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What is the BEST piece of advice you've ever been given?

Hey online community!

 

What's the best piece of advice you've ever been given?

 

Could be something small (e.g., "stopping the kettle right before boiling point makes the best tea" supposedly)

OR

Something big and life changing (e.g., my therapist told me once "every time you get anxious about something not worth worrying over just tell yourself it's your silly little amygdala firing up unnecessarily" - and it works for me a lot because it's very empowering!)

 

Keen to hear all of yours! 🤗

 

Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 26-07-2024 12:42 PM

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frogonthelake
frogonthelakePosted 14-11-2024 04:05 PM

Hey, hoping I'm not too late to the party:) The best piece of advice that has been helping me navigating through my uni life lately is "Everything in life is just an experiment." It really helps with the inner critics within me hehe. 

 
PSYC_G4L
PSYC_G4LPosted 14-11-2024 10:32 AM

“The worst they can say is no”

since hearing this I have adopted it into my life 🫶

 
I_Tried
I_TriedPosted 14-11-2024 10:13 AM

"those who matter dont mind, those who mind dont matter" - bernard baruch

 
Catlover101
Catlover101Posted 26-08-2024 10:33 AM

That bad feelings and memories are easier to remember then the good and happy ones. Really helps me try and prioritise happiness as it is there, its just easier to focus on bad feelings.

 
 
Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 26-08-2024 11:06 AM

I've heard this too @Catlover101

I forgot about it, I should come back to using it

 
snazzy_pigeon
snazzy_pigeonPosted 25-08-2024 05:41 PM

Just saw this post! I think my favourite piece of advice is this following quote: "The universe has three responses to an opportunity given to you: "yes", "not yet" or "there is something better in store".

It's a bit cheesy but it's nice to think about when I've been disappointed in not recieving a job back when I was looking. But of course it's good advice for a ton of other circumstances :]

 
 
Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 26-08-2024 11:08 AM

@snazzy_pigeon I love this way of thinking! Reflecting on previous life events of mine, I can see how this definitely makes sense 💜

 
Danger_Mouse
Danger_MousePosted 24-08-2024 10:07 PM

I love the words I'm reading here, lots of good stuff to take away and think through. The two bits of advice that stick with me are:

* 'Let go of the rope', along the same lines others have written, that a difficulty doesn't go away and doesn't fix itself by focusing on it in circles. Holding onto something's causes more grief than just letting it go. 
*I like Tim Minchin, where he says: “Define yourself by what you love, rather than what you despise, and lavish praise on the people and things that move you.” 

 
 
Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 26-08-2024 11:05 AM

I love Tim Minchin @Danger_Mouse💜

Thank you for these inspiring messages

 
Scarlet_Bird
Scarlet_BirdPosted 24-08-2024 05:35 PM

Hi @Green_Ghost  !!!

 

The best piece of advice I've been given is "everything will come back to the mean" which basically translates to "no matter how bad or how good things are, life will go back to being how you know it". This has been such a good piece of advice for me, especially if I feel overwhelmed or anxious. I remind myself of this so much that it genuinely feels so true for me. Life is a rollercoaster so knowing that I will have my ups and downs but will always fall back to the middle feels really nice 😊

 
 
Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 26-08-2024 11:10 AM

It feels comforting to know that no matter how bad things get, life has a general state that we will fall back to 💜

 
Gemz
GemzPosted 23-08-2024 03:35 PM

Hey online community! 😊

Great question! One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received is, “Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good.” It’s a reminder that striving for perfection can sometimes hold us back from making progress or taking action. It’s often more valuable to do our best and move forward, even if things aren’t perfect. 🌟 

This is a post we all will learn so much from. It’s insightful, and I’m really looking forward to hearing your best pieces of advice, whether they’re small tips or big life lessons! 😊 All of the advice shared so far are amazing—I’ve read all of them, and they’ve been incredibly impactful. Thanks for bringing this up! 😊

 
 
Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 26-08-2024 11:12 AM

I second this @Gemz

Perfection can be hard to attain, as long as you do your best you're making good progress!

 
Rara
RaraPosted 05-08-2024 03:24 PM

Hey @Green_Ghost

One of the best pieces of advice I have received is "Maybe it's not meant for you." I often keep this in mind when I don't get something or a position I want or an even grade but also to add to it  "Something better will come for you."  This has helped me a lot to stop comparing myself to others and be patient at that moment, that what it is right for you will come at the right moment. 

 
 
Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 07-08-2024 06:28 PM

I love this way of thinking @Rara😊

 
Cinnamon_Wombat
Cinnamon_WombatPosted 01-08-2024 01:56 PM

Hey there!

One of the best pieces of advice I've ever received is to "focus on what you can control." This simple yet powerful idea has helped me navigate stressful situations by shifting my attention from things I can't change to those I can influence. It has made a huge difference in how I handle anxiety and uncertainty😁

 
 
Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 05-08-2024 11:12 AM

I use this one too @Cinnamon_Wombat

 

Focusing on the things I can control makes me feel more in control of the situation in those aspects, and it feels good to let go of the things I can't control because I'm not responsible for those.

 
Scarlet_Locust
Scarlet_LocustPosted 30-07-2024 06:59 PM

@Green_Ghost , this is such a great post idea, thankyou!

 

My contribution to this post isn't advice per se, but one of my favourite quotes/affirmations:

 

"I will be gentle with myself. I will allow myself space to grow

 

I've had this quote as my screensaver on and off for the last five-ish years and I think it's just such a lovely reminder 💜🌹

 
 
Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 31-07-2024 07:09 PM

Beautiful contribution @Scarlet_Locust ☺️

 

I think it's important to be gentle with ourselves, and not be too harsh on ourselves. If we learn to nurture ourselves this will allow us the capacity for growth 🌱

 
PeelingOranges
PeelingOrangesPosted 29-07-2024 11:08 AM

Hey @Green_Ghost , this is a great topic !!

For me, there are two that come to mind. One is from my mum, who told me that "when you're worried about whether you'll do well, you should just be more objective about yourself." It sounds weird but it really works for me because I tend to put logic over feelings, so when I'm anxious about how I'll perform in an exam or how an assignment will go, I just take a step back and look at the situation more objectively. Have I followed the rubric to a T? Yes. Have other similar assignments gone fine in the past? Yes. Is there any objective reason to worry about this? No...

The other is actually from my ex back in high school. I was feeling guilty and ashamed of the way I was behaving back then, where I'd let my feelings show on my face or show people in subtle ways that I'd been crying, so that they'd know I was going through a hard time without me having to say anything. I felt like I was just being attention-seeking and dramatic, and I told him this, but he said "I don't think it's being attention-seeking. And even if it is, what's wrong with seeking attention if you're having a hard time? You're just not that good at asking for help with words, so you try to show people in another way in the hopes that they'll do something." Thinking about it now, I guess it's not really 'advice' per se, but it really stuck with me because it made me more self-aware of how I feel about asking for and receiving help, and also made me feel less ashamed about wanting people to know I was struggling.

 
 
Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 29-07-2024 11:18 AM

Those are very valuable contributions, thank you @PeelingOranges

 

The assignment/exam one is definitely a good idea for the upcoming end of year assessments. I like the idea of being able to take a step back and think logically about it all. Rubrics are key! ☺️

 

This second one I'm sure many can relate to! I totally understand what you mean. I think the entire point of 'attention-seeking' has been misconstrued. Of course it depends on what a person is 'attention-seeking' about as some attention-seeking can be problematic for different reasons, but in the case of mental health and seeking help but not knowing how to ask for it, this can be the way to get help for some ❤️

 
Pinkfluffyunicorn24
Pinkfluffyunicorn24Posted 28-07-2024 08:46 PM

 Hi @Green_Ghost 
I think this such a great post that we can all gain valuable insight from 🙂 


The best piece of advice I've ever received is the quote I stumbled upon on Pinterest ( I'm a Pinterest type of gal) "

"I'm slowly learning that even it I react, it won't change anything, it won't make people suddenly love and respect me, it won't magically change their minds. Sometimes It's better to just let things be, let people go, don't fight for closure, don't ask for explanations, don't chase answers and don't expect people to understand where you're coming from. It's not worth your mental health"


Growing up in an abusive environment, I've lived through a lot of gaslighting, manipulation, and psychological abuse, especially from my mum. But this quote was a wake-up call, making me realise that my reactions and efforts won't change others' behaviour or earn me the love and respect I deserve.

This advice has been liberating, teaching me to:

- Let go of the need for closure and understanding from toxic individuals
- Prioritise my mental health and well-being above all else
- Practice self-care and self-compassion, which has become my lifeline
- Recognise that I deserve love and respect, regardless of others' actions
- Focus on my own healing and growth, rather than trying to change others

It's still a daily struggle, but this advice has helped me slowly break free from the cycle of hurt and abuse. I'm learning to channel my energy into self-love and self-acceptance, rather than seeking it from those who have consistently failed to provide it. Remember, your mental health is worth fighting for – not with others, but for yourself.

 
 
Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 29-07-2024 11:03 AM

I love this piece of advice @Pinkfluffyunicorn24

 

I've tried to start doing this too, and it's taken a weight off of me. In the past it seems that no matter how much I try to explain myself or gain closure sometimes it has no effect or isn't worth the efforts I put in.

 

You do deserve love and respect irregardless of anyone else's opinions and I'm so glad you've got this growth mindset to break free from the cycle ☺️

 
Matcha_Toad
Matcha_ToadPosted 27-07-2024 12:59 PM

Hi @Green_Ghost

Thank you so much for this post!

I think the best piece of advice I ever received and use to this day is to "take things one day at a time". My mind tends to overthink, and I can get caught up trying to plan for the future, but being able to step back and remind myself to do one thing at a time is so helpful.

- Matcha_Toad 🐸🍵💚

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