Hi @utgard,
It’s nice to hear from you again, and thank you for sharing your experience so openly with the community. It’s clear that you’re navigating a complex and challenging situation with your family, and it’s understandable that you’re feeling confused about where to go from here.
Having your parents affirm your identity as an aromantic pansexual transman is clearly and understandably very important to you. At the same time, it's equally understandable that you’re feeling unsure about coming out to them, especially given their negative views towards men.
One approach that might be helpful for making this decision could be to make a pros and cons list for coming out to your parents. Sometimes writing down the potential benefits and drawbacks can help bring some clarity to your decision-making process. Would this be something you might like to try?
Do you have any supportive friends or family members who might be able to support you through this decision or the coming-out process? Having someone in your corner who affirms your identity could be helpful as you navigate this situation.
If you would be interested in exploring other avenues for support, Qlife provides support to individuals that are LGBTQIA+ and may be worth checking out. They are available via chat or phone from 3pm-12am every day of the week.
Take care 🌻
