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thanks everyone for all your help on this so far. recently things became even worse for my friend. they saw that finding out i am audhd helped me get to a good place and they related to my experience so they sought out a diagnosis. they didn't get the diagnosis they were after though and the psych thought their problems were due to trauma. my friend did NOT agree with this and can NOT accept they have trauma. this has them very upset and they have twisted the psych's words into meaning they have incurable depression that will never ever get better. they were in crisis and i got their consent to call MH CALL, but when MH CALL contacted them and tried to help them, my friend would not speak to them and had her partner tell them she was safe and didn't want to talk. twice i talked to my friend's partner about how worried i am and it just feels like neither he nor my friend realise what a serious situation it is that needs urgent care. my friend tells me repeatedly they are safe and they do NOT want a welfare check because they are afraid of being taken somewhere like a hospital.

i'm totally at a loss and it's becoming hard to even talk to my friend. i am the only person they talk to other than their partner. they have started to get angry at me when i try to say comforting words. to be honest, i get angry too. i step away when i get angry though, as i don't want to say anything rash and i know they're not trying to hurt me. but it hurts my feelings when they dismiss my words and basically act like the reason i was able to get better is because my mental health problem wasn't as bad as theirs and not because i worked hard and went through hell to get better.