Hi @Aggie2098
Thank you for your vulnerability. I can sense your pain and self-doubt as you process this betrayal. I think it is of worth noting that your intentions were to provide for your future travel plans which included your then significant other. You decided to prioritise the longevity of the relationship over what you refer to as living in the moment. You then decided to follow in her footsteps and within a three week time frame she had cheated on you. I would like you to think for a moment on whether it is reasonable to cheat on your partner following a mutual agreement on a long-distance relationship. I'd also like to ask you to take a moment for yourself during this difficult and heart-shattering time and consider what attributes you value in a partner to feel safe, loved, seen, and respected (and whether this partner embodied those traits).
Please be gentle with yourself. You do not deserve this betrayal, it is not your fault. Cheating is an act of selfishness which terminates trust and respect, all of which a relationship stands on. The community is here to support you through this difficult time 🤗
How have you been managing these feelings for the past few days? Do you have any new thoughts? Looking forward to hearing from you!
