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hi i'm 15 and my pronouns are she/her. i have a beautiful boyfriend i have been with for nearly 7 months (in a week). i love him more than anything and our love is very mutual. since before we even started dating, he would isolate himself a lot causing myself to have panic attacks because i thought i'd messed up and made him feel really down. i recently did some research and it sounds like my boyfriend has been having depressive episodes as a part of bipolar disorder. they come out of nowhere and before i did my research i thought he was just sick of me suddenly or that he just stopped loving me or wanted to break up. i have never had so many panic attacks in such a short period of time. he knew i was having more panic attacks and when he came out of his episodes he felt so so bad and it really confused me because he wanted to change but wouldn't (i now know that really he couldn't) anyways he has a lot of bipolar symptoms and his mum has diagnosed bipolar. when i try to help him through his episodes i just make it worse no matter how i approach. it hurts because all i want to do is be there for him and i'm usually really good at supporting people but nothing i say helps. it's like he just wants to stay in that low state and not get any help. i know he wants it to be better but he can't see how to make that happen. i just feel so bad for all the times ive pushed him to communicate with me and made him feel worse or made it about me. i just wish i could make it better. so my question is how can i help him when he is in a depressive episode? if i give him space he might feel like i just don't care about him so how do i show him im there for him if nothing i say helps anyway? im really looking for any advice, i really love him and want our relationship to work out.