Thank you for your reply!! Those are definitely good ideas as they are extremely similar to what my therapist and support group have reccomended to me!! I am doing very well at telling him about my feelings even when I know it's challenging, and it's led to this relationship feeling very deeply safe and affirming for me. I've always known I've needed to be nice to myself and I'm finally learning and understanding how to actually do that. It's definitely helping a little already but it's baby steps,,
My biggest area for improvement is definitely with engaging with my hobbies and knowing when I need to set boundaries. I mentioned in a previous post that it's pretty impossible to keep up with my friends an hobbies as I'm finding even the things I enjoy so overwhelming that I shut down. I try to at least attempt to send someone a message every day and try drawing even if it's only for 10 minutes. Last night I used my sketchbook for the first time in a week so I'm very happy about that.
I think im doing ok with boundaries at the moment, but I'm going to look for extra support to make sure I have somewhere to talk about our relationship regularly and make sure I don't cross any lines. The temptation to make my entire life revolve around him is still strong but I am making it work!!
