Re: [CHAT] R U OK?
- What do you know about R U OK? day? Have you been involved in any events or fundraising?
- National day for asking ‘r u ok’ to someone
- Ask people how they are going (and being genuine about it )
- Bake stalls at school, stickers and asking people if they are ok on Thursday (11th of September)
- National concept
- Cool initiative
- About suicide prevention and awareness, and checking in with your mates and starting a conversation
- Letting people know someone is there for them
- A few people are involved this year
- Why do you think we need a day dedicated to asking people if they “are ok?” ?
- Some people bottle up how they feel so it’s a good way to start thinking about what they can do
- It gives people a chance to respond with “no im not ok”
- Because people never ask (or don’t ask often enough)
- People don’t always realize they need help
- Sometimes it needs to be asked a few times before it sinks in
- Prompts people to open up
- Put the idea of considering how they are in their head
- Most of us think we have our family and friends sussed out when they are feeling down- How do you know when one of your family or friends are struggling? What are signs?
- More quiet than usual,
- Not engaging as much socially
- Not leaving the house much,
- Not wanting to do much
- Being a bit lethargic
- Some individuals present differently
- Some people can see it in their eyes
- Trouble sleeping
- Why do you think some people don’t always choose to not speak out when something isn’t going right for them?
- Sometimes society still thinks that expressing yourself is seen as weak
- Afraid of being judged
- Not sure how they feel or if something is wrong
- Don’t want to talk about it
- Sometimes its thought that they are only asking to be polite, but they don't want to hear the answer.
- People might judge us or not understand
- Our problems aren’t important
- Why do you not always speak out when something isn’t going right for you? How do your family and friends know when somethings not ok?
- Takes a while to work out if it’s a really problem
- Not wanting to talk to just anyone
- Making sure the person you are talking to can handle it
- Peoples anxiety can flare up
- Housemates, family, and partners notice
- How will you respond if someone asks you “r u ok?” on the 11th of September?
- Missing family
- A little bit stressed out
- Having a little trouble with my mental health
- Depends how I feel on the day
- What will it take for you to ask family and friends “r u ok?”? or what might stop you?
- Make sure I allow enough time for them to respond
- Have enough phone credit
- Knock on their door
- Take them for a coffee
- Go for a walk
- How are you going to start the conversation? What are the dos and donts of asking a question like that?
- Be open and empathethic to whatever answer you get
- Wait for responses,
- Ask in a quite place,
- Really mean what you say ,
- Be prepared to just listen
- Actually listen instead of listening with intent to reply
- Consider that people might say they arent ok
- Remember to follow up with asking the next day if they are ok
- Cut them off or assume you know what they're going through
- Rush the process,
- Start offering advise straight away,
- Make faces while they want to talk, body language is really important
- Just assume asking once is enough
Don’t forget to check out the are you ok website
And the factsheets here
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