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my home life could be better

i always thought my life at home was great and that when i read about people with bad parents i always thought "wow, i cant imagine that being me." but it is me. both of my parents are extremely discriminatory and i cant ever tell them about what i am for fear of being kicked out on the spot. one of my parents is extremely childish and refuses to accept when they are wrong, always getting angry instead, and thinking that nothing is ever their fault. once they overfed a pet and

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nearly killed it.

we were all pretty mad and when we confronted them they said "you should be grateful i was looking after your pet! i didnt know i was overfeeding it!" even though we've told them multiple times about the amount of food that pet can and can't take. that parent then got extremely mad and left to go sit in their room and fume. not to let off steam and come back with a clear mind, but out of pure pettiness. I can't imagine what it's like to live with parents who accept you for who you are, and understand and apologize when they do something wrong. its not that i'm mad i never realized these things, its just interesting to know that some people out there will look at me and go, wow, thank goodness my life isnt like that. my parents are nice for the most part, and i love them. i just wish i could open up to them though.

angriest_star
angriest_starPosted 20-05-2024 07:49 PM

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snazzy_pigeon
snazzy_pigeonPosted 21-05-2024 07:33 PM

Hi @angriest_star ,

The realisation that the relationship with your parents, friends etc isn't healthy can be hella rough and can make one feel more upset than some realise. Not to mention, it's even more frustrating when they don't listen. So it's incredibly valid that you feel this way. But you're so incredibly brave for coming on here and talking about it! This kind of thing takes guts to talk about so you should be really proud of yourself for coming on here and talking about it!
Is there anyone in your life that you can talk to this about? Such as a friend, another family member etc? Talking to someone could help process the realisation of all of this and help you feel less alone. They can also provide support whenever your parents aren't being nice. 
I know this won't make you feel completely better, but maybe writing letters addressed to your parents (you don't have to give it to them) can help them tell you how you feel without telling them. Writing about how you feel in general can be hella therapeutic. And of course if you do this, try and hide them or keep them in your locker at school (if you have a locker or go to school) so they don't find them. 

I hope things start turning up for you!!

 
Nymeria-RO
Nymeria-ROPosted 20-05-2024 09:42 PM

Hey @angriest_star ,

I really appreciate you for coming on and sharing how you're feeling about what's been going on at home. It sounds like you're going through a really tough time with your parents, it must be really difficult not feeling comfortable enough to open up to them, I'm wondering if you have other people in your life you feel comfortable expressing yourself with?

I understand how hard it can be living with people who can't accept when they're wrong. It sounds really frustrating trying to communicate with them only to have them not listen, and I can see how experiences like that make it difficult to open up to them. I'm curious if there's anything you find helpful when you're coping with situations like this?

From what you mentioned, I can hear you love your parents and they're nice for the most part, but feel hurt by their actions. I totally understand what a challenge it can be feeling hurt by people you love and I wanted to share this article which has some great tips for when you're arguing with family, and this one has some helpful advice for getting your parents to really listen to you.

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Looking forward to your response!

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