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Unemployment is ruining me

hey everyone, just what to rant I guess because I’m tired of my situation so apologies about this rant 🥲

 

nearly 20yo & never worked. To sum it up. 


I struggled a fair bit in my HighSchool years with my mh & for some dumb reason, I convinced myself I wasn’t ready to work & I will wait to get help… well nobody helped me & I obviously failed myself. So I am already struggling mentally with the decisions I made back than w/ not choosing to work .


I didn’t start actively looking for a job until  last year & im only looking at 2 shopping centres which really isn’t helping me but I don’t want to go any further. The closer to home, the better my availability looks + I don’t drive. The traffic is also very bad in certain roads so it’ll be a pain to get to  if it were any other place  


So whilst I haven’t been applying to many jobs, I am applying & im doing my best to stand out with strong availability &  early applications but nothing… no interviews, literally dead silence 
It’s so hard, idk what I’m doing wrong. 
my mental health is horrible, I feel like I’m in slow motion most days, I’m so ashamed, embarrassed & struggling. Everything feels meaningless.
As I’m a uni student doing a degree in the helping profession with placement next yr, I feel like I’ve ruined any chance at doing a good placement & standing out.  & I love my degree & what I do! I love it so much it hurts that my unemployment could take it away from me.  Even if I get a job now… it’ll still look horrible

 


Uni is also draining me out but my mum said I can’t take a break from it unless I have a job 

Everyone I met at uni seems to work except me & I caught myself last wk just saying I did work but stopped bc of uni… 😭

 

i also spent my whole summer break in bed depressed bc I don’t work. No money= no social life.

I also last yr started struggling w/ a possible chronic illness flare up for 8 months & knew if I was working I would have gone docs (bc there was no way I would have been able to work sufficiently w/ it).

I know I need to go doctors but it feels pointless bc I’m unemployed... what’s the point of taking care of it when I do nothing all day anyways & the 1 thing I rlly need… I don’t have (a job) + I’ll need to see a specialist which is just $$$$ that I don’t have.

 

my parents keep hustling me to get a job & my mum complains about it far too much for somebody who didn’t bother to help me when I was struggling w/ my mh. & I feel horrible using their money, I don’t let myself always buy what I want & do my best not to spend it unless I need to.

 

i am just feeling so empty. 

Unemployment sucks & is definitely the worst thing I have ever experienced. 

winterr002
winterr002Posted 03-04-2024 07:23 PM

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Green_Ghost
Green_GhostPosted 03-04-2024 09:49 PM

Hello @winterr002 thanks so much for sharing 😌

 

Yeah I feel you, job hunting is difficult. I'm about to start looking for a new job in the next 6 months that is degree-related and I'm already pre-emptively feeling overwhelmed. You're definitely not alone. A lot of other people I go to uni with, in the psychology/counselling profession which is also a degree in the helping profession, don't have jobs either - some volunteer. Uni can take up a lot of time and mental health can be a struggle, it can be difficult to find time or motivation for employment or really anything.

 

Regarding the anxiety around your placement coming up, have you considered doing some volunteering? I've found that jobs are difficult to get, but volunteering positions are a lot easier to obtain. Is there maybe any volunteering positions open near you or online that would look good on your resume for your specific degree area?

 

In the meantime, while you're job searching, is there anything you can do for self-care? This sounds like a difficult time for you and it's important to be kind to yourself and take care of yourself. What would this look like for you?

 
Lily_RO
Lily_ROPosted 03-04-2024 08:38 PM

Hey @winterr002 , thank you for sharing what's on your mind. Firstly, I want to say that it's absolutely okay to rant here, and it's okay to feel tired of your situation. Your feelings are completely valid, and you never need to apologise for expressing them 😊

It sounds like you've been through a lot, especially with your mental health struggles during high school. It's understandable how those challenges might have impacted your decisions about work. It's tough to feel like you've let yourself down, but please know that you're not alone in feeling this way.

Job hunting can be incredibly frustrating!! Especially when you're putting in the effort and not seeing the results you hope for. It also sounds like you're dealing with pressure from your family about finding a job, and it's understandable how that can add to the overwhelm you’re feeling. It's clear that you're trying your best, and I seriously admire your determination despite the obstacles you're facing. Btw, we have an article on dealing with unemployment stress here that I thought you might be interested in. 

Your love for your degree and your passion for the helping profession shines through your words, and it's clear that you have a lot to offer. Try to remind yourself that setbacks in employment don't define your worth or your potential in your field of study. It’s positive that you have a placement coming up - this could be a great opportunity for networking and building valuable connections within the industry. 

I'm sorry to hear about your struggles with your health as well. It sounds incredibly tough to deal with a chronic illness flare-up on top of everything else you’re dealing with. Regardless of your employment status, it sounds like something worth checking in with your doctor about, what do you think? 

With everything you're going through at the moment, I'm wondering if you have anyone supporting you through these challenges you’re facing, whether that be a family member, friend, or mental health professional? Additionally, are there any activities that have helped you get through these moments of emptiness?

I want you to know that you're not alone in feeling the emptiness that unemployment can bring. It's a tough situation to be in, but you're doing your best, and that's all anyone can ask of you. Take things one step at a time, and remember to be kind to yourself along the way 💛

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