Hi @Blueberries
It sounds like you are going through some challenges at the moment. And you know what you don't have to change for anyone and shouldn't feel like you have to.
I often like to think it's not worth it if I have to change myself for a person to make them happy. Sometimes people don't realise their behaviour and actions can make them upset until you step back and walk away, this is particular for people you are and have been close with.
Also sometimes people say and do hurtful things to get a reaction out of you, sometimes taking a deep breath and even staring at them blankly can stop them from saying the hurtful things in the future when they realise you are not going to react the way they want you to. You can always walk away as well if need to.
You don't have to change yourself and can still even take it personally if need be but you are not giving them the reaction they want and can create boundaries for them to stop.
