Hey @WorkingOnIt110 ,
Thank you for sharing on here, it definitely sounds like a difficult and upsetting situation. It’s never a fun time to lose someone close to you. I have definitely been in the same position as you, as someone who had multiple guy friends whom I considered close and once they got into relationships they often distanced themselves or cut me off due to their partners.
This was something difficult and saddening to me at the time but since then, I have a different perspective on those situations. You should understand that him not speaking to you has nothing to do with you as a person, and these situations generally come about from insecurities within the relationship or the girlfriend in this instance. Coming from experience, it can be challenging and uncomfortable sometimes to see your partner being so close to other people who they may see as a ‘threat’ to their relationship.
This obviously is upsetting as you guys were so close and I’m sure he is also feeling upset about the situation. There really isn’t anything you can do in this position other than remember it is not about you or your character that led him to distancing himself. It is not your fault at all, and I encourage you to not blame yourself as this doesn’t seem like you had any fault in the situation or their relationship.
This is something that him and his girlfriend should discuss and work out together, perhaps if she was to take a healthier approach and get to know you as a person, it could be more reassuring for her.
It is definitely strange that his best friend didn’t know he was engaged either. Did you hear from anyone else that they’ve gotten engaged ? It is a bit of a weird situation if no one else has the knowledge of them being engaged 😕
Hopefully I’ve been able to help you in any way, by seeing things from a different perspective !
