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Friend troubles..

Hi..

This past week I've been having friend issues..

Its my last year of school (year 12), and we have our swimming carnival tomorrow (09/02), I don't want to be going to the carnival for various reasons:

- it's going to be hot

-have to wear masks

- avoiding the risk of myself getting sick from the heat and sun

(Keep in mind these reasons above)

 

They kept harassing me once they found out I wasn't going, they kept pushing me into going and asking so many questions.. I started to feel like they didn't understand and only cared about me not going and the fact we wont have another swimming carnival again.

If the reasons above didn't exist, and it was much cooler than I would of went..

 

I just feel they don't really care about me much and talk behind my back quite a bit, I cant approach them thought because their answers would be

"no"

"Why would we do that.. we never do that"

 

They only want me there for the fun of it and don't care much about my health or mental health.

 

Does anyone have tips on how I can approach my friends,without sounding rude?

 

Brydz17
Brydz17Posted 09-02-2022 05:24 PM

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Sophia-RO
Sophia-ROPosted 09-02-2022 07:56 PM

Hello @Brydz17 sorry to hear that you have been having some issues with your friends over the last week. It sounds like their questions have been upsetting and that you have been feeling overwhelmed and uncertain about how to approach them. It sucks that you feel like they don't understand how you are feeling. I think it is definitely your choice to decide whether you want to attend the swimming carnival or not, so it is unfortunate that you are in this position where your friends are pressuring you to go. Would you feel comfortable at all talking to your friends about how you don't feel comfortable attending? Could you possibly talk to one friend that you feel more comfortable with and let them know you are feeling pressured and would prefer that the group stops asking you to go? 😀

 
 
Brydz17
Brydz17Posted 09-02-2022 08:17 PM

thank you!!

I have talked to one friend I feel most comfortable with and I think she said its up to me, I feel she understands.. i feel that they want me to go as its last one and it'll be fun...

to me there not that fun.. well I haven't been since year 8 but there not my kind of thing.. I treat them as mental health days!

 
 
 
Portia_RO
Portia_ROPosted 10-02-2022 01:27 PM

Hey @Brydz17 , I'm glad your friend was understanding - it should be totally up to you whether you go or not, but sometimes people forget that not everyone finds these days particularly fun. What did you end up deciding to do? 

 
 
 
 
Brydz17
Brydz17Posted 10-02-2022 01:53 PM

hii,

I ended up staying home.. I treated it as a mental health day. to relax and catch up on some school work that had to be completed. I sort of just wish they understood,

if the weather was cooler, I would've went.

 
 
 
 
 
Courtney-RO
Courtney-ROPosted 10-02-2022 08:45 PM

Hi @Brydz17 I'm sorry to hear that your friends didn't understand why you didn't feel up to going to the swimming carnival. I can certainly relate to your post as I went through this most of my school years (though i'm sure covid has changed a lot of things). It can also be so awful when you feel like you need to defend your decision too, especially to your friends. It sounds like you got a lot of things done that day though and that is amazing! Is there something nice you could do for yourself tonight to get your mind off things? 

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