good things
hi again RO! since I logged in to ask for help with some heavy topics, I thought I'd also share some things that are going well for me lately and celebrate them with you guys!
1. I found community at a new hobby. I feel so welcomed and accepted there.
2. I found out that I am neurodivergent and so many things make sense now! I have a psychologist that uses therapy approaches tailored for ND people. For the first time I feel like therapy is actually working for me, and it's so amazing!
3. I realised some new things about my gender, and I'm using a new name and pronouns with my friends. Every time I hear them say my name, it makes me so happy. A lot of times we focus on how difficult it is to be trans, but I'm also finding so much joy in it every day.
4. I have really great friends, and, lately I have met a lot of new people I like as well. I feel like the world is so full of awesome people you can meet.
5. I have an interesting job where I'm respected and accommodated. Finding work I can cope with has been a real challenge for me, so I feel so lucky to finally have a job like this.
that's just a few things and I could go on. thanks RO for the part you've played in my journey to this point 🙂
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Hi @lemurien
This makes me so happy to hear, thanks so much for sharing this with us!! It sounds like it wasn't easy getting to this point, and some of these things were hard won, which makes them all the more amazing and worthy of celebration! 😍 I can imagine how incredible it feels to finally have things clicking, especially with the recent progress you've made with the ND tailored therapy and the sense of belonging you're feeling. I'm so proud of you for all these different parts of your life you've nurtured, it really is awesome to see and I hope you continue killing it! 🥳
I'm curious what hobby you've been getting into, if you're comfortable sharing? 😊
Thanks @sunset_hues it does feel awesome the way these things have clicked into place 🙂 For a long time I felt lost and like life was such a struggle. I didn't think I was ever going to figure it out. I feel really proud of myself for making it here. My new hobby is a martial art! It's really cool to do punches and kicks and fend off attacks!! I've never done anything like it before. in the past I've tried sports/hobbies and found them too stressful and overwhelming, but this group is a queer, ND friendly trauma-informed space and I always feel safe there.
As you should be! When you're feeling low it can take a lot of strength to pull yourself out of that hole, I'm glad things are finally looking up:) Also wanted to say the multiple parts of your life you've improved is really inspiring to me personally, because there are a few areas that I think I'd like to build on in my own life too.
That is such a cool hobby, I've alway wanted to try out martial arts. Feels like it would take a lot of discipline, and it would be so satisfying to watch all your hardwork pay off as you get physically stronger. But the real cherry on top is being surrounded by people that understand you and make you feel safe. I'm so glad you found them 💛
Hey @lemurien
Seeing this post made my day. As I look back over the past posts you have made, what really stands out to me is how much you have overcome over the last 12 months (and maybe even longer!). While I know life may continue to throw some challenges your way, I can clearly see your grit and all things you have learned to help you pull through really dififcult times. This list is a real demonstration of all the incredible things you have grown in your life and it is so worth celebrating! I hope you are proud of just how far you have come as I know we are, here at RO.
P.s. LOVE that you have discovered your preferred pronouns too! Feel free to share them with us here if you are comfortable to do so.
Thank you @Erin_RO never thought of myself as someone with grit before but I guess you're right! It took a lot of determination and resilience to get here. I wanted to give up so many times. It always made a difference knowing RO was there, even if you guys can't 'fix' my problems, but at least having a space to write things down, reflect and be listened to.
I have started using he/him pronouns - I wish I could share my name here too but of course I won't, but just know it's super cute and fits me perfectly 🙂 A friend of mine thought of it for me, which makes it really special. It also makes me feel connected to my roots (for my birth name my parents just chose a random generic name with no cultural significance, whereas my new name comes from our heritage culture). I love it
I'm so happy to read this @lemurien ! You must feel so seen by your friends who celebrate you for who you are. It takes so much courage to explore those parts of yourself that may have been denied by family or society and I am so inspired by the steps you have taken to honour all the parts of you that make you so special. It is a real pleasure to learn more about you, Lemurien, whose pronouns are he/him 👏
