Why I don't have any friend. Why there's nothing in my head?
I used to be a bright student back at my school. Passed out my school, entered in university and my brightness started dimming. After passing out from college, my brightness was gone. I had nothing in my head, no future plans, no strategies, no friends nothing. Now I'm turning 25 next month and my parents still yelling at me.
Sometimes I feel I'm still a child, have to listen to parents while my friends have started out their lives independently. Why am I unable to decide what to do in my life?
The thing is: I want to be self-dependent, skilled enough that I don't need future counsellors, career counsellors or stuffs like these.
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Hi @Astroadvisor,
Welcome to the Online Community and thank you for sharing what you’re going through at the moment. It shows a lot of strength and courage to reach out and the community is here to support you 😊
I can hear how challenging it has been since finishing university and noticing how your brightness has slowly dimmed over the years, and I can imagine how incredibly painful that must be to feel. It sounds like it has been difficult to decide what you want to do in your life and find some connection with others. Feeling uncertain about your future and plans is a lot for anyone to experience and it’s understandable if you’re feeling overwhelmed with deciding what to do. Leaving university is a big chapter and transition so it’s valid if you’re unsure about what’s next.
I’m interested if you have had the chance to reach out to friends or family about how you’re feeling lately?
I’m also sorry to hear that it’s been hard to feel a sense of independence since finishing University. It sounds like it’s been really disheartening to view the lives of other people while also comparing yourself. I want to acknowledge how heavy it can be to reflect on a time when life felt brighter, and sharing your thoughts here with the community shows a lot of resilience and self-insight.
These are strong feelings to be experiencing, and I am wondering what you have been doing to take care of yourself during this time?
You might also be interested in checking out this collection of articles about goal setting and this other article about loneliness.
I also just want to let you know, that I have made some edits in your post to keep in line with the community guidelines 🙂
Looking forward to hearing from you 🙂
