Hi @Mango_Dove ,
Hi Mango_dove,
That is a really tough one since there is no such thing as… stereotypically gay in my mind…but I know what you mean. Most of my friends (and myself) who are queer, all present very differently and go about seeking friends and partners in very different ways.
Some people are more subtle and prefer to be friends with others before disclosing their interest or preference. Some are more direct and just say it outright at the start when meeting someone they are interested in. I don’t think there is any “best” method.
The best advice I can give you is, look at yourself and the way you interact with people now. If you prefer to be straightforward with people in your day to day life, go with that. If you are more shy, perhaps wait till you get to know someone before talking to them about your feelings.
Also don’t be afraid to call yourself whatever label you want (or use no label), it’s okay to change this at any time. No one who’s your friend will judge you if you change your mind on what you prefer later.
But don't put pressure on yourself to know 100% of who you are or what you like right away. I didn't come out to my family until I was in my early 20's!
