Hello @Genderthief
There's plenty that you can do to appear more feminine! Since I'm not sure exactly what your goal is, I'll suggest a few things that I feel would make a difference but not in an explicitly noticeable way.
A good start that wouldn't arouse much suspicion from others but can certainly give a more feminine look and feel would be to focus on grooming. So much of the 'feminine' appearance comes not from the fashion but from grooming habits :
- Showering often while using feminine shampoos and soaps as opposed to the 3 in 1 products targeted at men. This alone can make a subtle difference.
- You can also try hair removal wherever you feel comfortable. Minimal body hair has strong feminine associations. On the topic of hair, you can also groom your eyebrows: cleaning up stray hairs by plucking to define your natural shape (you can try accentuating an eyebrow arch if you want to take it a step further but i'd reccomned doing that professionally).
- Skin care: I've heard from others in a similar situation that using moisturizer or serums is a good way to brighten and soften your skin for a more feminine complexion and is unlikely to draw any attention. Makeup is a great way to highlight your femininity if you are comfortable and you can experiement with some natural looks, however in my experience it can attact some attention.
- How about trying some feminine scents? I already mentioned soaps but you can also try female targeted deoderants and maybe even a hint of perfume. Too much perfume will be noticeable but a small amount will allow it to be just for you and only noticeable if someone were to hug you. (probably something worth trying if you want to quietly introduce your femininity to others)
- After all that you can also consider wearing feminine colours or fabrics. I don't feel like colours really have a gender but statistically speaking, softer colours tend to give off more of a feminine vibe than brigter colours.
Of course there is more you can do to build upon these when you are ready but as with everything, the more you do the more it is likely to draw some kind of attention. As @Iona_RO pointed out, other people's opions don't matter. But I understand that they can still have an influence and you should be able to feel comfortable experimenting at your own pace without the pressure.
I wish you all the best! 🤗
