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Loneliness hurts...

Hi, I'm new...

I'm not doing well. Because I'm getting a sense of strong loneliness and guilt for some of my actions. nd I want someone to comfort me and make me smile. But I don't have anyone willing to do so... my GF isn't responding and I don't want to bother my IRL friends because they might see me as a burden... it hurts... it's eating me up from the inside and it's only 2 months into 2024...

Help me... please...

Purple_Komodo_Dragon
Purple_Komodo_DragonPosted 11-02-2024 03:51 PM

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Almond_Platypus
Almond_PlatypusPosted 13-02-2024 11:16 AM

Hi @Purple_Komodo_Dragon

 

I am so sorry that you are experiencing should a difficult time but I am glad that you found ReachOut. I also want to thank you for sharing your story and if your are comfortable I would love to hear more about it. 

 

It sounds like a lot is happening in your head at the same time and you are unable to share them with others, is that right? The feeling of loneliness is something that we all share as human (including me) at some points in out lives, and I can empathise with you. I was wondering if there is any support you would like specifically to help you feel better? And if you don't mind, I do have some tips from my experience that I can share with you.

 

Feeling scared of being a burden to your friend is completely understandable, I used to feel the same way. And it is not helping that your girlfriend isn't responding. It is until I have no where else to turn that I finally blurted out to them. It will suprised you, as it did to me, how much saying what you are feeling out loud help. Talking to your friends doesn't mean that you are burdening them with your problem as they are not required to take any actions on your behalf. I feel like it is important to remember that your friends are there for you to share your stories, as you have heard theirs. 

 

Please don't think of yourself as a burden because you are not. And I hope to hear from you soon.

Take care!

 
Bailey_RO
Bailey_ROPosted 11-02-2024 05:36 PM

Hey @Purple_Komodo_Dragon 

Welcome to the ReachOut Youth community!

I am sorry to hear that you aren’t doing well, it sounds like you have been going through a tough time lately so I am really glad that you have found us and have been able to reach out for some support. It takes a lot of courage and bravery to ask for some help and to be so open and honest about what you are going through so you should be really proud of yourself for taking that step.

I know you mentioned that you have been experiencing loneliness and guilt for some of your actions and I was wondering if you felt comfortable sharing more about this with us?

You also mentioned that something has been eating you up from the inside and I was wondering what you meant by this? That sounds like it must be a horrible feeling to be experiencing and I want you to know that you aren’t alone and don’t have to carry any of this on your own.

I was curious about what supports you have in your life and if you have spoken to anyone else about how you are feeling? Whether it be a family member, GP or mental health professional. If not do you think this is something that you might consider?

Feelings of loneliness is something that we all experience and you are certainly not alone in feeling this way. I wanted to share this post with you about loneliness that shares some resources and things you can do that might be helpful for you.

Remember that you aren’t alone and that the Online Community are all here to listen and support you as much as we can.

We will also be sending you an email to check in, could you please keep an eye out for that.

Take care and I look forward to hearing back from you soon.

 
SmilingSeahorse
SmilingSeahorsePosted 11-02-2024 04:14 PM

Hi @Purple_Komodo_Dragon ,

 

Welcome to the community! I am so sorry to hear you are not doing well. I can imagine how disheartening and upsetting it must be to feel like you have no one to lean on in times of need. The first thing you need to know is that you are not a burden, everyone goes through difficult times and that's why we rely on others to help pick us up. Sometimes we do things that have repercussions but acknowledging them, working to solve the problem and preventing similar actions in the future is a good approach to take. If you feel willing to share I could try and offer some support and suggestions on how to move forward, but there is no pressure if you don't feel up to it.   

 

I totally understand that isolation is a scary feeling and getting no response from your girlfriend doesn't make things any better. A good way to broaden your social network is to join groups and engage in activities that align with your hobbies. This way you'll get to meet people who share similar passions and are like minded to yourself. While they may not be your closest childhood friends they would be able to provide an additional perspective and support during difficult times. I also think it's important not to fixate too much on the fact that we are only 2 months into the year. While I know this is easier said than done, challenging situations can come up at any given moment but are always resolvable with the right support 😁 

 
 
Purple_Komodo_Dragon
Purple_Komodo_DragonPosted 11-02-2024 04:43 PM

I guess you're right, but I don't know. I'm getting too dependent on others and it's destroying myself and others... I use the internet sometimes to try and bond with others, but I'm always a shadow to them. And even to my school friends. Just a shadow...

 
 
 
SmilingSeahorse
SmilingSeahorsePosted 11-02-2024 05:47 PM

I fully understand what you are saying and that can be difficult. There is defintely a healthy balance between relying on others and being able to tackle things independently. In what ways or aspects of life do you feel like you are maybe a bit too dependent on others?

 

In relation to the internet, I think it certainly offers a great space to bond with others. Its convenience and explansive nature can connect you with a wide range of different people. In saying this, no friends online or in person should ever make you feel like a shadow and I am truly sorry that's what you are going through right now. Can I ask what in particular they do or say that makes you feel this way?

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