Hey @Finn_the_Human
It’s completely understandable that you are feeling a sense of grief/loss. Coming to terms with your sexuality often means letting go/drastically changing the future you imagined. Society seems to put a heap of value on romantic and sexual relationships so it can be hard to go against it.
I don’t think that you’ll have to do it alone if you don’t want to. It really depends on what you comfortable with. It is entirely possible to have a healthy relationship as an aro-ace person if you so desire, but it is completely okay if you’re not interested. Friendships can be just as special and rewarding as any romantic relationships.
You are a valued part of the LGBT+ community and I’m sorry that people have treated you like you are not. You might not get the stereotypical ‘happily ever after’ that you pictured, but you will get one unique to you. Who knows, it might even be better. You will find people that love you as you are and that wouldn’t want you any other way. It’s an overwhelming shift in the way you perceived your life so in time it will feel more normal.
I don’t know if you like anime but there’s a few that have aro/ace characters. I’m sure there would be a bunch of other media as well with aro/ace people. It might be a way to feel less alone.
