hi @Mango_Dove first of all, happy pride month to you!! 🧡 It sounds like you have been reflecting a lot and exploring your identity, which can be really joyful but also confusing and stressful. I will give you my thoughts but just know you can take or leave any of them depending on whether it resonates with you or not. I would say being bi vs being a lesbian exists on a spectrum and being a lesbian doesn't have to be an absolute thing at all! I know some people who identify as lesbian even though they are still sometimes attracted to guys, because they just prefer to focus on their love for women and don't really see themselves ending up with a guy. And I personally identify as bi (and aroace) even though I've only been attracted to a handful of people in my life and they were always girls/feminine people, because I feel my heart is always open to any possibilities! So what I'm trying to say is there's not a hard line between them and my advice would be to choose whatever makes you feel more happy and comfortable.
You can try spending a bit of time identifying as one or the other, just in your head or just to a close friend, and see if it feels good or not. For example when I'm trying a label on, I like to use the flag colours in my life, read books/watch shows with characters with that identity, and spend some time looking at the online community for that identity.
I hope that helps a bit and keep us updated on your journey 😊
