Hey @lemurien
Thanks for the update. I’m really sorry to hear that things turned out the way they did. It can be really hard to not get the diagnosis you related to, and their response is not uncommon by any means. It sounds like you’re trying hard to help them. You’re a great friend. Unfortunately, it is now up to them. They get to choose. I have no doubt you’ll keep encouraging them, but it can be really hard to watch people you care about self-destruct. I really hope they choose to get the help they need. It takes a lot of strength to step away and manage your feelings. Are you coping, okay? Please prioritise your wellbeing as well. It becomes easy to resent the other person if you don’t set boundaries that protect your wellbeing. You really can’t effectively help people if you’re burnt out. Have you been able to talk to anyone about what’s been happening?
I’m sorry that they’ve been dismissive about your mental health problems. From another audhder, it really is hell recovering and takes so much energy. Your struggles are completely valid. Sometimes people want a reason for not getting better and don’t want to accept that it just takes a lot of work, energy, and time to recover. Having the belief that you have incurable depression is a pretty good basis for not trying to get better. What’s the point of trying to fix something that can’t be fixed? But in reality, even if depression is incurable, it is still possible to improve your situation.
