random things i want to get off my chest
Hi just little rant about everyday things addressed to society in general
-If I initially overreact towards something it's just me processing how unexpected it was BUT ITS NOT MY PERMENANT REACTION so please don't get rid of it until I'm given time to calm down and plan out how I'll deal with it
-PLEASE use autistic instead of 'person with autism', i know they sound similar but the second one implies autism doesn't make me human WHICH IT DOES
-PLEASE use she/her pronouns INTERCHANGEABLY when refering to me (as in call me she in one sentence then they in another)
-When I say 'I want to be left alone' IT'S NOTHING PERSONAL so please don't be annoyed or frustrated (especially if you say you're ok with it but in an annoyed or frustrated tone)
-Listening to angsty music when sad helps me feel whatever sad/anger/stress I'm feeling at the moment in its entirety to let it go. To make sure it doesn't negatively affect my day to day life I don't listen to it when happy. When you confiscate and/or shame said angsty music you take away a crucial outlet that helps me process my feelings.
-Just cos I'm autistic does NOT mean you can treat me like a child-I'm perfectly capable of understanding and doing complex things (proof: Shakespeare uses the antagonist Don Pedro in the play Much Ado about Nothing to very subtly reveal the true villainy( ie the prejudices and misogny in Messina's patriachial customs and the men who take it too seriously) of other characters in the play to suggest what is and isn't favourable in civic society)
-I am GOING TO GET EMBARRASSED if you call me 'honey' or 'sweetie' in a clothes and makeup shop full of popular, judgemental 13 year olds OK?!
-I'm an introvert which means I feel most comfortable being alone with something creative (eg drawing) or with a story (eg book or TV show). I understand most of society hates introverts so I'm doing my best to outlearn these qualities BUT ITS HARD OK?!
-NOT. EVERYONE. IS. AN. EXTROVERT.
-I don't find socialising as easy as others, there's so many unspoken rules that I'm SUPPOSSED to know but DON'T
-What may not be a big deal to you may be a big deal to me (eg loud noisy rooms)
-Before you go 'don't put so much pressure on yourself', I've functioned throughout my entire life putting pressure on myself to be quote unquote normal and tolerable so I CAN'T just magically turn off this 24/7 pressure off even if I wanted to
-Just cos I live with my parents doesn't mean I'm lazy (I would love to move out its just finances are confusing)
-I'M TRYING MY BEST TO BE A PRODUCTIVE, VALUABLE AND SANE WORKING MEMBER OF SOCIETY OK?!?!?
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Hey AcidMonster55,
These are some important things you shared.
As an introvert, I also agree with a lot of what you said. And there is nothing wrong with being an introvert. You don't have to try to become an extrovert because that's part of who you are, however I agree that gaining some confidence in socializing is an important skill. I've been trying to socialize a lot more lately. But people need to also understand that it can be so draining being around noisy people for ages.
I also agree that music can be a great way to process emotions. And music is one of the first things I go to when I'm upset and that's totally ok.
I think some people can be so prejudice. And just because someone is autistic doesn't mean they can't understand. It sounds like you really understand Shakespeare which a lot of other people can't. So I think you are so smart.
And sharing a house with your family is fine. I know so many young people that could easily move out, but when it's cheaper to live with your family, it doesn't make sense moving out. Why would you choose to pay for a property or rent a house or something like that when there is a much cheaper and easier solution? I mean, eventually it makes sense to move out, but there's no need to now. And I think a lot of people just don't understand that because they aren't in the same positions.
And you are so valuable. You don't have to try to be. Your value comes from who you are, not what you do. So keep being you and keep doing the good you are doing.
Thanks for sharing. And I hear you.
Hey @AcidMonster55
Your rant here is very valid, some of the point resonated with me a lot.
Like the unspoken rules of interacting with others, for myself I quite like playing games and drawing. Sadly, these hobbies are looked down upon as topics to talk to others. Some people would think that you are childish for saying such topic, but in the end I don't give a crap about them. Because it's my hobbies, and not theirs.
Also living with your parents is basically justified now. Like look at the price of renting or buying a house! How is a person going to be able to steadily pay for it with inflation going on right now??
We are all basically trying to survive in this society now, so we should all support each other that we can at least have some kind of companionship.
