I feel like no one cares about me.
I have a good life, to put things short, I had mummy issues. She's kind of let me live my own life now with my dad. Thing is, although my dads not bad, and I love him, along with my brothers. I feel as if no one appreciates my feelings in this family. I've always been kind of an anxious, sad person. But this year I really found myself, found my interests, good friends, and became much more confident and stuff. But because of school, my family thinks I'm not trying enough, so, they are slowly taken everything I enjoy so I try more at school and studies.
I'm not stupid, but I wouldn't say I like the academia stuff, I'm more artsy and creative... My family's not like that though, being sporty, athletic, and very intelligent people. I understand they want the best for me in all aspects and I have 100% gratitude. I also know they care about me a lot, but I just don't want this for me. I become very lonely at home, as no one ever hears me out. I also become very sad as I feel like I'm trapped consistently. Any advice?
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Hey there @Pink_Grasshopper
Congrats on finding a sense of self this year! Although family problems are always a tough situation to go through, there are always still many ways to resolve or to improve the situation.
While yes you can communicate your current problem with your family, you would need to do it in a right moment and that might need to be careful of certain language that might lead them misunderstanding you.
But if you aren't as wanting to immediately talk to your family first, it is always better to take step by step. You can try by talking to friends, people who you trust or counsellors. By then you can then decide if you want to further discuss your problems and feelings to your family.
Talking with some friends prior to having a talk with parents (especially with my mum) had always worked for me, especially when I wanted some ideas or methods in communicating my idea to her.
I hope this will work for you and that this misunderstanding from your family will go away soon.
Hi @Pink_Grasshopper welcome to the ReachOut community! It’s great to have you here 😁
It sounds like you've been on quite a journey of growth this year, and I wanted to acknowledge the strength and resilience it takes to navigate those challenges. Finding yourself, your interests, and forming meaningful connections with friends are huge achievements, and it's wonderful to hear that you're feeling more confident as a result.
It's also sounding like you feel somewhat misunderstood within your family, and that feeling can be incredibly isolating. Even when it seems like your family has your best interests at heart, not feeling heard or appreciated can be so tough. It can also be really challenging when our loved ones have different expectations for us than we have for ourselves.
I’m wondering if you have ever tried communicating your feelings to your parents? If so, how did it go? If you're willing to give it (another) try, we have an article on ways to get your parents to really listen to you, if you’re interested.
As you’ve been navigating through this situation, I’m curious to know if there have been any coping strategies that have helped you get through the tough moments?
It's also important to have a support system outside of your family to confide in during times of loneliness or when you're feeling misunderstood. Do you have friends, relatives, or other trusted individuals in your life who you can turn to for support?
I'm really glad you reached out here, we are all here for you 😊
The article helps quite a lot, I'll keep it in mind the next time something like this occurs. I also don't have any other trusted adults, for the fact I was taught to be independent from a young age. I can try but I don't really trust some counsellors/teachers. Although for my friends, they are good helpers but I am much more reserved about my own feelings, since I know how to fix most issues myself. (I prefer it to be that way anyway).
Thank you so much!!! 😊
