Hey @Clover_367
I just wanted to jump in after reading your post. I am sorry to hear that you are going through this, break ups are certainly very difficult to experience and I am really glad that you have been able to reach out for some support during this time - it isn't easy to do and takes a lot of courage so you should be really proud of yourself for taking that step.
How you are feeling today after sharing this with us?
I can hear how much of a tough time it has been for you the past week and I just want you to know that it is very understandable and normal to be feeling this way. Break ups aren't easy for anyone and it is okay to be feeling this way. Being with someone for 2 years is a long time and it is very understandable that they would have become a big part of your life and your identity so feeling the way you do is very normal and it is okay to be feeling this way.
I wanted to highlight the amount of strength you have shown in your post. It sounds like even through such a tough time, you are able to remain respectful of the decision, and are trying really hard to navigate through such a tough time. It sounds like you have been trying to find really positive ways of coping and healing by spending time with family and friends, focusing on you, your hobbies and listening to self-love podcasts. Even by reaching out on the forums shows just how hard you are trying and highlights how strong you are. You should be really proud of yourself for taking all of these steps and for prioritising your own wellbeing.
It is important to remember that healing does take time, and it is not always linear. Breakups also look different for everyone, so whilst it is great that you are listening to other peoples experiences, remember that we all deal with things differently and that our healing processes are all unique. There will be good and bad days - which is okay and very normal. But continuing to focus on you, and using these positive strategies are already really great things to be doing.
I know you mentioned that you have been spending time with family and friends which is really great to hear. I was curious about whether you have been able to talk to them about what you're going through or whether you have any other supports that you can speak to like a GP or mental health professional? It is important to remember that you don't have to deal with this alone and that you deserve all the supports available to you.
I wanted to share this thread with you about heartbreak which I thought you may find helpful to have a look through. It was a previous event we had with a psychologist where we had to chat to hear about change, and boundaries.
Also, if you feel comfortable sharing, I would love to hear what some of your hobbies are, or what kind of things have been helpful for you?
Take care and we hope to hear back from you soon.💜
