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How can I un-see this?

I have always had a pretty good relationship with my dad. He is still with my mum and they have been married for 28 years
Last night I wanted to show my sister and mum something on youtube and he told me to use his phone...
When I clicked the search button his history came down which had three searches that shocked me "sex" "sex video" and "porn"
We were with family members and I didnt know what to do so I just handed him the phone with the search history still open and said it isnt working
I text him later with the instructions of how to delete history 'for future reference' so he knows I know
I slept over my bf's house that night and text both my parents goodnight - he replied saying love you and also "all cleared, are we good?" And I replied with yes...
I have had a few normal conversations with him today but I feel really strange and weird around him
I googled forums and all the responces have said its normal for men to watch it and stuff I just never had that in my mind and thought I would witness that...
and the fact that he knows I know makes it weird too I just dont know what to do and if this is going to ruin our relationship
cjkb
cjkbPosted 26-12-2015 05:20 PM
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ElleBelle
ElleBellePosted 26-12-2015 07:46 PM

Oh no, what an awkward thing to see on your Dad's phone @cjkb Smiley Frustrated

The info you've Googled is accurate. Lots of men occasionally watch porn online, in fact I'd go as far as to say that most men do - even married men. A lot of women do too. I understand how gross and creepy it is to think of your Dad doing that, but I think you handled it really well. You didn't embarrass him in front of the rest of your family, but you were able to let him know what you saw in a mature way.

I understand the desire to want to scrub that from your memory. I heard my parents doing it once and I wished I had some ear bleach! Unfortunately what's done is done, and now you just have to move on as best you can. I don't think it has to change your relationship with your Dad. If you continue to feel uncomfortable as time goes on, you can have a chat with him about it - maybe even laugh about it some day!

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