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Hi!! I hope everyone is well.

 

Anyway, I need a job I want one too. My mother wont let me get one because she says I don't need money in high school. But I need to move out asap. My family is so overwhelming. My sister is moving out in less than a year. And my two older siblings have been moved out for four years now. I can't be here alone with my mother. My dad is great, but he works a lot. I need to get money, and somehow hide it from my mum?

 

I don't know what to do. I'm a good student so study isn't a worry, I can balance my life super well, also. So? I just. I need advice? 

 

Thank you ❤️

louie_al3x
louie_al3xPosted 27-06-2023 09:26 PM

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louie_al3x
louie_al3xPosted 23-07-2023 08:00 PM

I now have a job! my parents liked the idea of it being experiance and not money. thank u dewgog and Pho

 
dewgong
dewgongPosted 03-07-2023 05:18 PM

Hi @louie_al3x , @Pho-RO has already provided some really great support and ways you might be able to bring this issue up with your mum. I really like the idea of posing it as a way to get experience rather than money. I know that convincing your parents of something can be really difficult and sometimes they just won't see your side of things. I wanted to suggest that maybe you could discuss with your mother about doing a 'trial period'. If she is worried about your grades, perhaps you can prove to her that you would be able to balance work and school. You might tell her that if working while studying isn't working by the end of term and your grades are getting worse, then you will quit your job. It might help her to trust you and your judgement. Best of luck 🥰

 
Pho-RO
Pho-ROPosted 27-06-2023 09:54 PM

Hey @louie_al3x sounds like a tough situation. I can hear that you're frustrated by your mum's insistence that you don't get a job, and your anxiety about not being able to afford to move out when you want to. How much have you spoken to your mum about this? Perhaps you could frame it more as something to benefit you in terms of experience - it will likely be easier to get jobs in the future if you've already been working during your time at school. Stating to her that it will look good on your resume, and that you're trying to focus on building a career for yourself, might have a different impact on the conversation. Also, framing it as a statement rather than a question may help too: "I have decided to get a job" rather than "Can I get a job?" might be more definitive and leave less room for her to say no. 

 

You can check out some of our articles on work if you think it could help. In particular, we have one on Getting a Job and one on How to deal with unemployment stress. Getting a job is an important milestone for everyone, and being able to do this independently gives important experience and learnings for all. Perhaps it's also something you could talk to your dad about too?

 
 
louie_al3x
louie_al3xPosted 27-06-2023 10:04 PM

Thanks @Pho-RO

My mum's a teacher, so she says i cant have a job cause i'll "ruin my grades" but i've been able to stay on top of everything, even with going out with friends almost every day. She knows I'm a good student, but i havent brought up how good it would be for building a carrer. I might try that tip of phrasing too. It could be easier to get my dad on board too, then have him help me!!

 

Thank you so much! 

 
 
 
Pho-RO
Pho-ROPosted 27-06-2023 10:17 PM

Sounds like a good plan @louie_al3x  - let us know how you go!

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