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Loosing my big brother

Hi guys. Sorry I haven't posted on her in a while I've been going through a lot of family problems.

Just before Christmas my older brother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. The doctor pretty much told us my brother only has a few more months left to live Smiley Sad
He has been moved into a palliative care hospital where he can get much needed care. As the days go on he gets a little bit worse. He still has his good days and his bad days, but his bad days are really bad. He can't do anything for himself anymore, he needs help putting his legs into bed, he needs help having a shower, getting changed. He has lost soo much weight he is a skeleton. 

Each day it gets harder and harder to go and see him in the hospital. I hate seeing him lay there helpless. He is 29 years of age and he doesn't have long left in this world. How the hell am I supposed to deal with something like this?

The scary thing is we both have a similar diagnosis of cancer his is just worse then mine and there is nothing to say mine will not turn terminal on time to come.

I don't know what to do anymore. I just feel like running away!!!

Re: Loosing my big brother

Hey @Talitha93 thank you so so much for sharing your story, and wow - that is a lot to take on but I do want you to know there's definitely support out there for you.

There's a couple of helplines, Griefline is open until 3am their number is 1300 845 745/(03) 9935 7400

As well as an exceptional organisation called Compassionate Friends - The Compassionate Friends Victoria (24 Hour Grief Support, 1800 641 091). Both organisations will be able to tak to you about a whole tonne of issues, and link you into further support if you need it Heart

Can I ask have you opened up to anyone nearby, a close friend or family member? There's also a couple of other services available to you to help you get through this heart ache with big bro as well as your own diagnosis.

In the meantime RO is here for a good yarn Smiley Happy ... Look forward to hearing from you.

Re: Loosing my big brother

Hey @Talitha93 - I'm really sorry to hear about your situation; I can't even imagine how hard it must be to see your brother like that while you're going through the early stages yourself...


I'd just like to add to @Bree-RO's list that there's also CanTeen, who specialise in providing support to young people with cancer (ages 12-25, same as RO), in case you might find their added expertise helpful. You can find them here:

Re: Loosing my big brother

Hey @Talitha93,


I can't even begin to imagine how much you're hurting right now. I'm so devastated to hear about what you're going through. 


I think both @Asche and @Bree-RO have suggested some really helpful resources. Have you have a chance to check them out?


We are all thinking of you and are here for when you need a chat.