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Lots of confusion

Hey it’s me again. First I want to say thank u to everyone who responded with such nice words of encouragement it made me feel better to know I wasn’t alone. I’m posting this as a continuation of my previous post abt my break up. If u didn’t see I was dating someone I rlly cared abt but we broke up becoz she wanted to focus on school and didn’t want to half ass the relationship. It’s been a confusing few weeks and it seems to be getting more and more confusing. Recently she messaged me and asked if we can be friends, I was hesitant at first but decided to give it a try. It made going to school easier as I felt that awkwardness was easier to deal with and I felt like I could get back to some normalcy. I was still hurt and upset but I was letting myself feel it and let go. However recently I was told by a friend that she still likes me and might want to get back together. Apparently she’s rlly confused and doesn’t know what to do. I’m as previously stated confused and this has added to it. I’m not the best at picking up when ppl r flirting with me but I’ve been told by friends that there has been a vibe between us. I’m just rlly lost and I’m not sure what to do. I’m trying to do what’s right by her and myself but I have no clue what to do. Ive been told to wait and try talking to her but I don’t even know what I would say. I think I want to get back together but I also don’t know and neither does she. I’m rlly lost and a bit tired of being confused so if anyone has any thoughts I would be happy to hear them.

Forest_falcon
Forest_falconPosted 21-08-2024 04:37 PM

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Mindful_Dreamer
Mindful_DreamerPosted 21-08-2024 07:57 PM

Hi @Forest_falcon

It's great to hear from you again! I do remember your last post about your recent breakup. I am glad you could feel your emotions and let go by moving on and focusing on yourself. You are handling this breakup well! 💜

 

I see why you are feeling confused because, in your situation, I would be too...😅

 

Similarly to what other members have mentioned, I would make sure that it is actually coming from her and is not just a made-up rumour because people can be like that in school. However, I would suggest you give it a bit more time. Don't rush into talking to her about getting back together. Maybe be friends and keep in touch and see where it goes, as it is still fresh. As you mentioned, she doesn't really know what to do or what she wants, so take it slow. 

 

In the meantime, keep doing what you do best and be open to any possibilities. That would be my best advice for now. 

 

I know it doesn't help much, but it is hard to tell because it is still so soon, and there have been mixed signals. 

 

Let me know how it goes 😊

 
Scarlet_Locust
Scarlet_LocustPosted 21-08-2024 06:54 PM

Hey @Forest_falcon !

 

I didn't see your previous post, but it sounds like you've been going through a lot recently. This all sounds pretty upsetting and confusing and I really feel for you. I think that it's so understandable that you would be having lots of conflicting thoughts about all of this, especially given that you care for this person very much.

 

I think that @Green_Ghost has really hit the nail on the head in their reply. I get a real sense from your post that you're having lots of thoughts about what everybody else is saying. But at the end of the day, the most important thing to really consider is how you're feeling. Obviously this is someone you really still care for very much, and while you feel might strongly feel like you'd like to be in a relationship with them again, you might also like to take a little more time to heal. This said, I think it's also completely understandable that you might not be completely sure how you feel about all of this yet, and that's ok too. You're allowed to give yourself some time and space, there's no rush 🌹.

 

I'm wondering if you might have other friends who might be a little more impartial? If so, I always find it really helpful to talk my feelings through with people who have a bit more distance from the situation, and who can be there for you without feeling too conflicted. This could potentially be a great way to reflect a little more and sort out the way you're feeling.

 

Thinking of you and sending lots of care your way 💜

 
Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 21-08-2024 05:59 PM

Hi @Forest_falcon

I would definitely suggest hearing this from her first. Maybe you could ask her if she'd like to discuss it and just say "hey I heard this and this, is this true?"

 

How do you feel about the situation? Would you want to get back together with her if this were the case? I would also encourage you to think about this too. Maybe you could write a list of the reasons why you would and wouldn't choose to do so. I find that lists always help me to reflect on the options.

 
 
Forest_falcon
Forest_falconPosted 21-08-2024 06:02 PM

Hey thank u for the response. I plan to talk to her abt it soon and I will try to figure out the mess that is my brain atm 

 
 
 
LittlePisces
LittlePiscesPosted 24-08-2024 09:06 PM

Hi @Forest_falcon

 

It is so lovely to hear from you again! It sounds like all this confusion has been incredibly draining and tiring. You are feeling lost and aren't sure what to do. You aren't really even able to decide your stance on this situation. I sense there is an urgency for you to receive clarification from this person regarding the things you have recently heard (which is incredibly valid). I'm wondering if you have any new thoughts on this situation, have you come to any decisions on how you should approach this dilemma? 

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