Hi @Green_Ghost
I think this such a great post that we can all gain valuable insight from 🙂
The best piece of advice I've ever received is the quote I stumbled upon on Pinterest ( I'm a Pinterest type of gal) "
"I'm slowly learning that even it I react, it won't change anything, it won't make people suddenly love and respect me, it won't magically change their minds. Sometimes It's better to just let things be, let people go, don't fight for closure, don't ask for explanations, don't chase answers and don't expect people to understand where you're coming from. It's not worth your mental health"
Growing up in an abusive environment, I've lived through a lot of gaslighting, manipulation, and psychological abuse, especially from my mum. But this quote was a wake-up call, making me realise that my reactions and efforts won't change others' behaviour or earn me the love and respect I deserve.
This advice has been liberating, teaching me to:
- Let go of the need for closure and understanding from toxic individuals
- Prioritise my mental health and well-being above all else
- Practice self-care and self-compassion, which has become my lifeline
- Recognise that I deserve love and respect, regardless of others' actions
- Focus on my own healing and growth, rather than trying to change others
It's still a daily struggle, but this advice has helped me slowly break free from the cycle of hurt and abuse. I'm learning to channel my energy into self-love and self-acceptance, rather than seeking it from those who have consistently failed to provide it. Remember, your mental health is worth fighting for – not with others, but for yourself.
