@leles_arah I just wanted to say that I feel like anger gets a bad rap sometimes - people tend to think of it as a negative emotion, but a lot of good things come out of anger - people get angry about injustices in the world and that's how we end up with really positive change.
Sometimes things aren't right, or people wrong us, and it's normal to feel anger about that - anger itself isn't a problem, I think it's more how we express it that can cause issues.
When you said you found out that your mum was withholding a letter from your dad, I think that would be a time when a lot of people might feel angry or hurt - how did that make you feel, and were you able to tell your mum how you felt about it?
When you say you 'snap and get so mad' - I'm wondering what that's like for you, and how that happens? Eg. is it a fast process, or does it happen when the other person does or says certain things? Are there times when you feel angry and you're able to talk it through with the other person and it feels positive or productive? If so, I'm wondering what's different about those times?
Sorry that was a lot of questions!
I notice myself when I get angry about something, it helps me a lot not to respond straight away.
I've realised that I need some time and space alone to think about what I'm feeling and what's upset me, before I deal with talking to the other person.
If I can get that, then I'm more likely to be able to explain what I'm feeling without snapping if that makes sense.
Everyone is different in what they need, but I'm wondering if you've noticed anything that helps you to express your anger in ways that feel less stressful for you?
