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Re: [CHAT] R U OK?

Actually listen instead of listening with intent to reply.

My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ

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Don't make faces while they want to talk, body language is really important

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Really great ideas guys Smiley Happy

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DO

- consider that people might say they arent ok

- remember to follow up with asking the next day if they are ok 

 

Dont 

- think once you have asked its over 

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  1. What do you know about R U OK? day? Have you been involved in any events or fundraising?
  • National day for asking ‘r u ok’ to someone
  • Ask people how they are going (and being genuine about it )
  • Bake stalls at school, stickers and asking people if they are ok on Thursday (11th of September)
  • National concept
  • Cool initiative
  • About suicide prevention and awareness, and checking in with your mates and starting a conversation
  • Letting people know someone is there for them
  • A few people are involved this year

 

  1. Why do you think we need a day dedicated to asking people if they “are ok?” ?
  • Some people bottle up how they feel so it’s a good way to start thinking about what they can do
  • It gives people a chance to respond with “no im not ok”
  • Because people never ask (or don’t ask often enough)
  • People don’t always realize they need help
  • Sometimes it needs to be asked a few times before it sinks in
  • Prompts people to open up
  • Put the idea of considering how they are in their head

 

  1. Most of us think we have our family and friends sussed out when they are feeling down- How do you know when one of your family or friends are struggling? What are signs?
  • Irritability
  • More quiet than usual,
  • Not engaging as much socially
  • Not leaving the house much,
  • Not wanting to do much
  • Being a bit lethargic
  • Some individuals present differently
  • Some people can see it in their eyes
  • Trouble sleeping
  1. Why do you think some people don’t always choose to not speak out when something isn’t going right for them?
  • Sometimes society still thinks that expressing yourself is seen as weak
  • Afraid of being judged
  • Shame
  • Not sure how they feel or if something is wrong
  • Don’t want to talk about it
  • Sometimes its thought that they are only asking to be polite, but they don't want to hear the answer.
  • People might judge us or not understand
  • Our problems aren’t important

 

  1. Why do you not always speak out when something isn’t going right for you? How do your family and friends know when somethings not ok?
  • Takes a while to work out if it’s a really problem
  • Not wanting to talk to just anyone
  • Making sure the person you are talking to can handle it
  • Peoples anxiety can flare up
  • Withdraw
  • Housemates, family, and partners notice

 

  1. How will you respond if someone asks you “r u ok?” on the 11th of September?
  • Stressed
  • Worried
  • Missing family
  • A little bit stressed out
  • Having a little trouble with my mental health
  • Depends how I feel on the day

 

 

  1. What will it take for you to ask family and friends “r u ok?”? or what might stop you?
  • Make sure I allow enough time for them to respond
  • Have enough phone credit
  • Knock on their door
  • Take them for a coffee
  • Go for a walk

 

  1. How are you going to start the conversation? What are the dos and donts of asking a question like that?

DO

  • Be open and empathethic to whatever answer you get
  • Wait for responses,
  • Ask in a quite place,
  • Really mean what you say ,
  • Be prepared to just listen
  • Actually listen instead of listening with intent to reply
  • Consider that people might say they arent ok
  • Remember to follow up with asking the next day if they are ok 

 

DON’T

  • Cut them off or assume you know what they're going through
  • Rush the process,
  • Start offering advise straight away, 
  • Make faces while they want to talk, body language is really important
  • Just assume asking once is enough

 

 

Don’t forget to check out the are you ok website

 

 

And the factsheets here

are-you-okay

how-to-ask-a-friend-if-theyre-okay

 

Re: [CHAT] R U OK?

Hey guys its pretty quiet tonight so we might wrap up a bit early. 

I just posted the summary make sure you check out all the links - they are super helpful !!!

 

Thanks for jumping on tonight!!!!

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Thanks to everyone who contributed to tonight's session!

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Thanks for tonight. Smiley Happy

My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ

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Thanks everyone Smiley Happy