@warrior_cmr wow that is a really rough break up by the sounds of it - the dishonesty in particular is pretty heartbreaking. I can totally empathise with how distraught you are feeling, especially as it sounds like you were really willing to fight for this relationship but he seems to have given up. And yeah whether it's something related to attachment trauma is hard to say, though it very well could be. Whether that means that something might change down the track... Holding onto hope like that can be a double edged sword, because you don't want to let go of that love but also it can make it very hard to move on.
Speaking of, you say you feel you 'should just get over it', but I just wanna gently remind you that these things take time - and that length of time is gonna be different for everyone. Give yourself permission to be in the sadness for a while, if you can. Trying to rush this process can sometimes lead to repressing feelings instead of processing them, and stuff we repress almost always comes back, and can bite us pretty bad.
We can never know whether or not someone might come around - sounds like he has a lot of stuff to work through and holding out for that could take a while, years even. That is a long time to be holding on. Perhaps right now is a good time to focus on you and your needs, and seek out some extra supports to help you process. It's okay to be a big mess right now and need a few extra shoulders to lean on 💖
