chronically sad
exam preparation is not it bro, maybe its cos i don't have schoolies lined up but everything feels so demotivating, probably cos of tutoring ngl. there's too much parental pressure to consider a uni course that requires a lower atar. i see no reason to miss the academic aspect of high school
it has been a depressing cycle of school tutor sleep and as suggested that's probably why my health really sucks, i tried extracurriculars but i didn't get as much joy out of them as i would've liked
the end of year 12 might seem exciting but it feels very terrifying, like the other side of the finish line doesn't feel so hopeful, in a months time we all say goodbye knowing there wont be much effort to reunite in person
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Hey @yeah_it_tahtperson,
I'm sorry to hear that you've been feeling this way. The end of year 12 can be a very difficult time for so many, due to exam stress, a fear of the unknown and having to say goodbye to friends. Many of the other messages have touched on managing your expectations around academics and managing parental pressures and stress, so I thought I'd talk more about your last point about this feeling that there won't be much effort to reunite with people in the future.
I felt exactly the same way at the end of year 12. In fact, I was convinced that graduation would be the last day I saw many of my friends. But, it's been 4 years, and I regularly still catch up with most of my close friends from high school. It certainly hasn't been easy with vastly different schedules, and some of my friends moved interstate, so it does require a fair bit of planning and organisation. However, I wanted to remind you that with that extra bit of effort, if you want to stay connected to your friends, you absolutely can!
All the best for your exams, and if you're ever in need of any support or just want to have a chat, please don't hesitate to reach out!💛
Thank you for using the Reach Out forums 🙂
Im really sorry to hear how hard the end of Year 12 is for you.
It sounds like there's a lot of parental pressure and fear of the unknown and change.
Please know there is mental health support out there, there's eHeadspace, KidsHelpline, Lifeline and Reach Out Peer Chat.
Year 12 is such a stressful time, I personally experienced a lot of this when I graduated two years ago.
You are so close to the finish line! and you have graduated, which is something you should be SO proud of.
Please know you're not alone, please go kind and easy on yourself and do things to take care of your mental health as well.
Youve got this, I believe in you 🙂
Hi @yeah_it_tahtperson, I can understand how overwhelming ending school can be.
It’s the end of a chapter, and the beginning of a life of adulthood with endless possibilities and pathways to travel.
I think ending school is a good thing in terms of revealing who your true friends are. I promise you the ones you appreciate will stay in contact, even if it’s just a few.
In terms of academics, I hope you can take off the pressure and put things into perspective. You are working so hard in order to make a better future for yourself! 1-2 years from now ATAR will be old and the stress of today gone. This is why I’d like you to slow down and appreciate the little things.
Enjoy the funny conversations with friends, recess and lunch breaks and School events. I encourage you to be present. It makes it so much better.
You can’t work on an empty tank. Fill your tank with what helps you, whether that be social outings, reading or simply more sleep 😂
I am so proud of you for making it this far, the best is yet to come!
Hi there @yeah_it_tahtperson
I know how you feel, I hated prepping for my exams. It can feel really de-motivating, and with the stress of trying to get into uni courses with your ATAR it feels like a lot to cope with.
Was schoolies something you wanted to go to? If you can't make it to schoolies, what would you think about setting up something else to do/motivate you? Such as going somewhere fun after exams or treating yourself to something you've wanted for a while.
In regards to uni, what are you interested in pursuing? Do you have an idea of the kind of courses you'd like to do?
How are you looking after yourself and coping with all of this? Do you have any self-care methods to help you cope when you feel this way? When I was doing my exams I liked to take breaks in between learning content and keep some time for myself. I ended up binging squid game in between my exam study breaks and that kept me going 💪. Please look after yourself during this time, and be kind to yourself 💜
Hey @yeah_it_tahtperson,
Thank you for sharing what you're going through. It sounds like preparing for your exams has been exhausting, with having to navigate tutoring combined with parental pressures. I can also see that your health isn't great as you've been going through a cycle of school, tutoring and sleeping. I am wondering if you've considered seeing your GP about your health?
It is really understandable that with the end of year 12 looming, you are feeling terrified. It is such a big moment in your life and is definitely a daunting process. While you might be saying goodbye to seeing your friends everyday, you can still remain connected online! As you navigate your exams, I am curious to know what you will be doing to take care of yourself during this time?
I hope to hear from you soon!
im seeing my gp on the 25th I'm not really sure how to initiate such a conversation, I'm hoping to catchup with my friends to study together but there's been a lot of resistance all year from them
idk doing everything alone feels really depressing
Hey @yeah_it_tahtperson 🩶
It seems like year 12 coming to an end is making you feel worried instead of excited. This is such a big time of transition and growth, so it’s completely normal to be feeling this way. I know I definitely felt a more scared than excited when finishing high school, as we don’t really know what to expect afterwards. The fear that we will unlikely see these people again is very real, and I know a lot of people feel like that. As much as it can be scary, I would also like you to know that more often than not, these fears do not come true. I still see some people from school, one of which I am super close with. The greatest part is, I have met new people at uni, which has created many new friendships in my life. The future is not always bad, maybe just different to what we thought it would look like.
You also mention feeling chronically sad, I just wanted to know is there anyone you feel comfortable speaking about this to in person? e.g friends, family, school staff, psychologist? There is support and you shouldn’t have to feel this way alone.
I am also sorry you have been experiencing pressure from your parents regarding uni courses. I think it’s important to be clear with your goals and wishes, because ultimately it is your life. It’s really hard, but they shouldn’t be pressuring you out of something you want. There are so many paths out there, you will find the best one for you ❤️
Overall, you should be super proud of yourself for coming to the end of year 12! It’s a big deal, and the fact you’ve made it this far says a lot about your ability and determination. Wishing you the best of luck, you deserve to celebrate these efforts 🎉
sending love, and hope to speak again soon 🫶🏻
