another uni rant :(
i hate the content pace, i hate core subjects, I'm not looking forward to midsemester tests and semester exams I understand why ppl say uni ain't worth it
why is feeling 100% so difficult, uni literally makes me miss high school (and my childhood) fuck this. making friends in uni feels so unfulfilling when u just miss ur friends from high school
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Hi @yeah_it_tahtperson 
I know what you mean. It is a huge transition and very different in every way to high school.
My recommendation for making friends is join uni societies!! It is so insanely hard to make friends in classes. The only way I personally did was by joining societies and actively trying to participate and join committees and things. It's hard and annoying but I can not preach enough how rewarding it was. All of my uni friends were formed through joining societies and going to their events.
The content pace and the content itself is something that takes getting used to. Utilise the uni resources! A lot of the time there are mentor programs and things that can help with note taking and writing style and maths and things like that. I never used them in undergrad but now in my post grad and outgrowing my mindset of 'do it myself' I have found it so rewarding to actually use what the uni is offering.
Uni is different and it is hard but it there are so many great things about it if you can open yourself up to the opportunities.
You are doing great and you are not alone!
@Catlover101 hey im not actually planning on doing a postgrad, its not just about how dry uni feels but also I feel a bachelor is sufficient to get an entry job and I don't want to accumulate too much uni debt either
That sounds really rough, and I totally get where you're coming from. University can feel super overwhelming, especially when the pace is crazy and the workload is heavy. Reflecting on my experience, I definitely remember feeling a similar way around finding new friendships and staying academically competitive.
The whole "feeling 100%" thing is tough, especially when you're juggling all that pressure. It’s normal to have days where everything feels like too much. And when making friends in uni feels shallow or just not the same as high school, it can be really draining. It’s hard to click with people when you’re still thinking about the friends you had before.
Maybe it’s worth remembering that it’s okay to not be fully "on" all the time. We're only human and our best will look different everyday. In the meantime, I'm wondering if there's anything you could do to take care of yourself? I find that small acts of self-care can make a big difference in how I'm feeling on any given day. These can range from reaching out to others for a chat (like friends, family, mental health professionals) or doing things on your own that you find fulfilling (such as watching your favourite tv show or cooking a meal that you love eating).
All in all, I can tell you're trying your best to stay on top of things and that's something to be proud of. 💛
i get where you're coming from but I don't feel a difference from doing something to take care of myself after a shitty day of uni, and the thing is I don't think I'll feel 100% anytime soon
Welcome back @yeah_it_tahtperson
I'm so sorry to hear that you're having this experience with university, it's not for everyone and I do miss the pacing of high school.
I agree with the core subjects being boring, I always sucked at some of them and it felt like the core units did not tie into my degree.
If you don't mind me asking, what were the reasons why you wanted to go to university if there are any?
Kind regards,
Stego
@Sky_Stegosaurus imma be real it was mainly parental pressure and to get qualifications for a higher job
Hi @yeah_it_tahtperson 
Sounds like uni has been causing some difficulties, and you have been struggling with transition. With uni, there is bascially no crash course, it felt like for me it was just you knew what exactly what you had to do. I think sometimes this makes uni a bit outdated but also while workplaces are much better about transitioning you into a new job, it not always the case and this is sort of a set up like that.
Uni definitely does make you miss your childhood, seeing your friends everyday to just all of a sudden you don't it can be a hard adjustment. When it comes to friends at uni, just give it time, it certainly does take time. People will just come and go and I think it is important to find people at uni who are almost just as committed as you are which can take time. There are some people who come into class and then just go home, some that will organnise study groups and want to be there and some who involve themselves so much, plus more. It just takes time finding the right people, it can feel unfulfilling because you haven't met those people yet.
When it comes to content pace, I 100% get it, I have found myself today sitting at my desk all day getting ahead. However, this was planned and I think thats important, because planning out task and what you need to do can make a great difference. I also find that if I am stressing about an assignment or a test, just getting pen to paper helps. It makes me feel like I have done something and then I can go and edit it later. Having a list of things you need to do but also non-negoitables when it comes to uni, things that have to be done that make it feel like weight is lifted off your chest. My non-negoitable is being a week ahead of class content, yes I get it thats hard but I do this so the rest of the time can be spent doing assignments, test prep, readings etc but also ensuring I have a life. I do this once a week by setting time aside to go through the content of all my classes.
I also think its important of self care. If its too hard to do something everyday plan something every week, even if it is simple as something going for a walk. Uni can quickly become overwhelming and burn yourself out thats why its important to look after yourself. Also it can slow things down at times.
yeah probably is my friends as organised as me so I find we don't share free time to hangout which ends up draining me as I crave for social interactions with ppl I'm already familiar with
Hi @yeah_it_tahtperson, thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you have been having a really hard time adjusting to uni. The transition from high school to uni can be difficult because of how different the setup is and how sometimes uni isn’t what you expected it to be. And it can be a major letdown.
It’s sad to hear that making friends at uni has been unfulfilling. Being separated from your high school friends after being with them and seeing each other everyday for years is a big change and difficult to adjust to. Uni can feel isolating when you’re not in the same course as your friends and it seems like this has been making you feel more overwhelmed on top of your course content and requirements.
I feel like engaging in self-care would be helpful right now. Do you think there’s something you can do to make yourself feel a bit better? It can be anything like treating yourself with something nice, going for a walk, or even as simple as letting yourself take a break from schoolwork to breathe and relax.
I’ve been reading your previous posts and it really seems like you’ve been having a challenging time at uni. I hope being able to speak about it here in the OC has helped and that you receive the support that you seek. I feel like this is a common experience and I’m sure that you’re not alone in feeling this way, especially during the transition phase.
I wish you all the best 😊
dont get me wrong i do take breaks but it usually leads to procrastination, I don't really commit to walks til late in the day and I feel they don't always clear my mind from moodiness
I can relate to how taking breaks can sometimes lead to procrastination 😅 although, it's still great to hear that you take breaks once in a while because it's still important to do so 😊
As for walks, it sounds like it's not something that works for you. And that's okay. Have you had the chance to explore other things that you can do to clear your mind?
Hi @yeah_it_tahtperson, I'm sorry to hear that you're not enjoying uni at the moment. It is a lot to adjust to, especially when you're comparing it to high school and your childhood. Also this time of semester is usually the worst, when all the assessments and exams pile up and it just feels like too much. I'd say most of your classmates would be feeling similarly to you right now.
One thing I recommend you think about is whether you felt stress like this during high school? Maybe you really enjoyed high school, but I'm sure there were moments where you felt stressed, exhausted, isolated, bored, or just sick of being at school all the time. But you persisted and now you look back and wish you were there again. Perhaps this may give you some perspective about uni - you might not like it now, but there may be parts that you do enjoy. For example, the flexibility - when you're at school or working full-time, you don't get to sleep in or have as much control over your schedule. Also, at uni while there are annoying core subjects, you can also choose electives that you're interested in, and they can be enjoyable.
Also, I'd highly recommend practising some self-care and engaging in other activities outside of uni, such as exercise, catching up with your high school friends or doing a hobby. This can provide a break from uni and you might find yourself feeling refreshed when you return to your studies.
This is not an easy time of semester, so be kind to yourself. I wish you the best!
during high school i think dreaded tutoring the most, uni electives seem fun but they don't occur til second year for me
was gonna do uni sport but that got cancelled cos not enough players, regular walks can be pleasant at times but arent instantly gratifying
That makes sense that you dreaded tutoring, it can be a very frustrating experience! So it's good to get some perspective that just like uni, high school wasn't great all the time.
That's disappointing about electives not starting until next year, maybe that's something you can look forward to as motivation to keep going with uni?
That's also disappointing about uni sport being cancelled, have you tried joining a social team such as through Urban Rec? They can provide a good opportunity to meet people and get active. And I agree walks aren't instantly gratifying all the time but that's good that you find them to be pleasant at times.
I hope this helps!
Thank you for sharing. I just want to start by saying that I completely empathise with your frustration regarding university, especially with how different it is to high school. As someone who was in and out of uni, and took almost 5 years to complete a 3 year degree, because of a lot of life issues and having to support myself - I completely understand feeling frustrated at how different life is after high school.
I know how tough it can be to adjust to the pace and structure of university, especially when it doesn’t feel as rewarding as you hoped. It’s completely valid to miss the familiarity of high school and the friendships that felt more natural.
The pressure of core subjects, exams, and making new connections can be overwhelming, and it’s okay to feel like it’s not living up to expectations. Sometimes, uni can feel like a means to an end rather than something you genuinely enjoy, but that doesn’t mean your experience won’t evolve over time.
It might be worth considering taking a break if you’re really struggling, and finding something else to fill your time that is less stressful, until you can find a passion for uni again. It’s not for everyone, and there’s no shame in trying something new.
Just please take care of yourself and know that you’re not alone in feeling this way.
