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Hello All ❤️
I turn 26 next month, which means that this will probably be my last ever post on here 😥
But the good news is that I have moved on to using SANE, which I am absolutely SOLD on, and I have already received great advice from the counsellors on there 😊
I have some news for you all! I have a new crush, and I am looking for some advice on how to go about it! He's a bus driver, and I am (sometimes) a passenger on his bus. He is sooooooooo cute 😍 And by looking at him, I don't think there is a large age gap between us, which I prefer. We've already engaged in small talk about the importance of using pedestrian crossings (although, I must admit, I don't always use them 🙃). While he's usually pretty keen to talk to me, there have been times, however, where he has ignored me (for reasons unknown) and I have in turn ignored him. Recently, he gave me a reeeeeaaaallllyyyy big smile. Like, he turned his entire posture to look directly at me! I felt so special. There was another time where I caught him looking at me from the corners of his eyes, only for him to look away when he saw me. I always make sure to tell him to enjoy his day, and I always thank him for the bus ride. If he's not ignoring me (which is rarely), he'll generally be very thankful and appreciative of my communication with him.
I have a close friend who knows a few bus drivers, so I talked to her about him. I mean, he doesn't wear a wedding band, so I don't know if he's single or not.
Hi @-pringles-
Can I just say I love your positivity and attitude in this post!
That's so cool that you are turning 26, but it's very sad to hear that this will be your last post but I'm glad you have moved onto another platform and that the counsellors are giving you great advice.
That's exciting that you have a new crush, it's always a nice feeling when the interest is reciprocated, I hope it goes well for you, keep us updated! 🙂
Hi @-pringles- 🙂
Turning 26! That's so exciting! Happy early birthday 🥳 It's bittersweet to hear that this will be your last post but I'm glad you've found great support and advice on SANE.
Also your new crush! That is also very exciting. That reallyyyyyy big smile sounds very promising and also catching him looking at you! If you're feeling up for it, maybe you could continue engaging in those conversations you've been having with him and see where they lead. Maybe that can establish with him that you're interested in him because he could be unsure if you are right now! My advice is to just be your wonderful self and let things unfold naturally, your kindness in wishing him a good day and thanking him is a great way to connect.
I'm wishing you all the best! I can't wait to hear about any more updates !!💗
Hey @Howl42
Thank You 🙂
I am certain that I definitely smiled right back at him! But an update includes last week, where we saw each other again. This time, he didnt smile at me. From my understanding, he didn't even acknowledge me 😢. But to be fair, I did have my back to him for the most part, and I genuinely did not know that he was driving past me. So maybe you're right. Maybe he isn't so sure if I am interested in him (when I really am!) I am hoping to bump into him on a Saturday evening so I can tell him to stay safe on the buses.
Hi @-pringles- !
I wouldn't worry too much about him not acknowledging you, it sounds like he probably didn't even see you, especially if your back was turned. Did you end up bumping into him on Saturday evening?
I'm also so sorry to hear you've been feeling emotional over this situation. Like the previous reply said, you shouldn't let him determine your self worth. However, I know I know it can be hard when you have a crush on someone.
I think if you were to pursue a relationship with him, it's crucial that he appreciates you for both your looks and personality, you only want to be with someone who likes you for you. If it turns out he doesn't feel the same way it's ultimately his loss and you deserve someone who loves and values you for who you are.
Please take care of yourself and feel free to send more updates on how you're feeling and how everything is going 🙂
Hey there pringles!
First of all, congrats on turning 26! Which would also be your graduation from this site! It's great that you are also finding other resources in helping your mental health.
Currently, you have a crush on another person as stated in your post. While I'm not too sure what to specifically do in approaching a crush, with the number of small talks you have done with this person, maybe suggesting hanging out at a cafe when both of you two are free? So that you both won't just be having small talks as bus driver and passenger, but as two people on an equal level?
I hope this helps you!
Hey @Orchid_Mallard ,
I am soooo nervous! I really want to talk to him, but what if he's not as interested as I am, or if he's juts being his usual polite self? There have been times where he has ignored me, so I have, in turn, ignored him back. Once as I was attempting to get off his bus and he hadnt opened the doors yet. I had my back to him, and he must have been checking me out, becasue he took a while to open them. He eventually openend them though!
Hi @-pringles- , I see that you're feeling nervous about talking to your crush and that's completely natural. I'm wondering what are some self-care activities that you feel able to do tonight to help you cope with those feelings?
Hey @Marimo-RO ,
I have showered, but still thought of him whilst I was in the shower. I have slept, but on one occassion I dreamt about him. I guess something that truly does take my mind off him is doing volunteer work and crosswords.
Hey @-pringles- It sounds like it's been really tough trying to focus on other things, but that volunteering and crosswords have been helpful. Have you been engaging in these activities lately?
Hey @Astra-RO
Yes, I have been. But I am currently feeling anxious and i want to curl up into a ball and cry. I am sitting in the lounge room with my mum. I am not ready to talk to her about him. But, being around my mum is making me feel a bit better.
Hey @-pringles-
I am sorry to hear that you were feeling anxious before and wanted to curl up into a ball and cry. How are you feeling now?
It sounds like being around mum has been good for you, was anything else able to help you feel a bit better?
Hey @-pringles-
While both of us don't know if he interested in being in a relationship like you want to, it's still good to try to make an intiative in talking to him. Which could show you are making an effort in understanding him in a deeper level? And also it will allow you to understand whether he has similar feelings or not.
Hey @Orchid_Mallard ,
Tomorrow is Saturday, so I plan on talking to him then (but that's only if I bump into him). I plan on talking to him then.
Hey @-pringles-
There there. You tried your best and did what you can.
Hi @-pringles- ,
Firstly thank you for being on the forums for so many years, moving onto SANE is a new adventure and I am so glad you like the counsellors there.
As for this guy, I hope everything works out for you. Are you thinking of asking for his number? Or asking him on a date? Does your friend know if he’s engaged or married?
SANE is lucky to have you, and I hope we get updates on the bus driver.❤️❤️
Hey @Carnation_Snail
I would love his number, but it think it's wrong for a woman to ask a man for his number. But then again, he may think that he's being creepy for asking me for my number (if he were to ask, that is).
@Carnation_Snail @Orchid_Mallard @Howl42 @Blueberry_Kudu
I have been feeling so emotional over this. What if he thinks I am not attractive enough for him, bit like the previous crush I had (who was an ultimate waste of time).
Hey @-pringles-
Worrying about appearances is a natural thing all people have, but it shouldn't go to the point of affecting your actions and feelings. While the choice of whether approaching him in a romantic manner is yours, do remember that there is a possibility that this person might be different from your previous crush.
And if he does reject, remember that loving and taking care of yourself first is also very important.
Hey @Orchid_Mallard ,
I apologise, I don't really think I made myslef very clear in my previous response to you.
While I completely agree with you, my previous crushes were not completely invested or interested in me. I don't really know much about my new crush so I relaly shouldn't be making assumptions or jumpng to any conclusion here 🙂
Hi @-pringles- I’m sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. You mentioned that you’ve been feeling emotional, what does that look like for you?
It’s completely natural to have concerns about how we’re perceived by someone we’re interested in. It can be tricky to stop yourself from worrying about such things, but it's super important to focus on your own feelings and well-being. Most importantly, remember that your worth isn’t determined by someone else’s opinion.
Are there any self-care activities you can think of that might help to take your mind off it tonight?
