I feel horrible and I don't know why.
I don't know what else to say tbh
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Hi @Thistle_Fly,
I'm sorry to hear that things have been challenging for you.
Based on your prior post it sounds like you're juggling a lot at the moment, so it's completely understandable that you're feeling this way. When life throws a lot of things our way all we can do is our best to manage everything and I can tell you're trying your absolute best. I think that's something important to acknowledge. 💛
As @Blue_Dolphin suggested, practicing self-compassion is really important. It helps us be kinder to ourselves, especially when things get tough. For me, acts of self-care help to lift me up. The smallest of things can make a big difference sometimes, such as going on a walk outside or reading a book. Does anything come to mind for you?
Sending hugs your way and wishing you all of the best! 😊
Hey @Thistle_Fly ,
I've actually just come from your other post about balancing all your stress with uni and exam prep, and how you're feeling a bit lonely right now too. I'm so sorry to hear that things are feeling really horrible right now for you. Sometimes life happens and things get tough, and that's ok. Even though it really sucks, all of these feelings are normal and ok.
Like @Stormy-RO said, if you feel up to sharing a little more, we're happy to listen. Take it easy ❤️
Hey @Thistle_Fly I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling horrible at the moment 😞 I read your other post and saw that you have a lot on your plate, it makes sense that you wouldn't be feeling your best. Do you want to tell us more about how you're feeling? I was also wondering if there has been anything or anyone that's been helping, or has helped in the past when you're feeling like this?
If you're ever looking for someone to talk to, Kids Helpline is available 24/7. And as always the community is here for you ❤️
Heyy,
Thankyou so so much. I really lack friends in my life. I basically have zero friends. I think I just need someone to confide with and for someone else to confide with me - to actually build a deeply caring and loving relationship. I have been lonely for the past three years of my life - having no real friend. Due to my differing values and beliefs to that of my family and religion, I grew to feel very disconnected from them, even though I do still care and love my family members. But I think I came to realise that love is not enough, being understood by someone who also cares and loves you is probably more important, especially when you reach a certain age.
Uni and study - well, I guess I am trying to do my best in that. Just probably need some encouragement and motivation.
Hi @Thistle_Fly, that sounds really tough - feeling disconnected from family and also lacking connection in the form of friendships. I really understand the desire to be loved and cared for by someone else, especially in this phase of life after high school when it seems like everyone else is in relationships or has close friends.
First I want to say that you are not alone - there are so many people, here on ReachOut and out in the world, who understand what you are going through. We are here to listen at any time.
It sounds like you're working really hard with your studying, and that uni is something that you value. Could you try to make connections with other people who also value uni? This can also provide a form of mutual encouragement. You don't have to have everything in common with your classmates, but having a shared interest in doing well or learning more about a particular area can be a good form of connection. I know this is easier said than done - uni is not always an easy place to make friends, when you only spend a few hours a week together, but perhaps after working on a group assignment or before an exam you can suggest to someone that you catch up to study in the library? You may or may not become closer friends after that but at least it is some form of connection and at the same time may help you to deal with your stresses about doing well at uni.
Another thing that I think may be helpful for you to work on is self-compassion. When I'm feeling particularly lonely or like I don't have close friends who truly care for me, I try to be that friend to myself. You may find it helpful to imagine your younger self, then put your hand over your heart (it may feel a bit cheesy!) and say some kind words to yourself, like "I love you" and "I'm here for you". This may help you to feel that sense of warmth and understanding that you feel like you're missing at the moment.
I hope this helps - and again I want to say that we are here whenever you need!
