Hi @Spring_Weasel17 ,
Thank you for sharing how you are feeling around your guy best friend talking to another girl. It can be quite an overwhelming to think that you could be losing a friendship or that he is showing more attention to someone else. It is also very normal for those feelings of jealousy to arise, it shows that you both love and care about him.
Your original decision to not start a relationship right after his previous one ended, is highly commendable. It means you were confident enough in yourself to recognise and prioritise your needs at the time. It seems as though those feelings towards him may have changed slightly which again is very common as we spend more time with people and develop closer bonds.
I think you should have an open and honest conversation with him about how you feel, explaining why you originally chose to hold off on committing to a relationship and that you are more mentally and physically prepared now. I would not mention your jealousy around him talking to another girl at this stage as it could come across as a bit controlling, particularly because you are not in a formal relationship yet. If however, after your conversation with him you both decide to take your friendship to the next level and you notice the frequency of his contact with her doesn't change, that would be a good time to bring it up.
I hope this little bit of advice helps and remember to take care of yourself 💜
