional responses, we are reluctant to let it go even if it hurts us (as I'm sure everyone who re-reads old break-up texts can testify :P). It may just take a bit of time until you feel ready, but I'd really recommend talking to someone about how it made you feel in the meantime. Is this something you'd want to do? There are many online chat options from help services which may be a good option at this time :)
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31-01-2019
12:52 PM
2 Kudos
Hey @Bananatime04, sorry to hear that you read something on the forums that you're having a hard time dealing with. I definitely second the advice of @annabethxchase in that deleting the email may be a really good idea to make sure that you don't keep going back to the content. Is this something that you feel like you're able to do? On another note, you don't need to be sorry at all. Unfortunately one of the problems with any forum is that it's open access and people can post whatever they feel, whenever they like. While we do have guidelines, it often takes human intervention to take down a post, where (as you've seen), people may read it before that happens. And when you're in a terrible mood and just want to vent, it's really easy to ignore the fact that a post may be triggering to other people. It's good that you know what our guidelines are and that you're aware that you're trying to stick to them - that's all we can ask of our ReachOut members!! Everyone deserves to be able to reach out and get some help, but there is definitely a difference between content that's acceptable for the public forums and content that's best discussed with professionals. Learning that difference is sometimes a journey in itself for some people (and as you've seen, some are still learning this), so you have no reason to be sorry at all :-) I hope you're okay at the moment. I know that distressing content can sometimes be really hard to get out of your head. Is there someone that you feel like you can talk to about this?
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31-01-2019
12:43 PM
1 Kudo
Hey there @skyfireinferno99, I imagine that it must be really hard to open yourself up to the idea of seeing another psychologist after your past experiences. I think that it's great that you have found such a compassionate doctor who really seems to be engaging in your mental health journey. My best advice would probably be to remind you that everyone is different (even psychologists!) and that keeping an open mind will give you the best opportunity to establish a strong connection with someone else. Do you feel like this is something that you feel prepared to do? It's always something that you could bring up with your new psyc as something that you feel like you are struggling with - maybe that can be something that you approach together and could help create a stronger level of trust :-) Let me know what you think!
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31-01-2019
12:34 PM
2 Kudos
Hey @annabethxchase, sorry to hear that you had such a bad experience with your psychologist. I think relationships with psychologists can be really emotional sometimes, because we do give them a lot of trust when we open up to them, and it's very easy to feel vulnerable in those situations. So when they go against the trust that we gave them, it can hurt a lot more than we'd expect it to. Do you think that because they don't see you too often, they were just really worried that you needed someone to be in on the loop who could watch you more closely? I'm not saying that lying to you was acceptable, but their primary concern will always be your safety, and I do think that unfortunately that means that sometimes, they have to prioritise your safety over your comfort. From what you said it definitely sounds like your psychologist could have done it in a more considerate and respectful way, but this concern may have also been a driving factor. Do you think that this is a possibility?
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31-01-2019
12:23 PM
3 Kudos
Today, I'm going to open up a bank account that is separate from my family accounts, so that I can start being more in control of my own finances. I'm also (((((super))))) close to having paid off my car. I'm proud of myself for starting to step into fully-fledged adulthood and beginning to direct my future :)
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31-01-2019
12:19 PM
Hey @Eden1717, feel free to touch base with us about how your appointment went, we'd love to hear from you :)
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29-01-2019
12:01 PM
1 Kudo
Hey @BunnyWalks, that's a great idea! Do you know of any services that you think you want to use? I'm happy to give you some suggestions for helplines and online services if you want :) Hope you have a great day today :)
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28-01-2019
06:31 PM
Ooh probably ages ago! Haven't met too many new people of late :) Last book you read
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28-01-2019
06:07 PM
Hey @saltwaterdreamtime, that's totally unfair if they are going to report you to the police if you haven't done something, but it's unlikely that the police will be able to do anything if you've not done anything wrong. Why do they think that you have something to do with what happened?
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28-01-2019
06:01 PM
3 Kudos
1. I managed to take some time to read some of my book today 2. I've organised my uni schedule and my books, stationary etc and I'm getting excited to start uni!! 3. It looks like I have a good week at work lined up for me, so that'll be really neat.
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28-01-2019
05:58 PM
2 Kudos
What a good idea for a chat! I've still got a month before I'm back at uni but I reckon it still counts - it's just school for old people ;)
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28-01-2019
05:49 PM
Hey @rainbowpotato, I'm so impressed at how you managed to turn around a grim situation and are still looking at the positive side. It's great that you have such a supportive circle of friends, and that you are seeing the positives that can come out of difficult situations. Good luck for starting grade 10 also! How are you feeling about that?
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28-01-2019
05:38 PM
2 Kudos
Hey @Eden1717, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a rough time with your meds at the moment. I know that starting/stopping/changing meds can also be a super stressful process, especially when you add in other factors like moving house. I'm sorry that it's such a hard time for you right now, sending all my positive vibes your way. What are your plans for tomorrow?
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28-01-2019
05:34 PM
Hey @Saltwaterdreamtime, why do you think you're going to get in huge trouble? I don't think I fully understand what situation you're describing. How are you doing at the moment?
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