back at school
today was my first day back a school, i didnt expect it to go to well since all of my friends ignored me over the holidays, and i was right. at the start of the day one of my friends made small talk with me, and that was it. my other two friends ignored me entirely, even the one that was supposed to be my closest friend. they all seemed happy and normal talking to each other, but completely ignored my presence. my closest friend seemed to walk a bit faster so she wouldnt have to stand next to me. i felt a bit annoyed and sad during school, but overall it wasnt my worst day. when i got home my mum asked me how my day went and i broke down into tears. i felt so sad suddenly, i dont know why i didnt feel that before? i dont know how to talk to other people, so i dont think i'll even be able to make new friends if they continue to ignore me. i feel calmer now but im still not sure what to do about tomorrow.
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Hey @angriest_star I'm sorry to hear about what happened at school today 😔 it sounds like your friendships really changed over the holidays, and even if you expected it that doesn't make it any less difficult to process. The fact that your friends ignored your presence is incredibly hurtful and I can imagine how disheartening it would have been to try to be part of the group when they were acting like that. I remember in your post from earlier that you weren't sure why they stopped talking to you. Now that you are all in the same space, is there any way that you could ask someone about what has gone wrong? Even if you can't repair the friendship, it could help to get some closure and know what to do next.
I also noticed that you said that you felt okay about it during school and then when you got home you felt so sad. It can take time to process things like this and understand exactly what to do for yourself and the situation. I'm glad you're feeling calmer now and was curious to know what helped? Did it help talking to your mum about everything?
You mentioned that you don't know how to make new friends- I wanted to say that I'm really glad you connected on the forums so we could support you ❤️ Sometimes it can help to just look around at the people that are already near us, whether that be people who we play sport with or a classmate in a class you always see. Is there anyone you know, even if you only talk occasionally to them, that you could strike up a conversation about something with? Maybe you could talk about the holidays? We have a small piece here on making friends which could help too.
Feel free to come and talk to us anytime about what's going on 🙂
hi stormy
when i get back to school next week im gonna try to talk to one of them about what i did wrong. im sure there is nothing i can do about this because only one friend is mad at me and the others just ignore me and get really awkward around me. i dont how to start the conversation though because my one friend that is actually mad at me is quite rude. my school librarian asked me if i was ok on friday and that made me start crying just like when my mum did the same. i calmed down a bit afterwards but i still felt so anxious like clawing my brains out. i dont ever want to go back to a school again. do you know anything that could help me calm down?
Hey @angriest_star, it sounds like you are blaming yourself for how your friends have been treating you? Often with conflict in friendships, no one person is to blame, and it sounds like your friends haven't been very kind to you of late 😞
I can really hear how upsetting this is, and understandably so, especially with the lack of closure over why your friends are acting this way. It makes sense that you would be crying with everything that's been happening. I'm glad to hear your librarian and mum checked in on you, you deserve to have people support you and listen to you. Were you able to talk to your mum and librarian about what's been happening?
You asked if there was anything that could calm you down. I'm wondering what has helped, if anything, in the past? We do have a bunch of resources that you might find helpful for coping, as well as ways to relax. Do any of these appeal to you?
hi @Astra-RO
i managed to talk to some new people in my class today so i have some new people to hang out with now. our senses of humour don't match too well but it's nice to have someone to hang out with. i've never had a way to calm myself before, i can't even listen to music when im stressed because it just makes things worse. writing a sentence or two at the end of the day using a journaling app does make me feel a bit better though. self care has always been something i've wanted to start doing, and i will look into some of those links.
