Hi @danexist , thank you for sharing this with us 😊

It sounds like you've been through an incredibly tough time, and it's completely valid to feel hurt and disrespected by the way your friends have treated you. Your boundaries and feelings matter, and it's not okay for anyone to dismiss or undermine them. It's clear that you've already made some really brave decisions by stepping back from these friendships, and recognising that their behaviour is harmful to you.

Setting boundaries and choosing to remove yourself from an unhealthy friendship group is a strong and important decision. You have every right to feel safe, respected, and supported in your relationships.

As for figuring out an approach for distancing yourself, if you’re up for a read, we have some tips for dealing with a toxic friendship here, and ending a toxic friendship here. I hope you find these helpful!

Apart from these friends, do you have anyone in your life who you can lean on for support during this time? Whether that be another friend, family member, or mental health professional, perhaps a support person might be able to help you stick with your decision and offer support as you navigate the change.

You're doing the right thing by prioritising your well-being! Keep trusting your instincts about what feels safe and supportive for you.

Ps. we have sent you an email to check in, so please keep an eye out for it 🌻

TW How do I establish to my friends that I do not want anything to do with them?

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